enchanted771 Posted July 5, 2020 Share Posted July 5, 2020 Don’t get why it’s so hard..my birthday got ruined so never again. The weekend started off good enough.. it was my birthday. Everything was fine until his obnoxious friend drove us home. His friend was going to leave and he asks him to come in. Then he demands I go to bed. I was tired so I would have gone anyways but he pointed to the bedroom and then when I told him I would go in a little while he told me to go the f to bed. He didn’t get that I was upset because he disrespected me not so much because he wanted to chill with his boy. Then he acts like he has been so nice to me as if he is doing me a favor. He knows I have abandonment issue but he says it’s not his issue. Then of course he talks s*** to his friends who take his side so he makes me out to be the bad guy. He was extremely intoxicated and I was trying to express how he hurt me but he wouldn’t acknowledge my feelings at all. Kept saying I’m selfish, want all his time etc. All he kept talking about was everything I did for him and how he included me in his life. Then he kept saying I was being too emotional and he couldn’t deal with it. I had a right to be angry with him. He acted like he was doing me a favor. If I’m wrong I’ll be the first to admit it, but he was being really mean and cruel and then acts like he has been so nice to me like he has been doing me a favor. I have forgiven him and he has done some real s***ty things to me. Link to post Share on other sites
Ellener Posted July 5, 2020 Share Posted July 5, 2020 Sorry you are having a bad time. I would not like a man who talked to me that way either. Link to post Share on other sites
mortensorchid Posted July 6, 2020 Share Posted July 6, 2020 That's bad. What's also bad is that people tend to blame their bad behavior on drugs/alcohol. To that I say b*******. Even if that was true, why do they do it so often? Because they hate themselves and it makes them feel good to rip into others. The older I get I understand this more - you don't want to be around others because you've been through it all with others and find out how bad people really are. Sometimes the only good time you can have is by yourself and that's best really. You may be lonely at times but that's okay, it's better than having to be with people who aren't respectful of you / others. And I have some tales of those who ended up / are having / will have sad, lonely lives ahead of them because of how they have treated others. Link to post Share on other sites
Author enchanted771 Posted July 6, 2020 Author Share Posted July 6, 2020 8 hours ago, mortensorchid said: That's bad. What's also bad is that people tend to blame their bad behavior on drugs/alcohol. To that I say b*******. Even if that was true, why do they do it so often? Because they hate themselves and it makes them feel good to rip into others. The older I get I understand this more - you don't want to be around others because you've been through it all with others and find out how bad people really are. Sometimes the only good time you can have is by yourself and that's best really. You may be lonely at times but that's okay, it's better than having to be with people who aren't respectful of you / others. And I have some tales of those who ended up / are having / will have sad, lonely lives ahead of them because of how they have treated others. Yes...it’s going to be rough for a few days but after I have had no contact and removed the toxic person, I will feel whole again. He will always have friends who take his side so he will always play the victim. I tried explaining things to him in a way he might be able to comprehend, but he wasn’t getting it and called it bull**** and kept saying the same thins over and over “take care” “I will be moving forward” bla bla bla. He is totally narcissistic. He knows I’ll react to that, and in the past I apologized and took responsibility to save the friendship he wanted to end because I stood up for what I believed in. So unless I agree with him, apologize, beg etc he doesn’t want to be friends. He wants me to suffer and realize my “loss” and after I beg and plead and admit it was my fault, he will talk to me again. He also uses everything he ever did against me, because since he did so much he is a great guy with a heart bla bla. So that makes it ok to talk to me like sh** in front of his friend? Even his friend said something to him. He is the only one out of all his friends who isn’t married or in a relationship. He attracts mentally unstable women, then bashes them. Well, a mentally unhealthy person won’t attract a healthy person. Maybe in the beginning but then the true colors will come out pretty fast. I even told him the other night that he is an alcoholic and needs help. And he also uses an excessive amount of weed..in any case, I won’t be forgiving him, taking his calls/texts if he tries to reach out, etc. I am sick of getting hurt and him not giving a sh** about anyone’s feelings but his own. Link to post Share on other sites
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