spiritedaway2003 Posted July 7, 2020 Share Posted July 7, 2020 (edited) 20 minutes ago, rjc149 said: The OP's ex simply being polite, but being totally and utterly uninterested in having any interaction or connection to her ex, in a possibility. I believe it's a much smaller possibility than other reasons, which I feel are more likely. If the OP is asking "why would she send birthday wishes?" concluding that "she's just being polite, it means nothing, forget it, she has no interest" is just as personally assumptive. I think 2 months of no contact later, her curiosity and interest has gone back up, and she's dipping her toe in the water. "Where has he been? What has he been up to? Does he still have feelings for me? Why has he been so silent?" The OP then sent a somewhat apologetic and needy reply. So she got her answer. Yep, temperature is still warm, he's still there. Getting her answer, she moved on. Hence, why in the future, a better response would be a simple "thanks." I agree. People’s viewpoints can be different and it is ok. I am a woman. I might reach out to an ex to say happy birthday because I still care about him on some level. Whether that action is wise is a separate and debatable question. I don’t have any burning desire to wish someone a happy birthday “just to be nice”. Not saying that’s not a nice gesture, but it’s not enough of a motivation in and of itself. This does not mean that she wants to get back together, so the advice of a “thanks” is a good one. Just my 2 cents. Edited July 7, 2020 by spiritedaway2003 2 Link to post Share on other sites
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