Dididi Posted July 10, 2020 Share Posted July 10, 2020 I have broken up with my ex some weeks ago now. I have wrote before about if I would fight for the relationship or leave it. in the end I decided to leave the relationship because it hurted to much. he was surprised but he just left. I have not heard from him since then. A few days after the break up his Mother called me that she fells sorry and she didnt expect it. She saw he was very hurt. I told her i was doing ok and it is for the best. He never used to post a lot on social media but since the break up he posts everyday (happy things, new job, travels). I decided after a while to delete him of all my social media because it hurted me. After a few days the girlfriend of his best friend contacted me. She said that he loved me a lot and he is just too proud. She also asked me if I didnt think we could get back together. I told her probably not. Then she wanted to meet me (coming sunday she is coming over to have a lunch with me). we didnt have very good contact but well, she is a Nice girl so I thought why not. and now meanwhile he is still posting on social media how happy he is with his new life. i dont understand anything. Hé is acting so out of carácter. His friends want to meet me, and he doesnt give me any sign of life. What do you think about this weird situation? I would Love some advice as i still try to get over the whole situation.. thank you again!! besos Didi Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted July 10, 2020 Share Posted July 10, 2020 Stop looking at his social media. What you don't know can't be a source of concern for you. Unless you independently want to be friends with his best friend's GF, cancel your lunch with her. If the only thing you have in common is the guys, the whole lunch will be about them. You don't need that 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Dididi Posted July 10, 2020 Author Share Posted July 10, 2020 1 minute ago, d0nnivain said: Stop looking at his social media. What you don't know can't be a source of concern for you. Unless you independently want to be friends with his best friend's GF, cancel your lunch with her. If the only thing you have in common is the guys, the whole lunch will be about them. You don't need that Thanks for your response. I really try to do that, i deleted everthing. My best friend saw his post and asked me why he is acting so weird. Like he is living his best life. only Thing I can see now is his playlist on spotify (because i Can’t delete it for some reason, tried it multiple times, but we share it) hè puts sad songs on there about break ups. i was just wondering why hè does that, is he trying to get my attention? Put his friends for him to see how i am doing? He want to get back with me in some sort of weird way? Link to post Share on other sites
TeddyBundy1993 Posted July 10, 2020 Share Posted July 10, 2020 Well he surely is pretending as, his mother and friends tell you a different story. But you dont need to pay attention to what hes doing anyway. Since you realized the relationship is not worth for a long run. You should dissociate yourself with this man. As you clearly seems to be attached to him. And its completely natural. Yes I believe he is trying to get your attention. With his mother calling you up and best friends girl all of sudden coming over for a dinner is a sign. You should stay clear of anything that belongs to him atleast for. If I was you I wouldn't meet this girl at all. You should heal for yourself. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Dididi Posted July 10, 2020 Author Share Posted July 10, 2020 9 minutes ago, TeddyBundy1993 said: Well he surely is pretending as, his mother and friends tell you a different story. But you dont need to pay attention to what hes doing anyway. Since you realized the relationship is not worth for a long run. You should dissociate yourself with this man. As you clearly seems to be attached to him. And its completely natural. Yes I believe he is trying to get your attention. With his mother calling you up and best friends girl all of sudden coming over for a dinner is a sign. You should stay clear of anything that belongs to him atleast for. If I was you I wouldn't meet this girl at all. You should heal for yourself. Thank your for your answer. I just wanted to know if he tríes to get my attention in a very weird and for me childiss way and that if the girl (the girlfriend of his best friend) just want to see if I am still willing to be with him. Because if so, maybe its for the best of my interess to just cancell the meeting with her and move on with my life (i am already doing that). and leave him living ‘his best life’. i just hope hè doesnt try to get me back later on because it still hurts me that It didnt work out. Link to post Share on other sites
TeddyBundy1993 Posted July 10, 2020 Share Posted July 10, 2020 10 minutes ago, Dididi said: i just hope hè doesnt try to get me back later on because it still hurts me that It didnt work out. Well then no point in meeting this girl this soon. Because she will definitely bring up your ex and other things which might hurt you. Be easy on yourself, you surely need friends to talk but this girl is taking interest in your life all of sudden. You think about yourself only now from here, what he does is his life you arent responsible for his weird actions Link to post Share on other sites
Goodguy05 Posted July 11, 2020 Share Posted July 11, 2020 (edited) Easy answer - trying to make you jealous Bet you he is the total opposite to what he portrays guarantee it. He is most likely the opposite people that are genuinely happy don't have a need to let the world know Edited July 11, 2020 by Goodguy05 Link to post Share on other sites
kendahke Posted July 11, 2020 Share Posted July 11, 2020 (edited) 3 hours ago, Dididi said: What do you think about this weird situation? His friends are all his friends, not your friends. Their loyalty is with him. None of them have any business putting their noses in your life or trying to talk you back into something you know isn't going to work out in the long run. Keep them out of your business, block them from seeing you social media and stop interacting with them. They do not have your best interests in mind. I agree with D0nnivain--cancel the lunch with his boy's girlfriend... she's doing reconnaissance for your ex. She's not there for you. Edited July 11, 2020 by kendahke Link to post Share on other sites
kendahke Posted July 11, 2020 Share Posted July 11, 2020 (edited) 3 hours ago, Dididi said: My best friend saw his post and asked me Tell your best friend to not mention him to you anymore. If she acts like she can't respect that, then rethink your friend because she's not putting your best interests before her own amusement. Quote Like he is living his best life. That's called "faking it til you make it". No one posts their misery and depression on social media ever. They post only the positive stuff and the highlights of their lives. Edited July 11, 2020 by kendahke 2 Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted July 11, 2020 Share Posted July 11, 2020 Social media is about putting your best foot forward & saving face. It is a place to pretend you have an enviable life. Two things if you & him broke up your BFF also needs to delete him. You were their link & if you two are done, she has no business staying connected to them. If she's unwilling to disconnect from him, you need to ask yourself why she's choosing your EX over you if she is your friend. In addition she & everybody else around you need to stop talking you about him. If they care about you they won't bring a bad subject to your attention Link to post Share on other sites
ShyViolet Posted July 11, 2020 Share Posted July 11, 2020 Stop worrying about what he is posting on social media, and tell your best friend to stop telling you what he posts on his social media. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
lana-banana Posted July 11, 2020 Share Posted July 11, 2020 When I was dumped by my Worst Ex I had a ton of his friends contacting me saying they couldn't believe it, that we had to get back together, that he didn't mean it, that he just needed time and he'd reach out, etc...none of it amounted to anything. You have no idea what is going on in his head no matter what his friends say. Keep it moving and try not to give him a second thought unless he contacts you. Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted July 11, 2020 Share Posted July 11, 2020 (edited) His social media could be to make you jealous - or it could be 'fake it till you make it'. Either is plausible. It's unlikely he realises that you're seeing his Spotify songs, so I suspect he's listening to breakup songs because he wants to. The whole reason breakup songs exist is because people relate to them. I agree that you should not see his friends or discuss anything about your ex with them. Likewise, your BFF needs to keep her thoughts on him to herself. Edited July 11, 2020 by basil67 Link to post Share on other sites
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