usa1ah Posted July 24, 2020 Share Posted July 24, 2020 I am going to agree with most. Why are the two of you getting married with so many issues? She is a mean drunk, that is the real person underneath coming out. Being drunk doesn’t change who we are, it loosens the ties we have on what we try to hide. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Johnson1 Posted July 27, 2020 Author Share Posted July 27, 2020 On 7/17/2020 at 2:32 AM, ExpatInItaly said: Have there been trust issues in the past? I just wonder why your mind immediately connected the dots between her good mood and this man asking her to have lunch. Maybe they are related, and maybe not. I don't think you have enough information yet to conclude there's something amiss. It could indeed be working lunch without a romantic undertone. You detecting a submissive tone in her voice seems a bit of reach, more a product of seeing all of this through a filter of fear and anxiety. Has she been inappropriate with other men before? Yes, there's been trust issues for both of us. Yes, it's probably just a working relationship. I just don't understand the necessity of meeting someone for lunch and ahe won't give me a valid answer. She lied again about though. First she told me he didn't ask her out to lunch, then this weekend after another drunken argument she said he did ask her. Sje prides herself on her integrity and how she'd never jeopardize her position to screw around. I just don't understand why she told me he didn't whwn he did and why the secrecy and the 'its none of your business' attitude. She played dumb like she didn't know which vendor I was talking about because apparently some other vendor called her recently. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted July 27, 2020 Share Posted July 27, 2020 A man asking her to lunch is different then meeting for lunch to discuss business. The latter is a valid tried & true method of commerce. The former is a date. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Johnson1 Posted July 27, 2020 Author Share Posted July 27, 2020 I think she says stuff out of anger. Not being mature. Not because I think she'd mess around. I'm pretty certain she wouldn't, but with chance meetings (even if it is strictly business) you never know. She told me this guy us a younger guy who's married with kids. Don't know how true that is since she shuts me down, gets agry and turns the tables on me when I bring it up. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted July 27, 2020 Share Posted July 27, 2020 Business is conducted over scheduled meetings not chance meetings. Her lack of maturity, her anger & her drinking aren't helping. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
usa1ah Posted July 28, 2020 Share Posted July 28, 2020 9 hours ago, Vocals5 said: I think she says stuff out of anger. Not being mature. Not because I think she'd mess around. I'm pretty certain she wouldn't, but with chance meetings (even if it is strictly business) you never know. She told me this guy us a younger guy who's married with kids. Don't know how true that is since she shuts me down, gets agry and turns the tables on me when I bring it up. Famous words of a betrayed spouse “They would never cheat”. Everyone believes this completely until the real truth hits them between the eyes. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
usa1ah Posted July 28, 2020 Share Posted July 28, 2020 Cheaters get angry, deflect, turn the tables and the list goes on. They always do what your fiancé is doing when questioned about things that look shady. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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