Bianca_26 Posted July 17, 2020 Share Posted July 17, 2020 So my younger sister drove me nuts today.Today she was trying to find the tv remote and I get a text while Im driving for work. My bf answered my phone for me and put it on speaker, she asks me where the remote was and he told her to look “inside the couch”. Her remark was to immediately go: “Inside the couch?” Bf: “Yes, inside the couch, like the cushions and stuff.” Me: “The last place I saw it was on the couch.” Her: “Ugh well you guys are no help, Ive already looked there.” *Hangs up abruptly* Not an hour later I get a long text that reads: “Bro we can’t find the remote and can’t use the tv and can’t even use the google chrome because this tv doesn’t support it. I think it’s just really rude too that your BF told me yeah it’s in the couch like I’m an idiot sorry I’m not the one that lost it but damn second hand comments like that are already hard hearing from you let alone your significant other I know this isn’t a big deal but that s*** didn’t sit right with me just think it’s really inconsiderate of you to just say “it’s in the couch” like s*** what if I was looking for it for grand dad me and Vanessa tore the living room apart and couldn’t find it. Idk I’m just hurt that you and ur bf always have to say a comment to me like I’m stupid and I already know I am but I don’t have to hear it from both of you. “ Long story short I ended up pulling over to facetime her to walk her through looking for the tv remote. Sure enough it was under the couch. Im not sure how to go about making her realize that she needs to grow up. Is there a way to make her mature? At 22 you shouldnt need help looking for a tv remote that no one knew was lost because the cable remote turns the TV on just the same as the one that came with tv. I just worry that she’ll let her mental health get the best of her. She had been severely depressed years before, I thought she was getting better, but when stuff like this happens it makes me worry that she wont be responsible. Link to post Share on other sites
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted July 17, 2020 Share Posted July 17, 2020 The crux of this argument is this statement from her: "I’m stupid and I already know I am but I don’t have to hear it from both of you.." Why does she feel this way about herself? It's going to influence all of her relationships, not just the one she has with you. Maybe look for ways to help her reverse this negative talk/thinking about herself. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Bianca_26 Posted July 17, 2020 Author Share Posted July 17, 2020 I know. It worries me... Any ideas on how I could help? Im leaving in a couple weeks and dont like that she thinks this way about herself. She was bullied a lot in school and I think she’s carried it into her adult life. Link to post Share on other sites
Noproblem Posted July 18, 2020 Share Posted July 18, 2020 why would you leave your sister behind? Seems she will be in trouble if you leave. Link to post Share on other sites
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