Rcook216 Posted July 19, 2020 Share Posted July 19, 2020 Me and my ex were messaging back and forth. The last message he sent was this: "Hitting the "reset button", while taking the chance at a "true friendship", "in time". Can anyone tell me what this means? I didn't reply and haven't herd from him in 2 weeks. I think he blocked my phone number. Link to post Share on other sites
kendahke Posted July 19, 2020 Share Posted July 19, 2020 He's going to leave you alone for a while so you can cool down and not hold him accountable for his part in the demise of your relationship. He'll check back in with you in the future just to take your temperature to see if you're down for a FWB, but do not expect him to invest romantically in you anymore. He's moved on with the woman he's now chasing. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Realitysux Posted July 20, 2020 Share Posted July 20, 2020 (edited) When he comes back which he will, don't acknowledge him. He didn't chose you now, he left you confused. I wouldn't be angry at anyone for leading me. Men and women have a hard time finding quality partners. Don't invest any more into this person. Edited July 20, 2020 by Realitysux Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted July 20, 2020 Share Posted July 20, 2020 He's gone off to sulk. He thinks that by giving you the silent treatment when he pops back up again on his terms, he thinks you will fall into his arms no questions asked & be whatever he thinks a perfect GF will be without regard to what you want / need. Just block him & don't fall for such a petty immature manipulation 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Ruby Slippers Posted July 20, 2020 Share Posted July 20, 2020 Yeah, he's hoping that eventually you'll miss him enough that you'll let him hang around for the chance of random sex or some other diversion. Personally, I'd never go for that. You don't need this guy hanging around when you're getting a fresh start in your next relationship. Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted July 20, 2020 Share Posted July 20, 2020 What's the backstory? How long were you together and why/when did you break up? It's a bit hard to guess what he means without any context. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Rcook216 Posted July 21, 2020 Author Share Posted July 21, 2020 The back story is we were together for 2 years loved each other very much. He broke up with me saying that he need to focus on himself right now not a relationship. Our living situation is I'm living with family and he has roommates that don't let people over so we only see each other on the weekends in hotel rooms or during the week for dinner. So he told me that he will be friends with me and he won't abondon me. And when he gets his own apartment we will see how things go agian. Then 2 weeks ago he blocked me for no reason. So I send him an email asking why he blocked me and he replied with hitting the reset button for a chance at a true friendship in time. Link to post Share on other sites
Uptown182 Posted July 21, 2020 Share Posted July 21, 2020 (edited) 2 hours ago, Rcook216 said: The back story is we were together for 2 years loved each other very much. He broke up with me saying that he need to focus on himself right now not a relationship. Our living situation is I'm living with family and he has roommates that don't let people over so we only see each other on the weekends in hotel rooms or during the week for dinner. So he told me that he will be friends with me and he won't abondon me. And when he gets his own apartment we will see how things go agian. Then 2 weeks ago he blocked me for no reason. So I send him an email asking why he blocked me and he replied with hitting the reset button for a chance at a true friendship in time. As long as your messages to each other were amicable and not hostile I don’t see why he would block you and give you some bogus line about it, unless he’s seeing some new girl and doesn’t want your messages to pop up on his phone while he’s with her. Edited July 21, 2020 by Uptown182 1 Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted July 21, 2020 Share Posted July 21, 2020 3 hours ago, Rcook216 said: The back story is we were together for 2 years loved each other very much. He broke up with me saying that he need to focus on himself right now not a relationship. Our living situation is I'm living with family and he has roommates that don't let people over so we only see each other on the weekends in hotel rooms or during the week for dinner. So he told me that he will be friends with me and he won't abondon me. Did you ever go to his place in the two years you were together? Even to drop by? Also, you can't rely on an ex not to abandon you; I hesitate to even use the word "abandon" here, because it denotes an obligation to always stick around. But that isn't healthy, either. We all have to learn to stand on our own two feet and not expect an ex to be friends forever. It will prevent you both from moving on and most friendships between exes eventually fizzle out as one party meets someone else and drifts away. Having said all of that, I don't think you can rely on him for a real friendship. I think he's trying to soften the blow of the break-up for you but I wouldn't take his words very seriously. The bottom line is that he appears to want you to move on, because he already is doing so. Link to post Share on other sites
kendahke Posted July 21, 2020 Share Posted July 21, 2020 12 hours ago, Rcook216 said: The back story is we were together for 2 years loved each other very much. He broke up with me saying that he need to focus on himself right now not a relationship. Our living situation is I'm living with family and he has roommates that don't let people over so we only see each other on the weekends in hotel rooms or during the week for dinner. So he told me that he will be friends with me and he won't abondon me. And when he gets his own apartment we will see how things go agian. Then 2 weeks ago he blocked me for no reason. So I send him an email asking why he blocked me and he replied with hitting the reset button for a chance at a true friendship in time. Hanging out on the weekends over there and living there during the week are two different things. He's probably found a chick who's got her own place... Going from loving one another (which indicates a romantic/sexual relationship) to "just be friends" then being blocked is called "being demoted". His answer to your email his him managing you and playing you hard to the left. Link to post Share on other sites
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