Oldblueeyes Posted July 24, 2020 Posted July 24, 2020 Hi all, Just curious if you give your affair partner gifts? and if so, what type? We have never exchanged gifts but this year I would like to get him something for his birthday. It will be something that he would have bought himself obviously but i'm not 100% if I should do it or not?
elaine567 Posted July 24, 2020 Posted July 24, 2020 He is either going to have to face some tough questions from his wife, who will no doubt spot the gift and be suspicious or she will follow the non existent paper trail and question him on it "You say you bought it yourself but there s nothing on your cc statement..." or he will hide your gift away in some dark drawer or cupboard, hoping she will never find it. Or he may bin it promptly for peace of mind. I get you wanting to make your relationship more serious, more important but he may not be as enthusiastic about "the gift" as you may think. It is also material "proof" of the affair and he may not like that. He is walking a tightrope here, any wrong move and he may lose his balance and be sent plummeting to the ground... 2
Wiseman2 Posted July 24, 2020 Posted July 24, 2020 1 hour ago, Oldblueeyes said: Just curious if you give your affair partner gifts? and if so, what type? A gift certificate for a good divorce attorney may be a welcome surprise. 8
Prudence V Posted July 24, 2020 Posted July 24, 2020 3 hours ago, Oldblueeyes said: Just curious if you give your affair partner gifts? and if so, what type? I gave him gifts while he was still M to xW, and he gave me gifts. It was a relationship, so why not? Books, music, jewellery, clothing, experiences - pretty much the same kind of gifts we give each other now we’re married. If you’re worried about your AP’s BS discovering it, why not opt for something consumable - take him for a meal, a movie, whatever lockdown allows - or get him a digital download of music or a book or something, that he can access on his phone / tablet / kindle away from her prying eyes?
Amethyst68 Posted July 24, 2020 Posted July 24, 2020 Is this a subtle way of trying to get him caught by his wife? 2
mark clemson Posted July 24, 2020 Posted July 24, 2020 (edited) 8 hours ago, Wiseman2 said: A gift certificate for a good divorce attorney may be a welcome surprise. "Hint hint" Funny post... Edited July 24, 2020 by mark clemson 1
K.K. Posted July 24, 2020 Posted July 24, 2020 Ahh ... just stick to the tried and true birthday fellatio. He’d prefer it over any gift card and you can just swallow the evidence afterwards and send him back home to wifey where she’ll have a lovely dinner and the gift of her undying love waiting... Just like every other day that’s not his birthday. 6
Author Oldblueeyes Posted July 25, 2020 Author Posted July 25, 2020 Appears to be a lot of butt hurt people for an OW/OM section! No I don't want him to get caught. I don't think a gift will do that. No I don't want him to get divorced, I'm happy with things as they are. Thanks Prudence V for those ideas, an experience is probably a good option. 1
Luna66star Posted July 25, 2020 Posted July 25, 2020 I baked my MM cookies but actually in retrospect it was too much "girlfriend" type behavior. I wasn't his GF, I was his side dish. Bad move on my part. I would leave out buying him gifts. He really hasn't earned that with you has he? We are being used in this type of situation. I know it sounds harsh. You're not his wife or GF. 3
Wiseman2 Posted July 25, 2020 Posted July 25, 2020 Sexy underwear. At least you know his wife isn't getting him that
BaileyB Posted July 25, 2020 Posted July 25, 2020 1 hour ago, Wiseman2 said: Sexy underwear. At least you know his wife isn't getting him that That you know... But, it’s hard to know for sure. 2
Amethyst68 Posted July 25, 2020 Posted July 25, 2020 7 hours ago, Wiseman2 said: Sexy underwear. At least you know his wife isn't getting him that You have no idea what their sex life is like or if she wears sexy lingerie for him. 2
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