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On 7/29/2020 at 5:05 PM, Kxxxx said:

he wasn't trying to hide it until she got mad
 

Unfinished emotional business.

A man who didn't have any would have told her "yeah, I did it..." and be prepared for her vindictiveness for violating his visitation. 

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she then wouldn't let the kid see him fathers day... until he got me to remove them.

She uses the kid as leverage to control him.

Yep... she's the child's mother and right now, she's got that leverage.  She's going to pull rank and can do it because she's the child's mother. And truth be told, if you had his baby and he was doing the same thing to you, you'd be figuring out how to snatch him back to right, too.

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hes the one who held on to our pictures for 12 yrs not me....  

You'd be surprised by how many posts come on these boards from women who are apoplectic over the fact that their boyfriend has a box or a hard drive or a folder hidden 25 layers deep on the C : drive of pictures of an ex and they want those photos gone and a lot of posters around here agree that he needs to get rid of them if he's in a new relationship with them. Not all, but a lot.

What it sounds like to me was your 2 months was his release valve... he got to hide out, play house, have sex, think out loud enough to where you heard what he was saying, filled your head with fantasy talk and when reality hit in the form of his access to his child being jeopardized, he gathered himself up and went back.  IMO, his reaction to you posting that picture should not have set him off like that if he was truly emotionally done with his child's mother. Maybe a bit upset, but not to the point of launching you out of his orbit like he did.

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