Questions

[peachpie]

How do you get involved with another woman’s husband - a woman that you know well - she catches you red-handed, and instead of apologizing for her full participation in destroying your marriage, she’s the victim - offended by your confrontation? And refuses to acknowledge my evidence?

yes - it takes two to tango - I’m preparing to divorce my husband- but this woman... How does she feel she had/has equal rights to him?

How does she feel victimized by my questioning? How is she a victim?

I’m just curious what I am missing. Please don’t tell me it’s not her fault my husband strayed. She was my friend and knew fully well what she was doing. I would have preferred him with a stranger. I feel stabbed in the back by 2 people.

[Wiseman2]

Redirect your wrath towards your cheating husband, where it belongs. Get a wolverine for a lawyer. They're both snakes so don't expect sudden decent behavior from either of them.

Edited July 29, 2020 by Wiseman2

[stillafool]

I'm sorry Matildag you were stabbed in the back by your horrible husband and this awful woman.  Some women are so desperate for a man they will throw your friendship right under the bus to have your man.  You had every right to confront her and the least she could do is listen and apologize for what she's help him do to you under the disguise as friendship.  You might need professional counseling to help you get over this betrayal because I know it's hard.  Hugs and just keep moving forward.

Edited July 29, 2020 by stillafool

[peachpie]

Thank you Wiseman2 and Stillafool.

 I will never forgive him or forget but I can’t believe that in the end, she’s the victim. I have a special needs child who lost his father, I am losing my mind, but she’s the victim.

infuriating!!

[stillafool]

Is your husband now living with her?

[d0nnivain]

She isn't the victim.  Even though she is the OW you still don't get to confront her, yell at her or threaten her.  You were betrayed by them both.  It's unfair & frustrating but while society will tolerate infidelity, it won't tolerate your expressions of anger.  

Do stay away from them both until you can control your temper or your behavior might deprive your child of your presence.  You could lose custody or end up in jail  Be careful.  

Edited July 30, 2020 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
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[pepperbird]

1 hour ago, matildag said:

Thank you Wiseman2 and Stillafool.

 I will never forgive him or forget but I can’t believe that in the end, she’s the victim. I have a special needs child who lost his father, I am losing my mind, but she’s the victim.

infuriating!!

she's no victim. she's just POed that she got taken to task.
I would stay away from them if at all possible. Let them lie in the muck they've created and you can move on to bigger and better things.
 

[curlygirl40]

Hello.   I had followed your other thread, this woman was never your friend.     Not a true friend.    Her and your husband have been gaslighting you for years.     

Just remember that they are the ones in the wrong.   I can't imagine it's easy, but get out with your head high and have as little contact/conversations, etc. with them in the process.    It's not worth your mental health.  

My ex was a bastard when we divorced.   I had to remind myself to expend as little energy as possible arguing with him because it wouldn't do any good, ever.    My mantra was 'Never argue with a pig, you both get dirty and the pig likes it'.      Just walk away.     They probably get off on you being upset.   I still can't get over her text about 'taking one for the team and putting up with your wife' or whatever.    What blatant disrespect.   

She's a homewrecker but in my mind, any woman who can steal your husband away is doing you a favor.    A good, decent, faithful man would not have entertained anything inappropriate right from the get go.     

I'm sorry this is happening.  

[peachpie]

Thank you, Curlygirl40.