Moon_flower Posted July 29, 2020 Share Posted July 29, 2020 I’ve only been with two men before my boyfriend (34m) and I've (33f) only had sex once with both. So I’ve been mostly with my bf. The thing is, I want something more in the bedroom- we change it up but it’s still the same thing over and over again it seems like. I love him and I love the sex but it’s lacking. I honestly can make myself cum harder then he came make me, by just reading damn stories online. I feel bad for feeling this way 😕 I’m not interested in cheating, at all! Ugh help, any advice? Just to note: we’ve known each other since I was 19 and have been together for 7 years now. Though we are not married- we are partners. Link to post Share on other sites
mark clemson Posted July 29, 2020 Share Posted July 29, 2020 IF you attempt to "train him" and/or suggest doing more/better stuff, suggest you take a slow, staged approach. Some people are much more flexible in terms of what they like or will try sexually than others. Some have little interest and simply want to stick with what works, others are excited/interested to try new stuff. If he's the "conservative" type sexually, you'll have to make a decision about whether you're actually compatible and whether what you are able to have sexually together will work for you LT. At the risk of stating what you may already know, don't compare him to romantic fiction, as that's simply not RL and would be parallel to him comparing you to porn stars. Unfair and not really sensible. GL... Link to post Share on other sites
Author Moon_flower Posted July 29, 2020 Author Share Posted July 29, 2020 Yes I agree %100 I would never compare him to my stories, they would totally be unfair. Link to post Share on other sites
Just a Guy Posted August 9, 2020 Share Posted August 9, 2020 Hi Moon_Flower, I wanted to ask you how many girl friends your partner has had before you? If he has had a fair number ke many more than you then he should have gained adequate experience in learning how to please a woman to her satisfaction. If he has not then maybe he is stymied as far as this aspect of your relationship is concerned and so you know what you are going to have to live with if you do get married to him. If you two have had discussions about this problem and hr has not been able to improve on his technique and performance then maybe, if this aspect of your relationship is important to you and non negotiable, that you think of gently setting him down and looking for his replacement. Seven years is a long time and if he has not improved in that time then it is likely he never will. Just think about it. Warm wishes. Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted August 9, 2020 Share Posted August 9, 2020 Pay attention to the rest of your relationship. You seem to be in a rut playing house. When there is boredom in the bedroom it's often more than just sexual problems. Link to post Share on other sites
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