brooks468 Posted July 30, 2020 Share Posted July 30, 2020 After breaking up in January, I begged him for months until we ended up on bad terms. I then apologised and we went no contact for a while. Around a month ago he unblocked me to say he was sorry, but he had no respect for me and was asking intimate questions. He also lied and told me he didn't want to speak to anyone/sleep with anyone and then the next day he met a girl at the beach, went cold and blocked me. After that happened, I blocked him on all social media apart from the 1 app where he blocked me. He also knew that I still had feelings for him and missed him a lot so I felt like I was being used. 2 days ago he unblocked me again to say he was sorry and ask to be friends again. I told him that it's too difficult for me because of how I felt about him, and that those feelings won't disappear if we keep speaking. He repeatedly told me that it would be sad to never speak again, doesn't want to be blocked and he misses me too but doesn't want to try make it work. I'm just confused why he'd stay up all night talking to me like we used to and is begging to be friends, I feel like it's too soon especially when I still want more and hes hurt me so much. I've blocked him on all social media now so I can move on and forget but I feel bad, part of me also believes he just wants to keep me around until he finds someone better because hes lonely right now. I'm just confused Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted July 30, 2020 Share Posted July 30, 2020 1 minute ago, brooks468 said: 2 days ago he unblocked me again to say he was sorry and ask to be friends again. He's playing games so for now it's good you blocked him. Use NC to regain your footing and reflect in peace. Don't let his turbulence disrupt that. You miss a relationship, but not him and is games. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted July 30, 2020 Share Posted July 30, 2020 (edited) There is nothing to be confused about. He's using your feelings against you. When he's bored & has nobody else, he reaches out to you knowing that you still want him in your life & that you'll take whatever crumbs he is willing to give. You won't get over him until you get him all the way out of your life. Who cares what he wants. Do what's best for you. Edited July 30, 2020 by d0nnivain 1 Link to post Share on other sites
La.Primavera Posted July 30, 2020 Share Posted July 30, 2020 Please don't tell him you miss him again. It only gives him the green light to use it against you. He gets an ego rub out of it and you're left with nothing to show for it. His motives are suspect, especially after he said he doesn't respect you, so I think you're doing the right thing blocking all contact. Your instincts about him ditching you as soon as he finds someone else are correct. He has already done it so you know exactly what to expect and how that will make you feel. Looking at it from the outside, he has nothing to offer you but more confusion and rejection. I know it's hard to let go of a relationship that really mattered to you, but where this guy is concerned, it is the right thing to do. There are some amazing guys out there, more worthy of your time and affection. You can't move forward until you stop hanging on to the past. Take care. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
DarrenB Posted July 30, 2020 Share Posted July 30, 2020 1 hour ago, brooks468 said: part of me also believes he just wants to keep me around until he finds someone better because hes lonely right now. You've hit the nail on the coffin. Although a bitter and hard pill to swallow, the realization of this will allow you to move forward knowing his intentions to reconcile are solely for his own personal pleasures and not yours. It'll get better in time, chin up 2 Link to post Share on other sites
kendahke Posted July 30, 2020 Share Posted July 30, 2020 3 hours ago, brooks468 said: Around a month ago he unblocked me to say he was sorry, but he had no respect for me and was asking intimate questions. He also lied and told me he didn't want to speak to anyone/sleep with anyone 2 days ago he unblocked me again to say he was sorry and ask to be friends again. He repeatedly told me that it would be sad to never speak again, doesn't want to be blocked and he misses me too but doesn't want to try make it work. Translation: "I'm horny and was wondering if you're down for a FWB arrangement." Quote part of me also believes he just wants to keep me around until he finds someone better because hes lonely right now. Your instincts are on point and laser focused. You're right. He's taking your temperature to see if you're down for Fbuddies. Link to post Share on other sites
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