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For those of you who know the story, I was obsessed with a man and he was, in my mind feeding it online by posting about a real connection. "It felt right, he wanted to meet in person, he would buy me gifts, he would call me on my birthday etc". Real people were involved over the seven years and while connecting with the real people, they would say move on. 

I reacted so bad to this and end up in a depression tortured in my mind by this and the thought that he was with another women. I made a mistake of telling him this instead of accepting that he did not want me to be obsessed with him. 

As I was talking to the real people involved, they appear to have a strong dislike for me. They were very direct in the insults and telling me what I am attracted to, isn't attracted to me. 

My question is, what is the best way to move on from the real people involved as oppose to those online (far easier). Was I the reason they did not like me? Did he manipulate them into disliking me? Were they in a situation where they wanted to hurt another person on his behalf? I'm struggling with this as no one would ever speak to me. They really did think I needed to leave this man alone and move on to someone who could reciprocate. I've accepted the reality that this guy did not like me at all but the other people involved is why I am struggling to move on and I was wondering if anyone had any pointers or encouragement. 

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