BaileyB Posted August 1, 2020 Share Posted August 1, 2020 (edited) 1 hour ago, leasigi said: being acused all the time makes me think he deserve to be cheated His accusations speak more to his own insecurity and immaturity than your character - I hope you know that. Still, nobody deserves to be cheated on - what he deserves is to lose this relationship because he’s not behaving the way he should be behaving if he wants to have a relationship... Edited August 1, 2020 by BaileyB 2 Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted August 1, 2020 Share Posted August 1, 2020 1 hour ago, leasigi said: He was controlling and got jealous for nothing. Still acusing me for cheating. He has done that all the time and I can take no more. I have never cheated on him, have never thought about it, but being acused all the time makes me think he deserve to be cheated This is terribly toxic behaviour on his part. He’s either insanely insecure and controlling, or projecting because he’s the one who cheats. Either way, you need to end this. It’s not normal and it’s damaging to your self-worth. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
BaileyB Posted August 1, 2020 Share Posted August 1, 2020 1 minute ago, ExpatInItaly said: Either way, you need to end this. It’s not normal and it’s damaging to your self-worth. It’s also not healthy for him, to believe that this kind of behavior is acceptable. He needs to get a little feedback, by you ending the relationship, that this kind of behavior will not be tolerated (not by you, anyway). He can then use this as his wake up call to grow up and do better next time, or not. Either way, you won’t worry too much about him because you have better things on which you will be focusing your attention - school and maybe finding another guy to date who will treat you better... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
smackie9 Posted August 1, 2020 Share Posted August 1, 2020 He's an immature little twerp. You need to take care of yourself, so kick his a$$ to the curb. Focus on your priorities, because you know your time, and getting ahead is of more value than some whinny BF. You deserve much better. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Acacia98 Posted August 1, 2020 Share Posted August 1, 2020 6 hours ago, elaine567 said: You have to remember that some men hate it when their woman is a success, and will therefore try to sabotage. He knew you had an exam, he knew you were stressed and so he decided to make it all about him...trying to sabotage your chances... I think so too. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
mark clemson Posted August 1, 2020 Share Posted August 1, 2020 Agree with much of what has been said above. 7 hours ago, leasigi said: he could tell that I didn't want to do it. He got mad at me and was acusing me for cheating, that there was somebody else that I have done that and that is why I was refusing him. ... I tried to seduce him today and I let everything I had to do, and he is still mad at me and don't want to do that. He said "once you refuse me for something, there is no way to do it anymore".. I don't know what to do. He is making me feel gulty, even though I did nothing. I think he has major insecurities and you have inadvertently triggered them. Possibly he's just trying to manipulate/control you through guilt, but I suspect that's a lot less likely. Either way, IMHO he's not good BF material. He needs either therapy or simply to grow into greater maturity to help him deal with his issues. You should realize that he's probably not going to make for a very good BF for the long term until he deals with this stuff. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Redhead14 Posted August 1, 2020 Share Posted August 1, 2020 (edited) I don't think he was actually jealous. He accused her of cheating and used it as a tool of manipulation -- to make her do what he wants and prove to him she's not cheating . . . Edited August 1, 2020 by Redhead14 1 Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted August 1, 2020 Share Posted August 1, 2020 Send him a message that the relationship is no longer working for you and you're ending it - then block him. DO NOT wait for a response before blocking because he will accuse you of cheating or try and guilt you or other nonsense. Doing it this way gives you your power back. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
BaileyB Posted August 2, 2020 Share Posted August 2, 2020 2 hours ago, Redhead14 said: I don't think he was actually jealous. He accused her of cheating and used it as a tool of manipulation -- to make her do what he wants . . . I agree with this. His primary motivation is to guilt her and make her prove her love - such that he gets exactly what he wants from her... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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