ex boyfriend has a new girlfriend?

[stillafool]

2 minutes ago, MalBA said:

She won? She didn't have him for 4 years. I had him and she saw us together many times im sure whike we were on campus.

So how she won? She was the loser for the last 4 years.

Why are you making this into a contest and hurting yourself.  She grabbed his attention away from a FWB he was seeing for 4 years.  That alone shows how strong he feels for her and was probably pinning for her when he was with you.  At any rate, none of this matters now because he is with her.

Are you dating anyone now?

 

[smackie9]

17 minutes ago, MalBA said:

Are you seriously suggesting fwb meet families and are exclusive and use photos of each other as screensavers, go on holidays, take pics??

Sure why not? Was there ever a conversation of exclusivity? If there was then and I will requote: Your relationship wasn't as romantic or intense as you thought it was. It ran it's course. Someone became available whom he had way more interest in. Many people get dumped for that. It is what it is.

And by all the intensity of how you can't wrap your brain around how he could do this, speaks to me maybe one of the reasons why he moved on.

Edited August 2, 2020 by smackie9

[kendahke]

20 hours ago, MalBA said:

No ironically she is poc, brown. So completely different from him.

He likes his chicken seasoned...

[ShyViolet]

37 minutes ago, MalBA said:

She won? She didn't have him for 4 years. I had him and she saw us together many times im sure whike we were on campus.

So how she won? She was the loser for the last 4 years.

I think this comment shows that you have a very unhealthy view of relationships and you have some growing up to do.  It's not a competition.

Comparing yourself to his new GF is not going help you in any way.  It's a waste of time.  

[kendahke]

4 hours ago, MalBA said:

argument over not listening to what the other person has to say.

yet you have it in spades--you don't want to listen and hear what people are saying here.  You're looking for someone to give you the answer you need to throw yourself at him and force him to leave her and come back to you and that's not happening.

If he was of the mind to do that, she wouldn't be with him right now, she wouldn't have met his mother and you wouldn't be on the outside trying to get back in.

[MalBA]

41 minutes ago, stillafool said:

Why are you making this into a contest and hurting yourself.  She grabbed his attention away from a FWB he was seeing for 4 years.  That alone shows how strong he feels for her and was probably pinning for her when he was with you.  At any rate, none of this matters now because he is with her.

Are you dating anyone now?

 

We werent together for 4 years. It was 1 year 

[MalBA]

38 minutes ago, smackie9 said:

Sure why not? Was there ever a conversation of exclusivity? If there was then and I will requote: Your relationship wasn't as romantic or intense as you thought it was. It ran it's course. Someone became available whom he had way more interest in. Many people get dumped for that. It is what it is.

And by all the intensity of how you can't wrap your brain around how he could do this, speaks to me maybe one of the reasons why he moved on.

yes we were exclusive. He used pics of us together as his whatsapp profile pic so she knew it and he also sent our pics to friends and her

Edited August 2, 2020 by MalBA

[MalBA]

9 minutes ago, kendahke said:

yet you have it in spades--you don't want to listen and hear what people are saying here.  You're looking for someone to give you the answer you need to throw yourself at him and force him to leave her and come back to you and that's not happening.

If he was of the mind to do that, she wouldn't be with him right now, she wouldn't have met his mother and you wouldn't be on the outside trying to get back in.

His mom knew about me as well. He used pics of us together as his whatsapp profile pic so she knew it and he also sent our pics to friends and her

Edited August 2, 2020 by MalBA

[MalBA]

15 minutes ago, kendahke said:

He likes his chicken seasoned...

What does this mean?

[kendahke]

1 hour ago, MalBA said:

Are you seriously suggesting fwb meet families and are exclusive and use photos of each other as screensavers, go on holidays, take pics??

Your photo as a screensaver has already been scrubbed, as are probably all text and photo references to you on his phone and social media.
 

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She won? She didn't have him for 4 years.

that's all past tense and doesn't matter now that we're in the present.
 

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I had him and she saw us together many times im sure whike we were on campus.

What are the tenses of those verbs I've bolded?

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So how she won? She was the loser for the last 4 years.

Who's he with? Who isn't he with? Who's on LS writing 5 pages of denial and who's not?

Edited August 2, 2020 by kendahke

[kendahke]

Just now, MalBA said:

What does this mean?

Google it

[stillafool]

3 minutes ago, MalBA said:

We werent together for 4 years. It was 1 year 

It really doesn't matter, does it?

 

4 minutes ago, MalBA said:

yes we were exclusive

This doesn't matter either.  Lots of people are exclusive, fall in love with someone else and break up.  It even happens to married people.

4 minutes ago, MalBA said:

His mom knew about me as well.

Again, it doesn't matter.  The point is he is gone.  Who are you dating now?

[ShyViolet]

4 minutes ago, MalBA said:

His mom knew about me as well. He used pics of us together as his whatsapp profile pic so she knew it and he also sent our pics to friends and her

OK...... AND?  What is your point?  It's all in the past.  He's not your boyfriend anymore, he has moved on with his life.  Are you trying to move on with yours?  

[MalBA]

Just now, ShyViolet said:

OK...... AND?  What is your point?  It's all in the past.  He's not your boyfriend anymore, he has moved on with his life.  Are you trying to move on with yours?  

This meant he loved me more?

[kendahke]

9 minutes ago, MalBA said:

His mom knew about me as well.

She's probably known most of his other friends, male and female, just as well...

However, I remind you of what you wrote in your very first post:

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*****He also took her to meet his mom straightaway, *****

************something he didn't do with me.**********

While his mother (whom he's very close to) knew about me and sort of liked me,***** I had not met her in person.*****

"Sort of liked you", means she didn't know you from a can of beans.

 

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He used pics of us together

Again, past tense... everyone has moved on since then and are embracing the woman he truly wants to be with because he's with her.

Edited August 2, 2020 by kendahke

[MalBA]

2 minutes ago, stillafool said:

It really doesn't matter, does it?

 

This doesn't matter either.  Lots of people are exclusive, fall in love with someone else and break up.  It even happens to married people.

Again, it doesn't matter.  The point is he is gone.  Who are you dating now?

I'm not dating anyone now. I ve hooked up with a few guys and I'm into erotic feminist art so I do that.

[MalBA]

3 minutes ago, kendahke said:

She's probably known most of his other friends, male and female, just as well...

However, I remind you of what you wrote in your very first post:

Again, past tense... everyone has moved on since then and are embracing the woman he truly wants to be with because he's with her.

yes his mom knows everything as he tells her everything. His job, his friends, his interests so she does know everyone.

 

if he truly wanted to be with her why date me then?

Edited August 2, 2020 by MalBA

[MalBA]

6 minutes ago, kendahke said:

Your photo as a screensaver has already been scrubbed, as are probably all text and photo references to you on his phone and social media.
 

that's all past tense and doesn't matter now that we're in the present.
 

What are the tenses of those verbs I've bolded?

Who's he with? Who isn't he with? Who's on LS writing 5 pages of denial and who's not?

he never had social media except whatsapp. Only know he's made IG and FB 

[Wiseman2]

Just now, MalBA said:

I'm not dating anyone now. I ve hooked up with a few guys and I'm into erotic feminist art so I do that.

Ok. Focus on yourself and that and forget about these two.

[kendahke]

6 minutes ago, MalBA said:

if he truly wanted to be with her why date me then?

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Our relationship was also very sexual in nature and we were a lot into kinky sex, bondage , bdsm, etc.

You were a willing (almost desperate) means to an end... something to do until she gave him the green light---I feel like this is deja vu--didn't I just answer this question 3 posts ago?

Edited August 2, 2020 by kendahke

[kendahke]

4 minutes ago, MalBA said:

he never had social media except whatsapp. Only know he's made IG and FB 

That you know about...

[MalBA]

3 minutes ago, kendahke said:

That you know about...

We all have the same friends and we all know each others socials and hes never been on here. His account itself shows joined July 2020

[kendahke]

7 minutes ago, MalBA said:

yes his mom knows everything as he tells her everything. His job, his friends, his interests so she does know everyone.

He only told his mom what he wants her to know about you... and the fact of the matter remain he never took you to meet her, certainly not with the swiftness he took this woman he's been pining for for 4 years.

[MalBA]

4 minutes ago, kendahke said:

You were a willing (almost desperate) means to an end... something to do until she gave him the green light---I feel like this is deja vu--didn't I just answer this question 3 posts ago?

how was I willing? He moved to my city so I helped him around ? She was available but he caused issues and moved on . Started dating me.

[kendahke]

Just now, MalBA said:

We all have the same friends and we all know each others socials and hes never been on here. His account itself shows joined July 2020

you all only know what he wants you all to know