Sarcastic humor? Yeay or No, I'm too PC for that

[K.K.]

When searching for a partner or ok even a friend, do you find a sense of humor important, very important, or not important at all? 

I find that I don’t get along well with a humorless, stuffy person. No joke is off limits to me. (Well... maybee very few) 

I like to tell sarcastic jokes. I hear a lot of sh*t about it. Catch a lot of flack. But it’s ok because it weeds out the like minded people from the ones that have sticks up their asses. 

How important is a sense of humor to you? Yea, I know humor is  ‘subjective’ but like I said, I’m pretty sick minded when it comes to jokes.

Anybody else? 
 

 

 

[Wiseman2]

Humor is very important. Sarcasm indicates hostility, not a good sense of humor.

[K.K.]

3 minutes ago, Wiseman2 said:

Humor is very important. Sarcasm indicates hostility, not a good sense of humor.

Mmmmmaybe. I don’t feel very hostile when I’m laughing at funny jokes though. Why can’t it be both? 

[Weezy1973]

12 minutes ago, K.K. said: 

How important is a sense of humor to you? Yea, I know humor is  ‘subjective’ but like I said, I’m pretty sick minded when it comes to jokes.

Anybody else? 
 

 

 

A sense of humor is important to the people that it’s important to. I know one of the reasons my wife chose me was because of my sense of humor. She grew up in a family that was pretty funny as well. 
 

And yes, agree that just being yourself is the best bet. People who share your sense of humor will naturally gravity towards you. 

[Wiseman2]

Google "sarcasm" . "the use of irony to mock or convey contempt."

A good sense of humor can have the irony of things but some people may relate to you, some may not.

If you want to mock things go right ahead.

[K.K.]

10 minutes ago, Wiseman2 said:

Google "sarcasm" . "the use of irony to mock or convey contempt."

A good sense of humor can have the irony of things but some people may relate to you, some may not.

If you want to mock things go right ahead.

Hmm I’ve never looked up the definition. Wonder if it’s the old definition or one of those new ones that changed while I wasn’t looking. 

🤣 

See, I can’t help myself. 😟 it just comes naturally. 
 

 

[NuevoYorko]

There are people who prefer not to "convey contempt" and don't look for a hostile attitude in people they date.   It doesn't necessarily indicate the level of "PC" or that the person has a "stick up their ass."  They may well have a fine sense of humor that you don't understand.

You're right, it's good indicator of compatibility.    

[Wiseman2]

3 minutes ago, K.K. said:

I can’t help myself. it just comes naturally. 

Then be yourself and if you offend people, see what happens.

[Realitysux]

I wouldn't be sarcastic ever towards a partner because sarcasm is actually very offensive. When using your sense of humor, and I agree that it's very important to have one, you need to be aware of who you are laughing with and that they don't find your sense of humor objective or offensive. 

[Ollie180]

45 minutes ago, K.K. said:

When searching for a partner or ok even a friend, do you find a sense of humor important, very important, or not important at all? 

Probably THE most important thing to me tbh! 🤔

Even if a gal was the whole package without a cracking sense of humour / in tune with my sense of humour then I think that’d be a deal breaker.

Less important with a friend, but in order to become a super close friend the sense of humour would have to be there!

[d0nnivain]

I love a dry witty sense of humor.  I don't always "get" sarcasm so a sarcastic person ends up hurting my feelings too much.  I agree that it's important that two people share the same sense of humor.   

[Haydn]

I am not very PC, but i am not nasty. Just common sense. 

[Wiseman2]

Offensive humor was popular with shock jocks, but witty comedians are actually funny. 

To each their own but personally offensive humor lacks the kind of intelligent wit that's interesting and funny.

[Emilie Jolie]

Yes to humour, though I prefer silly, self-depreciating 'British' humour that doesn't always work in the written form, or subtle play on words.

In the scheme of things, I don't value humour that highly as far as compatibility; there are a bunch of traits and qualities I place way above 'funny', which means different things to different people anyway. I've zero interest in being provocative to prove a point, and I've found the 'non-PC' gang to be pretty conformist and predictable in their own way, ironically. 

Not taking yourself too seriously, and having emotional intelligence, is enough for me.

[Angelle]

I can be sarcastic at times, I'm not against it, but I prefer the kind of humour that Emilie mentioned: the kind that I grew up with. I've been cynical and angry, and still can be, but I prefer to leave people better than I found them. I don't like having a negative effect on those around me. 

Nobody is perfect, but I pay attention to how they treat others, not just me.