Would you date someone who admits they get bored easily

[Noluck83]

As the title suggests. Getting on well with someone. Loads in common. Then out of nowhere she says 'i have to admit i get bored of men really easily and usually just cut them off and run away'.

 

Sounds like a commitment issue. Both in our 30s. Is this a bad enough sign to just end it here? As it's put me on a bit of a... back burner. I feel a bit like this could already end up being painful and im debating saving myself the hassle.

She's also only ever had 1 relationship and all the others have been 2-3 months then she leaves. 

[d0nnivain]

If you want happily ever after, she probably isn't your girl.  If you are open to 2-3 months of good fun & you can manage to hold on to your heart & guard your feelings, it might be OK to fill any boredom in your life.  If you get attached easily,  she's not your girl.  This won't end well for you.  

[Atwood]

55 minutes ago, Noluck83 said:

'i have to admit i get bored of men really easily and usually just cut them off and run away'.

How did you respond to this? What was the conversation like afterwards? It doesn't have to be a dealbreaker necessarily, but it's something you should talk about if you want commitment. Ask her what she means by that and why she does it. Talk about fears of committment and why she has them and what you could do together to alleviate those fears, potentially. It might not work out or you might decide it's not worth the risk, but at least have a conversation about it. 

[smackie9]

 

A friend of mine met a guy on a dating site that told her the same thing. He even had a time line of 2 to 3 months. He warned her right away about it. I remember her telling me this, and knowing her and how attached she would get, I told her to run the other way. I told her she would be wasting her time...of course she didn't listen. They dating a little over 3 months, she was infatuated in him by that point, and he dumped her. She was devastated. BUT she had a habit of dating emotionally unavailable men anyways so it was nothing new to her. I looked into it, and there is a personality type like this. There are people who thrive on the chase/newness, of when you first date someone. The thrill, the mystery, the excitement of the attention/attraction....but after a month or so the flow of dopamine slows or stops, and it's bubb-bye. It has nothing to do with fear of commitment, but how their brain works.

So if I were you I would jump ship now. Big red flag.

Edited August 3, 2020 by smackie9

[amaysngrace]

Just sit back and enjoy the ride!

[kendahke]

2 hours ago, Noluck83 said:

She's also only ever had 1 relationship and all the others have been 2-3 months then she leaves. 

she's letting you know she'll be outta there in 2-3 months, so don't invest your heart.

[Wiseman2]

2 hours ago, Noluck83 said:

out of nowhere she says 'i have to admit i get bored of men really easily and usually just cut them off and run away'.

It's a red flag that she's losing interest. Hopefully you are talking to others and don't invest in someone this shallow.

[Noluck83]

As an update ive just called off date 4. Not worth the risk i reckon.