mortensorchid Posted August 4, 2020 Share Posted August 4, 2020 I was thinking about this topic the other day, and wondered how many of you who are on this forum have experienced this... How many of you ended up marrying your high school sweetheart? When I was in high school, I met my first real boyfriend. Now, of course, we have our little junior high school thing (even into the first year of high school even) where we start to have our first boy-girl parties, play Spin the Bottle and whatnot. Some of them even actually go out on dates with that person, but that's just an introduction (a very subtle one) to what would later be our actual dating life. I met my high school sweetheart, and we actually went out on real dates together. I was in 10th grade, he was in 12th. He went away to college, I stayed in high school. We ended up being together for 4 years, most of that time was spent separated due to geography. Then I went away to college as well, we were further separated and I was having experiences one has during their first year of college that he had most likely. When I returned for that summer, we split. We both decided to go our separate ways because we had grown apart and it was necessary for us to both grow and change, which we did, of course. Looking back, I have a regret or two (show me someone who hasn't) of course, but ultimately I think it was for the best because I wouldn't have had much of the experiences and learned the lessons I had had we stayed together. We were too young, we weren't mature enough, etc. But I was wondering, how many out there ended up marrying their high school sweetheart? My parents were high school sweethearts, as were another couple I knew. Neither of them dated anyone else (at least seriously) that I knew of. My parents have been married for 50+ years, and they have their issues of course. But I knew another few couples who also married their high school sweethearts and it was rather ... A disaster. One couple, good Lord, still are married even though the husband picked up and moved to Florida about 30+ years ago, only coming back for holidays and occasions. He pretty much left his family, he wants nothing to do with them. Another I knew who were my age, they divorced after being together for 18 years (he got cancer). These are extreme examples of course, but out of curiosity how many did and had it work? Link to post Share on other sites
Blind-Sided Posted August 4, 2020 Share Posted August 4, 2020 Not me. Truth be told... I didn't really care about girls until I was well out of HS. In HS, they were annoying. LOL. I was too busy with my buddies, and working on our cars, and playing video games. (Late 80's) In HS... girls were only there when we would take our cars to the local hangout places (a couple fast food places with big parking lots, or a couple of the larger Mini-Golf/Arcade centers) So... we all had muscle cars back then (60's mustangs and Camaro's were cheap) and on Friday/Saturday nights... we would all cruise to one of the hangouts, and BS about cars and play games. There was a bunch of girls who would show up in their lowered mini-trucks that daddy bought them... and they were the girls we would fool around with. (But never as a GF) My first REAL GF was when I was 19. (2 years out of HS) She was short, and very pretty. We dated for 5 years... and she cheated on me. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Weezy1973 Posted August 4, 2020 Share Posted August 4, 2020 (edited) My parents were high school sweethearts and were married until my dad died some years ago. Their marriage was really great, although they worked on it quite a bit. It was much more volatile when they were younger and mellowed as they got older. I feel I was very lucky to be raised in such a great, calm and loving household. I also think people marrying their high school sweethearts will become more and more rare as starting a family gets pushed later and later in life. My parents generation, it was normal to start your family in your late teen / early 20s. Nowadays, that would be considered really young. I got married when I was 45. So yeah, a bit later... Edited August 4, 2020 by Weezy1973 Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted August 4, 2020 Share Posted August 4, 2020 From my cohort, I know of three couples who married. Two are still together and the third split after +25 years of marriage. Link to post Share on other sites
chillii Posted August 5, 2020 Share Posted August 5, 2020 l couldn't imagine it later on at say by 40ish , maybe hating each other by then. But then again l know two old couples , both 80s been together since they were 16, both ltalian. 0ne couple in particular are the cutest old couple you ever saw . Think if l was to look at their life and look at mine , l';d take theirs tbh. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
schlumpy Posted August 5, 2020 Share Posted August 5, 2020 I met my wife in Germany and she was just shy of 18. We courted for a year and have been married ever since. One of my best friends from high school married the love of his life but after four children she met someone else in her 50's and dumped him. From what I understand it was quite a step down financially for her so it must have been true love or maybe there was no way back. I'm seeing that the 50's are a very dangerous time in many people's romantic life. Link to post Share on other sites
mark clemson Posted August 5, 2020 Share Posted August 5, 2020 On 8/4/2020 at 10:23 AM, mortensorchid said: How many of you ended up marrying your high school sweetheart? Not I. Link to post Share on other sites
ThePhoenixStillRises Posted August 5, 2020 Share Posted August 5, 2020 I didn't marry my high school sweetheart....life took us in different directions. But since my divorce, we have found each other again. While he broke my heart back then (like 24 years ago), he now tells me that I have the best version of him. He is the one that I could never explain my attraction to....the day that he walked into the same class as me (I was in 9th grade...he was in 10th), my world was never the same. He was my first love. I don't know what the future holds...but I am enjoying what we have now. Link to post Share on other sites
Ruby Slippers Posted August 12, 2020 Share Posted August 12, 2020 I married my high school sweetheart. We were silly in love. We were young and pretty clueless, so it didn't last. I left, we tried getting back together off and on for several years, stayed distant friends for many years after. I'm still friendly with his parents and, with his blessing, visit them sometimes at the holidays. They were like second parents to me and called me the daughter they never had. Link to post Share on other sites
Prudence V Posted August 16, 2020 Share Posted August 16, 2020 On 8/4/2020 at 6:23 PM, mortensorchid said: How many of you ended up marrying your high school sweetheart? I didn’t have a “high school sweetheart”. There were some kids who did - but apart from some friends of one of my high school teachers who were quite fun, and a divorced guy who moved into a granny flat on his parents’ property in the neighbourhood for a while during his divorce proceedings, there was just no one I came into contact with that interested me. It was only once I left my parents’ home and went away to university that I crossed paths with people I shared values with, or could hold a conversation with, or wanted to be around. I did reconnect with some former classmates on FB more recently. Some high school romances turned into marriages, but those only lasted where neither of the people went on to university, both still lived in the same neighbourhood we grew up in, and both work in retail-type employment. Link to post Share on other sites
eleanorrigby Posted August 16, 2020 Share Posted August 16, 2020 We met and dated in high school and married in our early 20's. We are the only ones we know from HS that got married. Link to post Share on other sites
major_merrick Posted August 17, 2020 Share Posted August 17, 2020 I did! My husband and I have known each other forever. Dated in HS, engaged as teens. Broke up, then he married somebody else. But in our 30's, we are back together. Married almost three years now, with four kids together. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted August 17, 2020 Share Posted August 17, 2020 Nope, but he is someone I would have considered marrying if we'd kept dating, probably. We broke up when I went to college and he was still in high school but remained friends on breaks, etc. Lost touch eventually and went on with our lives. We are now friends on Facebook and he has a lovely family. Looks like he makes a good husband. I've heard his wife is an insanely jealous and controlling person so I would actually initiate contact with him beyond a public post to say happy birthday or something lol. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted August 17, 2020 Share Posted August 17, 2020 (edited) On 8/4/2020 at 1:23 PM, mortensorchid said: How many of you ended up marrying your high school sweetheart? I certainly did not but I have friends who did. All are still married. One set was the classic HS football player - cheerleader couple. They have two kids & will be married 30 years next April. One set met in 7th grade, broke up in college & got back together when he started med school. They celebrated 25 years last year & have 2 kids. The 3rd couple didn't attend the same HS but met while working summer jobs at a local amusement park. They didn't attend class together but went to each other's dances, games, proms etc. They have been married for 34 years. I'm going to give them HS sweetheart because they dated before they could drive & married before age 21. My friend's son recently married his HS sweetheart. They broke up freshman year of college because she said he wasn't mature enough. (He wasn't). About 4 years after college they ran into each other at a mutual HS friend's party & the rest is history. They had a baby last fall. Two people from my HS who I see around town & on social media are still married to each other. I'm not friends with them then so I can't speak to the length of their marriage but I'd be shocked if it was less then 25 years. Edited August 17, 2020 by d0nnivain Link to post Share on other sites
2.50 a gallon Posted August 18, 2020 Share Posted August 18, 2020 My sister married my best friend and yes they were college sweethearts. And like all the others of my classmates who married is long divorced As for me, her parents forbid her to see me, They were very extremely religious, even card playing was a no-no, and one time they let her go to a school dance, out first and only kiss. Her brother tattled and she was forbidden to talk to me. I was a couple of years ahead of her, went to college got into a fraternity and forgot all about her. Except when I was in my 40's while getting off of a plane in Denver I spotted her twin walking with some flight attendants. I almost said something, but there was no chance it could have been her. A few years back we reconnected on facebook, and yes it probably was her, she had retired as an international flight attendant. Link to post Share on other sites
GorillaTheater Posted August 18, 2020 Share Posted August 18, 2020 Almost. My wife and I met when I was 18 and she 16 (it was at the beach and I admit, it was the bikini which initially drew my attention. I mean, just damn.) Then she dumped me, we met again at a party, and we've been married since I was 21 and she was 19. 37 years in December. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
understand50 Posted August 20, 2020 Share Posted August 20, 2020 Met my wife when I was 15. Did not start dating until later. Married at 18, been together coming up on 50 years. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
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