michelana Posted August 4, 2020 Share Posted August 4, 2020 Hi A friend of mine broke up about 1-2 months ago and today she saw her ex unexpectedly on the street. He tried to talk to her, but she didn't want to because she was still hurt and disappointed. What would you do in this situation? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted August 4, 2020 Share Posted August 4, 2020 37 minutes ago, michelana said: How to accept that he wants to break up with you? Not because he doesn't love you (as he admitts), but because he thinks it is the best for both of you? How to let your feelings go and all the memories? Everything is destroying me Sorry to hear this. it's understandable that you don't want to run into your ex. you were right to cut it short and not engage in random chitchat. that applies in person or online. Link to post Share on other sites
Beachead Posted August 4, 2020 Share Posted August 4, 2020 That's tough. I'd have just politely exchanged a quick minute of conversation and then cut it off, saying I have to go. It's an unfortunate situation to bump into an ex like that, but I believe its better to save face, and not let them see you broken. They don't need to know what you're feeling nor do they need to see it, because its no longer their business. I take it she was broken up with, in which case, I wouldn't blame her for her reaction. Breakups are horrible, 1-2 months onward is still fresh, and it takes far more time than that to heal when you were invested in what you were in. A situation like that would have sent me right back to day 1 and most certainly would have ruined my week as well. - Beach Link to post Share on other sites
Author michelana Posted August 4, 2020 Author Share Posted August 4, 2020 2 minutes ago, Wiseman2 said: Sorry to hear this. it's understandable that you don't want to run into your ex. you were right to cut it short and not engage in random chitchat. that applies in person or online. Thank you but as I mention it was about my friend and it had nothing to do with my situation. They had more years together and were nearly engaged Link to post Share on other sites
Author michelana Posted August 4, 2020 Author Share Posted August 4, 2020 3 minutes ago, Beachead said: That's tough. I'd have just politely exchanged a quick minute of conversation and then cut it off, saying I have to go. It's an unfortunate situation to bump into an ex like that, but I believe its better to save face, and not let them see you broken. They don't need to know what you're feeling nor do they need to see it, because its no longer their business. I take it she was broken up with, in which case, I wouldn't blame her for her reaction. Breakups are horrible, 1-2 months onward is still fresh, and it takes far more time than that to heal when you were invested in what you were in. A situation like that would have sent me right back to day 1 and most certainly would have ruined my week as well. - Beach They were always fighting before the break up and when they broke up he said to her that she doesn't make him anymore happy and many other things insulting her and all beacuse of his fault. That is why she didn't even want to see him. She just stopped for 2 seconds and walked away like he was a stranger Link to post Share on other sites
Beachead Posted August 4, 2020 Share Posted August 4, 2020 @michelana Yea it's personal for her because she invested her time and energy into the relationship, so she has a right to react the way she wants. That's a very reasonable reaction as well. Link to post Share on other sites
Realitysux Posted August 5, 2020 Share Posted August 5, 2020 (edited) Probably the same to be honest. Its best to go NC and move on. Things don't work for a reason, although I haven't found better, I'm realizing now that I will. It sucks for the interim -I do not have the option to log on and connect with anyone. It doesn't matter how lonely and bored you are, you do not want to go back to someone who left you. I've been reading up on it all day, and it never changes. If someone wanted to be with you, they would be. There is no way you could ever go back to someone, after the rejection. Edited August 5, 2020 by Realitysux 1 Link to post Share on other sites
kendahke Posted August 12, 2020 Share Posted August 12, 2020 On 8/4/2020 at 4:16 PM, michelana said: What would you do in this situation? Nothing... trust them to handle their business. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted August 12, 2020 Share Posted August 12, 2020 Whenever I see an EX I don't want to deal with, I make eye contact. Nod my head in acknowledgement, give them a tight closed lip smile, which is so obvious I don't want to deal with them, then cross the street or head in the other direction 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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