Alpacalia Posted August 10, 2020 Share Posted August 10, 2020 I have been corresponding with someone for a few months that I know from when we were younger. We've met up already and will again in a couple of months. I’m probably a bit gun shy due to past experiences and I know that long distance has its own set of challenges so I’m trying to look at this realistically (I will however live closer geographically in the foreseeable future). I also know that I have to be okay with the fact that he may meet someone else and dating other people. Perhaps someone can offer some words of wisdom to help quell my nerves in the meantime. :) Link to post Share on other sites
chillii Posted August 10, 2020 Share Posted August 10, 2020 lt all depends just who it is. So many round here seem to start relationship with people they shouldn't even be bothering with in the first place but long distance , that has to be with someone very , very , special. Someone you would both marry . lf that is the case then sure you will both survive on min visits and time together and be devoted to each other until you can be together properly. But that depends on whether it's the real thing , anything less and yeah you'll have all those worries and frankly , it's not worth bothering with under ldr circumstances. Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted August 10, 2020 Share Posted August 10, 2020 Sounds like a pen pal. Don't think of it as a relationship. Date locally for that. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted August 10, 2020 Share Posted August 10, 2020 What are you nervous about? There is very little at stake here right now so dial back your investment. You are chatting. You are not dating exclusively. You simply want to keep in touch until such time as you do move, then you can worry about forming a relationship but for now keep it light & casual. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Alpacalia Posted August 10, 2020 Author Share Posted August 10, 2020 6 hours ago, chillii said: But that depends on whether it's the real thing , anything less and yeah you'll have all those worries and frankly , it's not worth bothering with under ldr circumstances. Those are my initial thoughts too. I've known him for a very long time so it's just nice to catch up. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Alpacalia Posted August 10, 2020 Author Share Posted August 10, 2020 4 minutes ago, d0nnivain said: What are you nervous about? There is very little at stake here right now so dial back your investment. You are chatting. You are not dating exclusively. You simply want to keep in touch until such time as you do move, then you can worry about forming a relationship but for now keep it light & casual. True. We were communicating quite heavily in the beginning but I scaled it back a bit for that reason. I'm not looking at it terms of a relationship, I still don't know enough about him presently and if we'd even be compatible. Nervous from past experience I guess so still working through the hiccups. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted August 10, 2020 Share Posted August 10, 2020 7 minutes ago, Alpaca said: Nervous from past experience I guess so still working through the hiccups. Good for you for working through. Try to remember he is a different person than the people who made up your past bad experiences. Link to post Share on other sites
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