almostthere Posted October 11, 2005 Share Posted October 11, 2005 I have been reading thru the posts today and noticed that a lot of people are saying that since their bf or gf answer their ex's phone calls or return calls this means they are still stuck on that person. I never really gave this much thought. I answer my exhusbands calls everytime because we have children. and the guy I am seeing answers his exwifes calls everytime because they have children together also. I am more bothered by the fact that he allows her to come into his home and yell at him because she wants him back. for hours....totally different topic though. I am working thru that issue with him now. He knows I feel like the mistress and the third wheel between his ex and him. That should be enough said. I told him today that I am going to back off and not meet his kids because he is worried or something about his exwife or whatever. Ok obviously I have some issues that keep sneaking up in a simple post. but really phone calls are the least of my worries. Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted October 11, 2005 Share Posted October 11, 2005 Your a scenario where you have to answer the phone because you are connected by children. When someone dumps another and later calls the person they dump they are calling to see if the person is still there waiting.. It's all an ego boost maneuver. they aren't calling to get the person back Being the dumpee and accepting the call you open yourself up to all the hurt coming back in because you still want that person back in your life and they are just boosting their ego. If the dumper wants the dumpee back they will make their intentions known that they made a mistake and want the other back.. Until that happens Why open all the wounds again.. That is why you don't answer.. To move on and heal Link to post Share on other sites
laRubiaBonita Posted October 11, 2005 Share Posted October 11, 2005 when there is a common interest, i.e. kids. then yes, i would think answering x-calls would be fine. but for the childless ex's there really is no reason why they cannot leave a voicemail....if it is that important, i would call them back. Link to post Share on other sites
Hunny Posted October 12, 2005 Share Posted October 12, 2005 Agreed, Where there is kids or a business or the likes ie. common interest then of course there will be calls but otherwise they shouldn't be on friendly terms at all as it makes uncomfortable viewing for the new gf/bf in their lives. Link to post Share on other sites
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