xxxout Posted August 15, 2020 Share Posted August 15, 2020 (edited) Hello. Please don't think this is some stupid teeny drama (especially because of the Instagram part and stuff), I'm feeling down since last year. Sorry if this gets a little long but you need to know a little bit of backstory. Last year I was together with a girl. We dated for like 2 weeks, didn't know us much but still somehow understood ourselves so much that we could engage in a relationship. I broke up with her after 2 months due to some problems we had. At first I felt free but I regretted it after some weeks. I didn't have the courage to talk to her. She got a boyfriend in 2020 and she broke up with him a few months ago. I missed her since last year and I was really hoping we could get back together. Finally we talked again some time after her breakup with her ex. A few weeks after that I confessed my feelings about her and we talked about our relationship and stuff for like 4 hours on a call. I asked her if we could have some contact again and she said yes, but she doesn't want to rush it again and we should start as friends. We had some conversations on Instagram, Whatsapp etc. after that and we even met. Now she suddenly starts to put Tellonym questions in her Instagram story where shes telling people that she is single and answers questions like: ''Can we meet up or have contact?'' or something like that, with things like this: ''try me'' and stuff. I know her. She gets a lot of messages like this and she even tells me that these people are idiots. She follows like 5 of her best friends on Instagram and she always told me that she doesn't have contact with boys, she only hangs out with her friends. I asked her if we could meet up again and she said yes. But she doesn't even text me. I am always the guy who texts her. I just don't get it. I don't know if this whole Instagram thing gets to my head or if she does that on purpose (she never did stuff like this). I don't know what to do. I am sure we could meet if I asked her again, but it somehow feels like I'm a dog, constantly trying to get a girl. I asked these questions on other platforms too and some girls told me that I am just dumb to think all of that. This is Reddit, thus I thought I can reach more open-minded people here. Is this normal? I kinda think she still would be together with me, but she doesn't do anything about it. But when I ask, we can meet for sure. I just don't want to ask anymore. Sorry if I am repeating myself, I am writing this freestyle. Do you guys have any idea what could be going on? Should I just try to not contact her for a while or should I just confess my feelings again.. I am just tired. I hope this was understandable. Edited August 15, 2020 by xxxout Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted August 16, 2020 Share Posted August 16, 2020 some 16 year old girls have a lot of options. It sounds like she does. You hurt her before & she may not be sure she can trust you not to do that again. You may have realized what you lost & you were ethical enough to wait until she was without BF before you made a move. At the point go slow, Be careful not to friendzone yourself but do become someone she knows she can trust. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted August 16, 2020 Share Posted August 16, 2020 Sorry to hear that. She's not ready to date. She's too immature for you. Leave her alone. Do not engage her in silly app games. Just let her be and date more mature experienced girls. Link to post Share on other sites
JTSW Posted August 22, 2020 Share Posted August 22, 2020 This girl is just a child and far too immature for talks of grown up relationships. Her behavior is normal for a girl her age. Link to post Share on other sites
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