Is this friendship worth saving?

[faithandfood]

So I'm 22. I've known this "friend" since 2018 as she is 23. I've noticed some red flags in the friendship: I mostly ask to meet, attitude, talking behind my back, and barely checking in (I mostly would). Because of the whole lock-down and all, we last met in February. I started seeing friends again in June. I asked her and the day to see her, she said she was not free & basically with attitude. She said she was free the following Tues & I left it at that. The following Tues came, and she did not hit me up or anything. As I always asked, I let it go because it felt one-sided. Since then, I did not make up or arrange any plans. She also barely talked to me unless it was replying to my stories or telling me her good news. I replied cordially but kept distance. I have about three best friends, and they are also her mutual friends. We had a small gathering in June, and she ignored and didn't say hi when I came in. She also barely talked to me. I took note of this.

It was not until last week when she messaged me, saying that she feels I hang with everyone except for her. Mind you, she had three months to ask to see me as I asked her last in June. So I told her how I felt, that I felt the friendship was one-sided, she barely checked up on me, and I communicate with my friends to make plans. She then was mostly attacking me, that I did not told her when she was free, how she saw me hanging with everyone but her so she fell back, how I became dry with her and not strike a convo like I used to (??). Mind you, our communication was mainly through Snapchat. Even during this talk, I worked out after seeing her message and she sent another one that was like: "this is what I meant, you don't prioritize speaking to me as a friend during a serious talk"

Anyways, she last sent this: “I apologize that the way I went about things made you feel that the friendship was one-sided. I could have reached out more bc actions speak louder than words. Also, I didn’t even realize I did that at the gathering? Likely I was already drinking and distracted but I didn’t mean anything by it. This whole time I didn’t know you were harboring those feelings bc like I said I didn’t even realize that’s what happened. And again, if I wasn’t talking to you much it’s not bc I had anything against you bc I had no reason to I was just drunk lol. Like you said, had we just communicated better this probably could’ve been avoided. It’s good to see where you stand on this. again, I apologize for the confusion and hurt feelings.”

I did not respond as some of my friends noted it seemed insincere. I also hid her from my stories. The only thing I am worried is our mutual friends. I do not plan to make plans with her again. Even during this serious talk, one of my best friends told me how she messaged her and wanted to make plans. I also found that very strange.

 

[Wiseman2]

Is this a romantic interest? You seem over invested 

[ShyViolet]

She sounds like more trouble than she is worth.  Not a true friend.  She is just causing drama.  Why waste your time with someone like this?  Just because you have mutual friends does not mean that you are forced to be friends with this person.

[Wiseman2]

Focus on getting jobs and making new friends. You'll have more in common if you are interacting with people.