College_girl Posted August 21, 2020 Share Posted August 21, 2020 Hey everyone. I just wanted to give a quick update for anyone who is curious or is going through what I went through. I had to start a new thread. Update: After the breakup it was the hardest thing I ever experienced. About a month and a half of silence between us he reached out and after that we have been spending time together and talking. We slowly started talking through things, going on hikes, communicating with each other, and spending time together. I support him completely and want to see him reach his goals to get healthier overall. He is the love of my life and I am not going anywhere. Oh, his female friend sure doesn’t like me! 😂 she’s just jealous I’m sure because him and I have a bond she cannot break. She definitely wanted me out of the picture completely. She’s just going to have to deal with it. He is my best friend and The love of my life. I will always love and support him. He’s my rock. I’m so happy he’s in my life again. My advice for people is to work on yourself, never give up, be confident, and have your heart open! And communicate communicate communicate. That’s my quick update. Obviously it’s not a fairytale ending but true love has no ending in my opinion. It’s something you have to fight for and not give up so easily on. Thanks for reading. Oh PS: From my experience I would say it would be much easier to just let go, get over it, and start over fresh with someone new. That’s just not my style. I never give up. But for some people it might be devastating to wait and try for something that is not guaranteed. For me it’s worth it. Link to post Share on other sites
schlumpy Posted August 21, 2020 Share Posted August 21, 2020 Please save your post. Print it out and put it with other memorabilia. Ten years from now find it and read it. Link to post Share on other sites
Author College_girl Posted August 24, 2020 Author Share Posted August 24, 2020 Are you implying that in your opinion this relationship will be a memory in ten yours? Or that this post will be something I can read in ten years, happy I didn’t take the easy road and just move on to someone else.? Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted August 25, 2020 Share Posted August 25, 2020 (edited) 10 hours ago, College_girl said: Are you implying that in your opinion this relationship will be a memory in ten yours? Or that this post will be something I can read in ten years, happy I didn’t take the easy road and just move on to someone else.? A little beside the point, but moving on is hardly the easy road. Staying in a bad relationship because it's familiar is often easier than moving on. Staying stagnant in a broken relationship is often a lot less intimidating than ending it and facing the changes and heartache that come with a break-up. It's why a lot of couples stay unhappy together rather than finding the courage to part ways and potentially seek more happiness elsewhere, someday. I am not suggesting yours was a bad relationship, nor that it won't work out. I don't recall the backstory enough to really make an informed guess. But, I don't think it's wise to dismiss moving on as "easy." Hopefully you and your boyfriend can overcome whatever challenges you faced before. Edited August 25, 2020 by ExpatInItaly 1 Link to post Share on other sites
schlumpy Posted August 25, 2020 Share Posted August 25, 2020 10 hours ago, College_girl said: Are you implying that in your opinion this relationship will be a memory in ten yours? Or that this post will be something I can read in ten years, happy I didn’t take the easy road and just move on to someone else.? I guess it could turn out either way. I find it very interesting that you see two interpretations. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author College_girl Posted November 3, 2020 Author Share Posted November 3, 2020 Yeah things are going well. Lots of work but trust is coming back and communication overall is so much better now. Hope everyone is doing well. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
GeorgiaPeach1 Posted November 4, 2020 Share Posted November 4, 2020 On 8/21/2020 at 2:39 AM, College_girl said: Hey everyone. I just wanted to give a quick update for anyone who is curious or is going through what I went through. I had to start a new thread. Update: After the breakup it was the hardest thing I ever experienced. About a month and a half of silence between us he reached out and after that we have been spending time together and talking. We slowly started talking through things, going on hikes, communicating with each other, and spending time together. I support him completely and want to see him reach his goals to get healthier overall. He is the love of my life and I am not going anywhere. Oh, his female friend sure doesn’t like me! 😂 she’s just jealous I’m sure because him and I have a bond she cannot break. She definitely wanted me out of the picture completely. She’s just going to have to deal with it. He is my best friend and The love of my life. I will always love and support him. He’s my rock. I’m so happy he’s in my life again. My advice for people is to work on yourself, never give up, be confident, and have your heart open! And communicate communicate communicate. That’s my quick update. Obviously it’s not a fairytale ending but true love has no ending in my opinion. It’s something you have to fight for and not give up so easily on. Thanks for reading. Oh PS: From my experience I would say it would be much easier to just let go, get over it, and start over fresh with someone new. That’s just not my style. I never give up. But for some people it might be devastating to wait and try for something that is not guaranteed. For me it’s worth it. Why doesn’t his female friend like you? Link to post Share on other sites
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