How can I seperate my dating life from the exes, and sex too?

[basil67]

OP, are you @Realitysux?  

Those people weren't calling you names.  There were having a discussion between themselves which had nothing to do with you.  

[ExpatInItaly]

1 hour ago, basil67 said:

OP, are you @Realitysux?  

Those people weren't calling you names.  There were having a discussion between themselves which had nothing to do with you.  

I’m wondering the same thing. 

The references to people harassing you are very similar to this user, OP. 

[Idontknow100]

I do not have to say my previous user name as I spoke to a moderator and had my user name changed. I also never intended to hurt anyone, they had taken so much from me, I just tried to walk away with something. I defended myself so I could try and feel better about walking away. They just called me a loser but that's on them. 

[d0nnivain]

32 minutes ago, Idontknow100 said:

. They just called me a loser but that's on them. 

You have to learn to put up better boundaries & enforce them.  You should no longer know what these people call you because you should have zero interactions with them.  

[Idontknow100]

36 minutes ago, d0nnivain said:

You have to learn to put up better boundaries & enforce them.  You should no longer know what these people call you because you should have zero interactions with them.  

They posted an ad with my street name today, waste of time to call the police because they didn't use my house number. I feel stronger and start to process this all, I change the narrative in my head, we went out, he didn't like me, he met someone else. I process it and start to see my life again without this person in it but then something happens. I guess I'm still too nice and believe no one would want to see someone do door poorly but I have been wrong about him. 

I try to focus on house work and myself, I'm doing all my laundry again finally! I was trying to find some one not associated with to talk about this. I went on another forum but they were there too! 

 

Edited August 27, 2020 by Idontknow100

[ExpatInItaly]

24 minutes ago, Idontknow100 said:

They posted an ad with my street name today, waste of time to call the police because they didn't use my house number. 

What was the ad for, and where was it posted? 

If you’re constantly finding these people online, perhaps it would be beneficial to unplug for a while. 

[d0nnivain]

Hey, you are running a business.  Why complain about free advertising?  

If the ad was derogatory, speak to a lawyer about suing them for something called tortious interference with a prospective economic advantage.  

[Idontknow100]

41 minutes ago, ExpatInItaly said:

What was the ad for, and where was it posted? 

If you’re constantly finding these people online, perhaps it would be beneficial to unplug for a while. 

This isn't a funny joke. I really have to come to terms with the length of time I was involved in this and that the consistent contact was not what I had thought it was. I have to work through this and hopefully move on with acceptance that I played a very big fool! 

Edited August 27, 2020 by Idontknow100

[Idontknow100]

19 minutes ago, d0nnivain said:

Hey, you are running a business.  Why complain about free advertising?  

If the ad was derogatory, speak to a lawyer about suing them for something called tortious interference with a prospective economic advantage.  

You run a company? I don't want free advertising. My business is my business and no one else's

i also support other business owners as they typically support me. 

Edited August 27, 2020 by Idontknow100

[ExpatInItaly]

3 minutes ago, Idontknow100 said:

This isn't a funny joke. I really have to come to terms with the length of time I was involved in this and that the consistent contact was not what I had thought it was. I have to work through this and hopefully move on with acceptance that I played a very big fool! 

I don’t understand. What as the ad for? 

Anyway, yes, it sounds like you need to come to terms with all of this. In response to your earlier question about a break -up coach, I had instead suggested some general counselling to help you navigate all these feelings and guide your forward. Hopefully you’ll give that some thought so you can lead a more peaceful life free of such chaos. 

[Idontknow100]

3 hours ago, ExpatInItaly said:

What was the ad for, and where was it posted? 

If you’re constantly finding these people online, perhaps it would be beneficial to unplug for a while. 

The ad was looking for a blow job but also telling me they don't like white women. This guy rejected me in February through a women. I acknowledged that I was suppose to let go and move on. I went on a date with another man in February and tried to connect with female friends. The female friend was involved but on behalf of him. 

I logged on to get some support but everywhere I went for strength, they were there over and over again telling me that he wasn't attracted to me, that he moved on. 

I contacted him immediately and told him that I acknowledged that and he didn't have to tell me anymore. I would have no further contact but it didn't end. They wouldn't stop until I blocked them and instead of blocking them, I completely crashed. 

I'm on humiliated because they did so much investigative work into my life and told other people. Other people were responding on their behalf and I felt so defeated. I felt hurt, alone, and no one to talk about this to. 

I don't need to fix myself or drive a car to impress him. The reality is and if you all can't see this, is he had no place in my life to begin with and no business being here. Look at my posts back in February under a different name that you don't know and honestly tell me what I was doing wrong. 

Honestly respond and tell me what I did wrong. I did not try to get the guy back. 

Edited August 27, 2020 by Idontknow100