Dawn37 Posted August 27, 2020 Posted August 27, 2020 Hi all, I hope everyone is well 💕 so it’s been 6 months since exH walked out and things seem to just get worse on a weekly basis. we are going between lawyers trying to fight the custody arrangements! I have asked that he rage the children on a Tuesday, fri to sun every second weekend with a Friday night and a Saturday night alternately between these weekends. This allows him to have one Friday, one Saturday plus every Sunday plus Sunday evening to himself. He is disagreeing to this now stating he wants just a Tuesday and every second weekend. Despite me being at university and weekends being the only time I can work, he is unwilling to accommodate. The children I feel are still trying to adjust to such a huge change in their life and he is forcing his new relationship, I.e allowing the children to FaceTime, organising after school play dates and the OW going to his house to collect her daughter even though they know that right now I don’t want my children around her. He is so unreasonable I am simply asking him to be respectful and stop his disgusting behaviour, and all I get back is that I am the only person who thinks this! He is making me feel like I am loosing my mind. Has anyone else experienced this? Any advice would be welcome 🙏🏼
Wiseman2 Posted August 27, 2020 Posted August 27, 2020 It's sad when parents use custody arrangements as a sort of forced babysitting schedule. It's even sadder to watch parents warring so much that thier kids just become pawns and collateral damage. If you don't come to an agreement the courts will.
Author Dawn37 Posted August 27, 2020 Author Posted August 27, 2020 Wiseman I don’t feel I’m using this as a babysitting arrangement! I’m studying full time towards my degree, a decision made whilst married which my exH fully supported. I work to accommodate his working pattern and I feel that his proposal is all focused on him and his love/social life. Not that of his children
Wiseman2 Posted August 27, 2020 Posted August 27, 2020 1 hour ago, Dawn37 said: he is forcing his new relationship, I.e allowing the children to FaceTime, organising after school play dates and the OW going to his house to collect her daughter even though they know that right now I don’t want my children around her She is not the other woman if you are divorced. You have zero control or say in who he has contact with or who the kids play with on his custody days. Sadly your anger is driving this. Yes he cheated you divorced him and it hurts. However reshift your focus to the kids.
Author Dawn37 Posted August 27, 2020 Author Posted August 27, 2020 We are not divorced and he only walked out 6 months ago. I think a little respect on his part would be the least he could do
Wiseman2 Posted August 27, 2020 Posted August 27, 2020 1 minute ago, Dawn37 said: We are not divorced and he only walked out 6 months ago. I think a little respect on his part would be the least he could do It's awful. Do the best you can with your kids. Hopefully you are only communicating in writing through your attorney. That takes some of the emotion out of it.
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