lana-banana Posted August 28, 2020 Share Posted August 28, 2020 (edited) Anybody who won't give you their real name when having sex with you is not someone who wants to have a relationship. I'm sorry but this guy is not someone to invest in. Whatever his reasons for not being fully honest with you, anybody who feels they have to lie is a bad match. Does your area have a Planned Parenthood? You can find their nearest location on their website. They offer low or free STD testing and steep discounts on other reproductive services (such as Plan B). They can also help you talk through what sort of birth control is best for you. No Planned Parenthood? Do Google searches for "STD clinic" and "STD testing". There may be a clinic in your area that offers similar services. If you're uncomfortable with pills, you may want to use condoms and spermicides---doubling up on these methods makes them more effective. But it will help if you talk to an experienced, licensed professional about what's best for you. It may surprise you! When I was younger I thought the patch sounded great but when the doctor explained it I realized it was a very bad match for me. And don't worry about cost---thanks to the Affordable Care Act, these things are much much cheaper than they used to be and in some cases are free. In the future, if you have unprotected sex or something goes wrong, you can purchase Plan B at most pharmacies. You don't need a prescription or anyone's permission. If that makes you uncomfortable, ask for it at a Planned Parenthood or local clinic and save it for later. Be sure to take it as soon as possible after the unprotected sex - sooner is always best. Also, you are under 26 - I would strongly suggest getting the Gardasil vaccine. It can save your life and the lives of your partners! Edited August 28, 2020 by lana-banana 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted August 28, 2020 Share Posted August 28, 2020 9 hours ago, lancelondon said: Then we were pulling up to my house and I asked for his name. He told me a fake name. Is he married? If you are sexually active you'll need to concern yourself with contraception and STD protection. Keep in mind there's plenty of STDs you can get from oral. Do you live with your parents? Where did you have sex? Link to post Share on other sites
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted August 28, 2020 Share Posted August 28, 2020 1 hour ago, Wiseman2 said: Is he married? If you are sexually active you'll need to concern yourself with contraception and STD protection. Keep in mind there's plenty of STDs you can get from oral. Do you live with your parents? Where did you have sex? She said they are both 18, so pretty unlikely he is married unless he has also lied about his age. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted August 28, 2020 Share Posted August 28, 2020 9 minutes ago, CautiouslyOptimistic said: unless he has also lied about his age. But we do know his shoe 👟 size.🤔 3 Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted August 28, 2020 Share Posted August 28, 2020 My heart breaks for you. You talk about having sex with a man who lied to you. You don't know how long the condom was off. Yet you are thinking about the next time even though you said you don't want a relationship with him & you know he's not interested in being exclusive with you. Get an STD test & work on your self esteem. Why are you debasing yourself this way? 2 Link to post Share on other sites
notbroken Posted August 28, 2020 Share Posted August 28, 2020 I'm just going to be blunt. You are acting like someone who is going to end up unmarried and pregnant and/or have an STD. You are considering having sex with someone (again) that lied about his name and who knows what else (meaning he isn't looking for a long term thing with you - just sex). You know nothing about him. Not the path to a great future with him or anyone else. Honestly, it is the path to having a fatherless child (or multiple ones) with little to no future. Take better care of yourself. You deserve better. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted August 28, 2020 Share Posted August 28, 2020 9 hours ago, lancelondon said: I know the basic info - age, family, birth place, height, shoe size, Track him down like that prince in the story about the glass shoe. He didn't know who she was either. Link to post Share on other sites
Author lancelondon Posted August 28, 2020 Author Share Posted August 28, 2020 6 hours ago, lana-banana said: Anybody who won't give you their real name when having sex with you is not someone who wants to have a relationship. I'm sorry but this guy is not someone to invest in. Whatever his reasons for not being fully honest with you, anybody who feels they have to lie is a bad match. Does your area have a Planned Parenthood? You can find their nearest location on their website. They offer low or free STD testing and steep discounts on other reproductive services (such as Plan B). They can also help you talk through what sort of birth control is best for you. No Planned Parenthood? Do Google searches for "STD clinic" and "STD testing". There may be a clinic in your area that offers similar services. If you're uncomfortable with pills, you may want to use condoms and spermicides---doubling up on these methods makes them more effective. But it will help if you talk to an experienced, licensed professional about what's best for you. It may surprise you! When I was younger I thought the patch sounded great but when the doctor explained it I realized it was a very bad match for me. And don't worry about cost---thanks to the Affordable Care Act, these things are much much cheaper than they used to be and in some cases are free. In the future, if you have unprotected sex or something goes wrong, you can purchase Plan B at most pharmacies. You don't need a prescription or anyone's permission. If that makes you uncomfortable, ask for it at a Planned Parenthood or local clinic and save it for later. Be sure to take it as soon as possible after the unprotected sex - sooner is always best. Also, you are under 26 - I would strongly suggest getting the Gardasil vaccine. It can save your life and the lives of your partners! Thank you for your advice, it means a lot. I'll have to get that vaccine then, I didn't even know it existed tbh 5 hours ago, Wiseman2 said: Is he married? No he's single 4 hours ago, d0nnivain said: Why are you debasing yourself this way? I honestly don't know to tell the truth 3 hours ago, notbroken said: Take better care of yourself. You deserve better. Thank you, I will 3 hours ago, Wiseman2 said: Track him down like that prince in the story about the glass shoe. He didn't know who she was either. I will, I don't think it'll end up having a happy ending like that though. Link to post Share on other sites
Pumaza Posted August 29, 2020 Share Posted August 29, 2020 Why are you even do all of this?for sex?😳😳 No one,for sure no guy takes you serious if you offer yourself for hookups.Because its hook ups and they do it exactly to not having to get serious and involved. You sound like you dont even know much about sex or guys. Talk to your parents let them know you are sexually active and how.So they can inform you more.Or atleast tell your female doctor.Best is to stop this hookups and also true websites. For same you may meet a crazy dude who will harm you ! Link to post Share on other sites
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