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So are there any legal forums out there - or is there anybody here who knows about legal stuff, a lawyer or a paralegal maybe? 

I dated a guy for quite some time and he moved in with me into my home after abt 2 years of dating. He did a few updates that he wanted to do, because e.g. the bathroom was too small for him (no bathtub, and he wanted double sinks etc), and he wanted to do some other updates downstairs. Which I would’ve never considered, and would’ve never been able to afford by the way. 

The house has been only in my name - was always mine -  and he lived here maybe for 14 months altogether...also paid the mortgage during that time.....And then he decided to move away, all of a sudden, really shortly after all the updates were finished - so we were long distance for a year after that (a 5-hour flight away), and after being away for a while he decided to break up with me. Given the way my boyfriend acted I have to assume that he has met somebody else, but I understand that this is of no interest to the court. Why am I mentioning the court? Because he is now suing me for his “investment”. It’s a larger amount and I have no way to reimburse him. I wanted this relationship to work out, and we’ve been talking about marriage etc. WTH? Do I really owe him money? It’s quite a chunk of money, and I’d have to sell the house to pay him back. No way I could afford it otherwise. No way I would’ve agreed to these upgrades if I had known that I would have to pay for them or even half. He knew all that, so I’m really flabbergasted right now. He knew how little I made - not really little, I’ve always been fine financially -  but compared to him being a very high earner I make - maybe -like 10%/20%  of what he made. And now I just got a letter from a lawyer stating that he’s suing me for unjust enrichment. What?? 
I never agreed to anything. I never signed anything. So I’m really lost here .... I would really appreciate an attorney’s input here. Maybe a family lawyer or something like that

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No quality lawyer is going to give you legal advice over the internet without knowing the jurisdiction you are in, reading the complaint & talking to you.  

You need a lawyer who can defend you in a a breech of contract suit.  Either do an internet search for local lawyers,  check out law.com, avvo.com or call your local bar association for a referral.  Law is NOT a self help thing; do not go it alone here & do NOT ignore the court.  

The answer will depend on a number of factors not appropriate for discussion over a public internet message board which  would defeat the purpose of the attorney client privilege.  Anything you post about this case is subject to discovery in the suit so shut up & stop posting.  

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33 minutes ago, d0nnivain said:

No quality lawyer is going to give you legal advice over the internet without knowing the jurisdiction you are in, reading the complaint & talking to you.  

You need a lawyer who can defend you in a a breech of contract suit.  Either do an internet search for local lawyers,  check out law.com, avvo.com or call your local bar association for a referral.  Law is NOT a self help thing; do not go it alone here & do NOT ignore the court.  

The answer will depend on a number of factors not appropriate for discussion over a public internet message board which  would defeat the purpose of the attorney client privilege.  Anything you post about this case is subject to discovery in the suit so shut up & stop posting.  

Agreed! Find a lawyer and don’t post about this anymore.  

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We can't help you, OP

You have to speak to a lawyer in your jurisdiction who knows your local laws and the details of your case. A relationship forum isn't the right place for the questions you have. 

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Ruby Slippers

What a loser. I'm pretty sure he has zero right to any compensation from you, unless you had a signed legal agreement in place, which I highly doubt. 

This is why you never mix finances, make a major purchase, or do any kind of investment into major assets with a boyfriend/girlfriend. 

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3 hours ago, Ruby_Red said:

 I just got a letter from a lawyer stating that he’s suing me for unjust enrichment. 
I never agreed to anything. I never signed anything. So I’m really lost here .... I would really appreciate an attorney’s input here. Maybe a family lawyer or something like that

You need to take the legal documents to an attorney. It sounds like a nuisance lawsuit because that was his residence at the time. Nonetheless if you received legal papers you'll need an attorney. It will probably get dismissed, but you need to address it.

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You need to get a lawyer to know what your rights are. I don’t think you need to pay him back. The house is in your name and you were not married. 

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CautiouslyOptimistic

Oh geez.  I thought it was bad when an ex threatened to sue me over a fender bender (and lost wages) he blamed on me because he was mad at me/fuming when it happened.  This is way worse!  I agree, time for a lawyer.

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lol he is crazy, its your home, if he decided to throw money that it that's his bad.

But yeah, I'd find a lawyer to help you out

 

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I suspect. being he never submitter a estimate or a bill for the repairs while living there.  he has no basis to sue. It doesn't look like you contracted him to do the repairs.  did you sign anything agreeing to pay?

 

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I don't think he has a case but yes, you need a lawyer. Also, you may ask on law.com . I asked there about some situation and they were helpful. Definitely a better place to ask than loveshack.  I'm sorry, he sounds horrible and petty. You dodged a bullet and I'm glad you two didn't get married.

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