jb0023 Posted September 3, 2020 Share Posted September 3, 2020 So I'll try and keep this is as short as I can. But pretty much, me and my ex were and are still really close friends (albeit not the healthiest in a romantic relationship which kinda fizzled out over the course of 4 years.) We realized we were both immature and needed to grow and find people who fit us better. But we were really like peas in a pod. We road tripped across the country together, we have been there for eachother through really challenging medical times, etc. I honestly really consider her my family and my sister I never had (which is weird to admit after having dated lol.) Anywho, we're each dating new people and she's engaged to a new guy (extremely happy for her) and I'm dating someone else who I'm head over heels for, and plan to eventually propose to. And through all this me and my ex have remained really good friends still, and each of our partners are cool with it, which is awesome! However, from time to time I really do get these feelings I cant shake of missing my ex a lot on certain days. Not even romantically whatsoever, I just miss her company and laughing with her. And it's weird being apart still, and I hate that I'm like this because I should have moved on by now. And I promise you, I'm 100% in love with my current girlfriend, she's a much better fit for me so that has nothing to do with it. I just need help sorting through why I can't let this part of my past go and move forward. Any advice? I'm thinking of seeing a therapist to help me sort through these feelings, because I really want to look ahead. I think it's also partly my personality type but who knows haha. Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted September 3, 2020 Share Posted September 3, 2020 (edited) What is your new GF, if your ex is still "your best friend"? Edited September 3, 2020 by Wiseman2 1 Link to post Share on other sites
schlumpy Posted September 3, 2020 Share Posted September 3, 2020 It sounds as if your new Girlfriend is going to regret being "cool" with the "best friends relationship" you have with your EX. You should feel indifference towards old girlfriend. Tell your new girlfriend about your relapses into the good old days before you ask her to marry you. It's only fair. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted September 3, 2020 Share Posted September 3, 2020 You are mixing things up. If it's really as platonic as you claim recognize there are different kinds of love. When you want to hear her laugh call her & chat for a few minutes. If that doesn't quell you missing her & you find yourself missing the sexual / romantic / kissing+ parts then you have a problem. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Mystery4u Posted September 3, 2020 Share Posted September 3, 2020 This is all because of your own choice. And only you can make it better, no need for a therapist etc. Stop being friends with your ex. The fact that you state you are still really close friends is very bad. Your new girlfriend should be your best and closest friend, not your ex. Your boundaries are very unhealthy. I'm surprised your new gf is so 'cool' with the situation. She shouldn't be. Cut off all contact with your ex and cut her out of your life, if you want to actually move forward. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
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