Fearful Avoidant Ex with Depression

[zacharie7301]

My ex girlfriend is fearful avoidant and she also suffers from both Depression & Anxiety. I'm mostly a secure attachment type with a little bit of anxious. Both of us are 24.

Our relationship got stronger over the course of 2 years. We started spending more time with our families, we went on vacation for a week and had a wonderful time. I felt our relationship was growing stronger and she was always very loving, letting me know how much I mean to her, always wanted to spend time with me, and always telling me how much she wants to marry me.

The following week after coming back from vacation, her family member was hospitalized, she was feeling stressed and overwhelmed with both work and school. Out of nowhere she told me she can't handle a relationship right now, that she feels depressed and unhappy, that I would be happier with someone else, and that it's best we breakup. She told me our relationship moved too fast, (despite her being the one pushing the gas pedal) and it was like her depression/anxiety triggered her to self-sabotage our relationship.

I was left with a loss of words, it was like her depression made her loose feelings for me and her anxiety triggered her to self-sabotage our relationship, thinking it was coming to an end, but it wasn't.

After the breakup, we went to lunch where she told about how unhappy she feels right now. We held hands and hugged. She says that we can be friends for now, take things slow, still hang out, and when she's in a better state maybe we can try again.

I don't want to turn my back on her in her time of need especially while she's depressed, which would look like i'm abandoning her. We still communicate, although she a bit distant now. 

Any advice on how to handle this? or Ever been in a similar situation? 

Do fearful avoidants ever comeback or regret their decision to self-sabotage their relationships that were going fine?

Edited September 3, 2020 by zacharie7301