Nobody text me / call me. What should I do?

[BUzz86]

When I use to have friends (Either female or male) at the first stages, we are equally interested in the discussion, maybe they are more interested than me, but after a while this is just me sending messages, they won t start a conversation until I start. I text more than them and don t use strategy in my relationships but I feel they (especially females) do. I m an over thinker, I use strategic thinking all the day but never wanted to use them in relationships because I found relationships somewhere to get out of my "logic zone" and I say it to myself if I should use strategies in relationships too, so why shouldn t I continue being alone? Right now, I m in a relationship with one of my classmates which is a female(university) and she replies late, 1-2 days later and the problem is she never texts me until I do. Should I choose the split option now? And what about other friendships(Not sure if it is a "friendship" ???!!!) I m having right now which are exactly like my relationship with the one I described above? I'm 23, I have had girlfriends older than me(29-30 y.o) and they were a lot more interested in talking with me than my classmates. Well my appearance isn't that bad to cause me to be ignored, I'm also a valedictorian in my university and I'm not talking with proud about it but I felt my classmates(females) were curious about me, but again it happens everytime, I go into relationship and I rage quit the way I described above. IDK what's wrong with me or them?

 

 

The energy distribution is like 95 % I give and 5 % I receive! 😕 it happens all the time.

 

If it even matters, I don't live in the US.

Edited September 4, 2020 by BUzz86

[BUzz86]

My question aside from seeking for help on this , is : What should I do with my relationshlts* I'm having right now.

I have online friends but they won't text me until I send a message, and I feel my energy and commitment is not being reciprocated.

Edited September 4, 2020 by BUzz86

[d0nnivain]

As the man, many women are going to expect you to put in more effort. 

If you are seeking opposite sex friends, do they know that?  Some of these women may have thought you were romantically interested in them & when a request for a date wasn't forthcoming, they lost interest. 

As for your mates, I honestly didn't know men kept track of this stuff.  If you buddies are responding, just go with the flow.  

[Syd8]

I don't have any friends and nobody texts or calls me at all. I got tired of putting in the effort and got nothing back. Friendship is a two way street. It shouldn't be up to one person to make all the effort. 

[mortensorchid]

On 9/5/2020 at 9:31 AM, Syd8 said:

I don't have any friends and nobody texts or calls me at all. I got tired of putting in the effort and got nothing back. Friendship is a two way street. It shouldn't be up to one person to make all the effort. 

It took me a long time to reach this conclusion myself.  I am always the one who reached out and found people from the past, as well as cared about keeping up with others.  I have to accept the fact that others are not really interested in others, or they seem not to be.  Once certain periods in your life come to an end (leave/graduate from schools, moving, break up with someone, leaving jobs, etc.), so do your relationships with others you met from them.  I remember once years ago I ran into the mom of a gal I knew in high school and she asked me if I talk to anyone I went to high school with, I said "Never.  The day after high school was over, they cut me out of their lives, I cut them out of mine.  I'll bump into someone in a public place once in a while."  She rolled her eyes because that was the same for her daughter.  Why?  I don't know, except that that's how it is now.