I am sitting in my pj's crying and have no desire to start my day.:(

[Juliet2]

He came out about being with other men at the end of summer when i was tipped off that he had a profile on GAY.com I entered his email address to see if the site would send him his password and it did prooving he was a member at one time.

 

I called him at work crying and he rushed home to my place to explain. We talked about it and he said that was before me. He insisted I was "The one women" he could be faithful and devoted to even though he cheated on other girls he loved before with men. He said he felt so much better with me knowing the truth of his past too. WE deleted his profile together and he said there were no morer. I am pretty sure i entered his email soon after for lost password and his addy was clean from the system.

 

Last night i checked to see if he had been being good. I entered his email address to see if the site would send him a password...This would tell me if he had a profile again. Well it sent his password!. He has another profile up on GAY.COM!!

 

I told him about it ASAP and he says it must be another old profile. There is no date on it to prove different. I made a new account to see if it would allow doubles and it did but informed me that there was already another profile up. So he must have knew.

 

I went into the Gay chat rooms to see if he talked to anyone recently... I need to know the TRUTH. I can't take this again. I went through this with my bf before him! I ignored all of his calls last night...I spoke to him briefly today. He insists it is not a profile he remembers. I told him the name of the profile as it was simular to the name of the old one but with dashes. He said he never usues dashes... I can't eat ..i can't sleep.. i need the truth. I am sitting in my pj's crying and have no desire to start my day.

 

We were supposed to go to his parents this weekend.. i told him i was not going now.

[Art_Critic]

Man.. The drama..

See.. you should've taken the 2 mil..

 

 

The answer is in front of you .. GAY

[Juliet2]

That is of course only intercourse...he may have sexually been with plenty more. He does not count oral as sex..therefore there could be more men than women ..who knows? I am so confused..i know what your saying is end it. right?

[Art_Critic]

I'm not saying end it..

 

You have to know where your own boundaries are.

 

I would not tolerate deceit in that manner as well as be with someone that was unsure about their sexual identity

[Juliet2]

In love I want to believe in every hopeful promise I hear.

 

I need to know where the harsh truth starts and the naive line ends to determin my boundaries.

 

I want to believe in him so badly.. but i do not want to torture myself to have it happen again. Hurt now...Hurt later or maybe there is a chance he is telling the truth and I will not be hurt again. I am so confused!

 

A pollygraph machine is cheap but the course on how to use it takes months. It also says they are often inconclusive. What's left gut feeling.. that part of me has never developed.

[JadeStar]

Man.. The drama..

See.. you should've taken the 2 mil..

 

 

The answer is in front of you .. GAY

 

 

 

I was about to say the same thing, but was beat to the punch.

 

 

 

 

Jade

[Hunny]

Awww hun i feel for you i really do but I'm gonna cut to the chase...if he was bi-curious then maybe you could accept ONE profile on the gay site but to check his email and have no profile then check again and hey presto there one is...ALARM BELLS!!!! He sounds like he's licking both sides of the stamp and its gonna end in tears and they won't be his. xx

[Juliet2]

I pretended i was my bf on GAY.COM and this is what i learned. I can't stop crying.

My BF said it is not true... it was not him.

 

 

looking-in-belleville: Did we ever meet?

DaTZ_HoT22: we never did.. we were going to but i had class... we never got a chance to

looking-in-belleville: oh

looking-in-belleville: when was that again?

DaTZ_HoT22: uhmm... Thursday last week

DaTZ_HoT22: i went home for tha weekend

looking-in-belleville: did we talk here?

looking-in-belleville: or did you call?

DaTZ_HoT22: yeah... we talked on here

looking-in-belleville: you are on my msn right?

DaTZ_HoT22: i don't know... what's ur msn?

looking-in-belleville: are you sure it was me you talked to?

looking-in-belleville: whats my name?

DaTZ_HoT22: CHaoTic22:

DaTZ_HoT22: that's my other screenname

looking-in-belleville: what is my name?

looking-in-belleville: i want to see if you remember?

DaTZ_HoT22: you didn't tell me ur name

DaTZ_HoT22: i'll guess is it Mike?... lol

looking-in-belleville: can you tell me anything that can proove it was me you were talking too?

DaTZ_HoT22: Well you live in Kigston but work in Belleville

looking-in-belleville: my gf was snooping

looking-in-belleville: she may have been pretending it was me

DaTZ_HoT22: noway..

looking-in-belleville: where were we going to meet?

DaTZ_HoT22: on Station St....

DaTZ_HoT22: by the carwash

DaTZ_HoT22: but i had class...

DaTZ_HoT22: how do i know your not tha girlfriend?

looking-in-belleville: you are close it is the other way around...work in Kingston

DaTZ_HoT22: Oh.. i knew it was something like that

looking-in-belleville: She does not know i am a top

looking-in-belleville: and i prolly told you that

DaTZ_HoT22: yeah... do you remember the screenname CHaoTic22?

looking-in-belleville: sounds familiar... i talk to so many people here though

DaTZ_HoT22: yeah.. well thats my other name you always talked to me on there

looking-in-belleville: why do you have 2?

DaTZ_HoT22: i just made 2

DaTZ_HoT22: no reason

looking-in-belleville: did i tell you what i looked like

looking-in-belleville: or what i was driving?

DaTZ_HoT22: yeah but it was so like Thursday i don't remember...

DaTZ_HoT22: what's with all tha questions?

DaTZ_HoT22: lol

DaTZ_HoT22: anyway.. whatever i'm not your girlfriend so ... just whatever

looking-in-belleville: lmao!

looking-in-belleville: good one

DaTZ_HoT22: thanks

DaTZ_HoT22: lol

looking-in-belleville: i ask because i do not think it was me you talked to

DaTZ_HoT22: yeah it was

looking-in-belleville: i can't remember planning to meet you last Thurs

DaTZ_HoT22: it must've been Friday then cause you had asked me to skip class to meet you and i didn't ... sorry i went to class instead

DaTZ_HoT22: but oh well... u must've been drunk ...lol

looking-in-belleville: well the funny thing is i am not even in Kingston on Thursdays

DaTZ_HoT22: maybe it was friday then... but all i know is that i was talking to you... cause i know screennames

looking-in-belleville: what time of day was it i spoke to you on friday

DaTZ_HoT22: It must've been like about 11AM-1:30pm

looking-in-belleville: online?

DaTZ_HoT22: yeah here on gay.com

DaTZ_HoT22: maybe i was talking to you gf who knows

looking-in-belleville: well this is the GF!

looking-in-belleville: JK

DaTZ_HoT22: Ooh... well whatever

looking-in-belleville: what time were supposed to meet on Friday?

DaTZ_HoT22: lol

DaTZ_HoT22: suppose to be in the afternoon...

[Skeered]

Sounds like your guy is for sure playing both sides here..and it also sounds like you have approached him and asked him questions and you were open with him. But maybe he's in denial of his true self. If he's really gay and not just curious but he can't except it.

 

My sister was married to 13 years to a gay man and finally he came out and confirmed it. He had been playing both sides also but it was easier to play the straight guy even though the wife and kids were suffering at home waiting for him to be honest.

 

I think you need to let him go and find a straight guy that can love you and only you and be honest...

[Hunny]

OMG!!! I have to hand it to you on your investigative skills but i feel so bad for you. After reading that i wanted to ask for his number and i'd call him myself and tell him what a complete jerk he is! you gotta call your friends or family and get them round, DONT see him for at least a week i know it'll near kill you and he'll wanna talk and you need answers but wait til you've got over the shock and realise what an idiot this guy is.

 

Chin up babe

xxx

[Juliet2]

DaTZ_HoT22: suppose to be in the afternoon...

looking-in-belleville: did i give you my cell # and asked you to block your # first

looking-in-belleville: help me

looking-in-belleville: do not be mad

DaTZ_HoT22: i'm not mad...

looking-in-belleville: ive been crying and crying

looking-in-belleville: i am his gf

looking-in-belleville: i am so hurt

looking-in-belleville: i took a lot of pills i am so depressed

DaTZ_HoT22: are you serious?... omg

looking-in-belleville: not enough to kill me though

DaTZ_HoT22: well i just want you to know that he came to me... i've never done anything with him before... and i knew you were his girlfriend

looking-in-belleville: you did?

DaTZ_HoT22: yeah, it was so obvious hunny

looking-in-belleville: he is still denying it

looking-in-belleville: i need more proof to be sure

DaTZ_HoT22: omg, well you're chatting on gay.com

DaTZ_HoT22: isn't that enough proof?

looking-in-belleville: you may talk to many man with belleville in their name

DaTZ_HoT22: you're bf is interested in guys

looking-in-belleville: he swears on his familiy it was not him

looking-in-belleville: he was working Friday.. he does not have access to the net in his truck

looking-in-belleville: is their anything else you know.. like what time of day or night did you usually talk?

DaTZ_HoT22: alright well i know i talked to him before under abother screenname he wanted me to skip class to meet him and i was like sure but i didn't go

DaTZ_HoT22: we talked during the day like how we are talking now

looking-in-belleville: do you remember his old screen name?

looking-in-belleville: when did he first contact you?

looking-in-belleville: may i call you?

looking-in-belleville: please

DaTZ_HoT22: this was the screen name

DaTZ_HoT22: i have a longdistance phone

looking-in-belleville: i will call you

DaTZ_HoT22: honestly hun... u need to leave him cause the screenname.... looking-in-belleville.... meaning he comes on this website to hook up with guys

DaTZ_HoT22: not i.. i'm about looking for friends

DaTZ_HoT22: so when he wante dto hook up with me i was like **** that

DaTZ_HoT22: lol

looking-in-belleville: he says this was an old profile..he thought he was off this site

looking-in-belleville: he made a choice to be with me..no more guys

looking-in-belleville: he is yelling at me on the phone

DaTZ_HoT22: tell him it's over and move on... i'm sure his hooked up with someone on this site and it wasn't me

looking-in-belleville: this time a day through the week you talked to him?

DaTZ_HoT22: i know you love him and whatever... but if that was my guy once someone cheats on me it's done

looking-in-belleville: maybe it was not him? He really has no access to the net from his truck

DaTZ_HoT22: hmm... well who else could have it been?

looking-in-belleville: good point

DaTZ_HoT22: this is like Days of our lives ****

DaTZ_HoT22: lol

looking-in-belleville: sure it was not bellevilleboi?

DaTZ_HoT22: Nope i swear

looking-in-belleville: or bellevillebear?

DaTZ_HoT22: Nope

DaTZ_HoT22: this was the SN

DaTZ_HoT22: on more than one occasion i've talked to him

DaTZ_HoT22: not just thursday... but before that too

looking-in-belleville: please are you sure.. don't play games with me..

looking-in-belleville: i am a messs

DaTZ_HoT22: I'M SURE!

DaTZ_HoT22: 100% POSITIVE

looking-in-belleville: i need proof

DaTZ_HoT22: i've talked to him on more than one occasion...

DaTZ_HoT22: that i talked to him?

looking-in-belleville: any personal info on him?

looking-in-belleville: he has no access to a pc in the day

DaTZ_HoT22: i don't remember i'm a stoner

DaTZ_HoT22: lol

looking-in-belleville: i talk to him often on his cell

DaTZ_HoT22: i seriously don't have a good memory but i know this SN and i've talked to him before

looking-in-belleville: may i please phone you

DaTZ_HoT22 is not available

[HotCaliGirl]

Go get tested for HIV and STDs - if he's lying about having sex with other men, why take his word about whether or not he uses condoms with them?

[Kengne]

OMG...

 

I tht I was an investigator but hats off to YOU Juliet!

 

I'm so sorry you are going through this! Where u able to call and speak to the guy who *allegedly* ALMOST hooked up in person with your bf? I think you need to stop pounding him with the questions.. he's being as honest as possible, and the onus is now on YOU to take the info he's given and make a decision. Do you believe your bf, or him?

 

IMO... I think you are the borderline where naivete ends and the truth starts. SOMETHING was going on. I know you love and want to believe in your bf, but how much do you need to know to make a decision? Better yet, do you think your bf can be honest with you? Cuz it doesn't seem like he can, esp if he knows admitting what he did will cause him to lose you.

 

K.

[Juliet2]

no he would not talk to me anymore... and my bf is now an ex-bf He thinks he can proove himself to me somehow some way.

 

 

The upside is i have a cute cop who invited me out to lunch today. I never went cuz of my mood... crying heartbroken mess.

 

There is a funny story behind that. My phone password was 9112 somehow the phone dissconnected and dialed 911. I got the operator and i begged her not to send over the police as it was an error. I hung up the phone and picked it back up and she was still there! Then i unplugged the phone and plugged it in..they were still there. Then the door bell... A cop still came to the door and i was a mess..i just woke up~! It was a cop i met off a dating site a few years back..i was so embarrssed..my eyes were puffy my hair was a mess..no makeup.. but he asked me out to lunch today anyway..lol

[LucreziaBorgia]

A cop still came to the door and i was a mess..i just woke up~! It was a cop i met off a dating site a few years back..i was so embarrssed..my eyes were puffy my hair was a mess..no makeup.. but he asked me out to lunch today anyway..lol

 

 

Well, one thing is for sure. Your posts have some real entertainment value if nothing else. Your stories remind me of my mother actually, who is a pathological liar - for real! What is scary, though - is that when she lies, she actually incorporates the lies into her reality and creates false memories based on those lies. Her lies become her reality. She can't distinguish the difference.

 

I'm not saying you are a pathological liar but your over the top stories remind me a lot of the sort of stuff my mother says.

[it's true hun]

I want a normal life. I really do. I don't want to wake up everyday to a new DRAMA. I can't concentrate on important things in my life because of all the drama.

 

I need a new identity on this site but i will not make a fake account even though no one thinks i am for real about my posts. My bf told me to change my user name if i was going to talk about this.

 

He knows everything is true but he also said if he did not know me he would not believe it either so change my user name. Not happening.. but really if you think about it..my life should settle down sometime soon.

 

Chaos does not last forever.

[whichwayisup]

Break up with him. Plain and simple.

 

Are you liking your boyfriend? No trust, no real honesty there...SO, what are you going to do about it?

[Juliet2]

Break up with him. Plain and simple.

 

 

Breaking up is never plain or simple.

[SmoochieFace]

It would be in this case if I was in that position.

 

If my SO turned out to be gay in any way, shape, or form... then it's 'Adios!'

[whichwayisup]

Break up with him. Plain and simple.

 

 

Breaking up is never plain or simple.

 

I know it's not. Easier said than done. But in your case I think time apart will tell you if he's full of crap or not. Sometimes we see things more clearly when we take a giant step back. You cannot be objective and see the whole picture when you're inside it!

[maybe u r right]

Do i still talk to him?.. or no contact at all? I don't know if i can do that.