do I tell his wife

[Veronica73]

2 hours ago, Miss Clavel said:

first she needs to delete, at the very least all the ones of her and his wife. then let the wife know, that one tiny aspect of the life she has zero control over, her own, is safe.

Well, he still has his copy. And he probably has at least one backup. Ugh.

[Narie]

IMO it is better for you to tell her and even send the videos.

This way she can decided whether to stay with him or not. If she still stayed with him despite it all then that'd on her to carry. If he's been sleeping with different women and ended up getting sick and spread it to his wife... tell her.

She already knew about you so what else is the problem?

[VD01]

Since he was pretending to be divorced. I asked him what made them divorced, he never talked bad about her. He just put the blame on him “it was me. My work made me busy and she was constantly unhappy about it”  

When I asked him if she cheated he said “No. The fault is on me. I was busy “ and when I asked him if she has a boyfriend now, he was silenced for a bit and said then said “Not that I know of. But we remain friendly with each other”

but every time I am becoming suspicious and overly Naggy about it he often compares me to his wife. Because she also doesn’t trust him. Often check on him etc.

last time we talked he said “my daughter(his wife) is often home, she suddenly comes at the house to check on me if I am not going anywhere and being careful if covid. That one too, is very much like you. She doesn’t trust me as well”

Which I replied “maybe because you are giving her reasons to” and he just laughed.

So maybe his wife is also a bit suspicious like me or maybe she also noticing or sensing  some things, but just didn’t have any evidence or so.

it is funny that he talk about it as if he is not doing anything wrong...