Author SuperHeroMan Posted September 22, 2020 Author Share Posted September 22, 2020 1 hour ago, jspice said: You don't seem to make the distinction between humour and facts. I don't understand what you're not understanding about this. It does seem like facts though, and the humour seems like a result of that. Link to post Share on other sites
jspice Posted September 22, 2020 Share Posted September 22, 2020 7 minutes ago, SuperHeroMan said: It does seem like facts though, and the humour seems like a result of that. You’re ignoring what every ACTUAL father here has told you in favour of “joke” articles. its not “facts” Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted September 22, 2020 Share Posted September 22, 2020 SuperHeroMan Are you wondering how somebody's father might react to you? Most fathers want their daughters to find happiness, love & security. It's human nature to want the best for your kids. The links you are posting are humor -- it's exaggerated. Why is that not clear to you? Link to post Share on other sites
elaine567 Posted September 22, 2020 Share Posted September 22, 2020 1 hour ago, d0nnivain said: The links you are posting are humor -- it's exaggerated. Why is that not clear to you? I don't know why he can't see that either. The style, format and colourways of these video links would alert most to not take them seriously. Link to post Share on other sites
Author SuperHeroMan Posted September 22, 2020 Author Share Posted September 22, 2020 (edited) 1 hour ago, d0nnivain said: SuperHeroMan Are you wondering how somebody's father might react to you? Most fathers want their daughters to find happiness, love & security. It's human nature to want the best for your kids. The links you are posting are humor -- it's exaggerated. Why is that not clear to you? Yeah, that kinda is it. If I ever date a woman someday, I want to let her father know I'm a good man that will treat his daughter very great, and I want to become friends with her father. While, the links are exaggerated, I have read a lot of stories online of girls talking about how overprotective their fathers are and how their fathers hate the idea of them dating and having a boyfriend. Edited September 22, 2020 by SuperHeroMan Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted September 22, 2020 Share Posted September 22, 2020 Part of growing up is separating from one's parents & becoming an independent self sufficient adult. Part of that process entails a period where people, usually more girls then boys, think their parents are smothering. That doesn't mean the parents are over protective It's just the emerging young adult pushing at boundaries. It's all part of the process. If you are a respectful, polite young man who treats his daughter well, a good father will appreciate you as being a proper man for his daughter. Do not go out of your way to befriend the father or you will be viewed as obsequious which is bad. Nobody likes a sycophant. There is no need to stress about this. Stop getting your info about life from comedy sketches. Talk to you own parents & older adults in your life. Let their wisdom guide you. Link to post Share on other sites
Author SuperHeroMan Posted September 22, 2020 Author Share Posted September 22, 2020 24 minutes ago, d0nnivain said: Part of growing up is separating from one's parents & becoming an independent self sufficient adult. Part of that process entails a period where people, usually more girls then boys, think their parents are smothering. That doesn't mean the parents are over protective It's just the emerging young adult pushing at boundaries. It's all part of the process. If you are a respectful, polite young man who treats his daughter well, a good father will appreciate you as being a proper man for his daughter. Do not go out of your way to befriend the father or you will be viewed as obsequious which is bad. Nobody likes a sycophant. There is no need to stress about this. Stop getting your info about life from comedy sketches. Talk to you own parents & older adults in your life. Let their wisdom guide you. Thanks for the advice. Link to post Share on other sites
Bluesky00 Posted September 23, 2020 Share Posted September 23, 2020 (edited) I believe that it’s true. Sure, it’s okay for their sons to have different girlfriends or have many partners but when it comes to daughters they don’t want them to ever be with a guy??? Double standard. Edited September 30, 2020 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Group berating Link to post Share on other sites
Azincourt Posted September 23, 2020 Share Posted September 23, 2020 (edited) On 9/23/2020 at 10:50 AM, Bluesky00 said: I believe that it’s true. Sure, it’s okay for their sons to have different girlfriends or have many partners but when it comes to daughters they don’t want them to ever be with a guy??? Double standard. Remnants from an outdated society. My grandfather was a womanizer, despite being married, but he believed women who worked as hairdressers were easy and he didn't want my mother to work as a hairdresser. Mom wanted to work as a mechanic. He wouldn't allow it because there were guys around. A guy has a son and he sleeps with a lot of women? What a stud! I'm so proud of you! A guy has a daughter and she has one-night stands/lots of boyfriends? I'm not even sure I consider you to be my daughter anymore. It's one of the reasons why many women are lukewarm about being sexual with a guy they are attracted from the get-go because they don't want the guy to consider them to be easy, and to just have sex with them and then split. Edited September 30, 2020 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Quoted post Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted September 25, 2020 Share Posted September 25, 2020 In another thread you said you are gay so why all the Qs about father's & daughters? Link to post Share on other sites
Author SuperHeroMan Posted September 25, 2020 Author Share Posted September 25, 2020 (edited) 1 hour ago, d0nnivain said: In another thread you said you are gay so why all the Qs about father's & daughters? I never said I was gay. I'm not gay at all. Also, I'm just wondering how most fathers feel about their daughters dating and getting married someday. Edited September 25, 2020 by SuperHeroMan Link to post Share on other sites
Azincourt Posted September 26, 2020 Share Posted September 26, 2020 Quote In another thread you said you are gay so why all the Qs about father's & daughters? What does that have anything to do with it? Gay men can still have sex with women and become fathers. Gay men can also adopt a daughter. Quote I never said I was gay. I'm not gay at all. Also, I'm just wondering how most fathers feel about their daughters dating and getting married someday. I dunno, man. It depends on the father and it depends on the guy the daughter is getting married to. There are fathers who don't care that their daughters are getting married to men who cheat on them as long as the guy's rich enough, and there are fathers who will beat up a dude if he makes his daughter cry because, I dunno, the guy forgot to take out the garbage. People are complicated. I remember talking to this guy who said he was the luckiest guy in the world because his wife lost her parents when she was young, and that way he doesn't have to deal with in-laws. It's a bit cold-hearted, but he does have a point. When a guy marries a woman he's just not marrying her. He's marrying the entire family and he's marrying their problems, dramas, needs, and complications. Link to post Share on other sites
Azincourt Posted September 27, 2020 Share Posted September 27, 2020 (edited) Yes, there are men who want to control their daughters sexuality. About most men around the world, pretty much. Only reason why fathers and brothers in the US and in Europe aren't doing what Saudi Arabian fathers do to their daughters is because, thankfully, they can't. If the conservatives got their way in the USA we'd go back to women being sold as virgins by their fathers I'm 100% sure of that. Edited September 27, 2020 by Azincourt Link to post Share on other sites
Chilli Posted September 27, 2020 Share Posted September 27, 2020 (edited) Man , there's some fkd up thinking round here. Your kids are gonna grow up, you look forward to it mostly bc by then you wanna live some life of your own again, lotta sacrifices being a parent. But hopefully they're gonna go out into the world and build lives of their own. That's the way it's meant to be. l don't need to watch idiot clips or whatever. Been a dad 20yrs never known any dad didn;t want the best for his daughter. You do worry like hell of whom they might meet or decide they love though and that he might be some using ah that treats her bad and of all the other trouble they can get into out there, hell yeah , you worry like hell about all of that. Seen a few moms that would like to keep their sons to themselves though. Edited September 27, 2020 by Chilli Link to post Share on other sites
Azincourt Posted September 27, 2020 Share Posted September 27, 2020 For sure, there are some good fathers out there. Link to post Share on other sites
Lookingforlasting Posted September 28, 2020 Share Posted September 28, 2020 Can you imagine a mother wearing a "MY SON IS NOT ALLOWED TO EVER DATE" shirt? The whole thing sounds creepy possessive to me. What is the reason father's even say that? Is it primarily fear of their daughters getting pregnant young? Link to post Share on other sites
major_merrick Posted September 28, 2020 Share Posted September 28, 2020 I don't think my father cared about me at all. But then I was dragging girls home, so a boyfriend wasn't really on his radar. My husband's oldest daughter (age 8 ) chatters happily about wanting a husband and kids when she grows up. It'll be interesting to watch my husband's reaction when she is old enough to date. He's extremely attached to his little princesses, so I hope he can learn to let go when the time comes. And in our community, that time comes fairly early and many girls marry around age 18. For me....I'll be protective. If my girls end up liking boys (with my genes, that's a big "if") then I'll probably be just as irritable about boyfriends as most fathers are. Boys are icky. I don't want to treat diseases or be a grandma anytime soon. Link to post Share on other sites
Bluesky00 Posted September 30, 2020 Share Posted September 30, 2020 Maybe fathers deep down know that they like themselves are tempted to cheat, go to strip bars, hire a hooker, and one thing for sure every man’s motive is to get girls in bed. I guess for women, they can easily get abused, manipulated, or worse case scenerio, her so called boyfriend can be a human trafficker and pretend to be her boyfriend, but that’s a far taking it a little too far. Link to post Share on other sites
Azincourt Posted September 30, 2020 Share Posted September 30, 2020 6 minutes ago, Bluesky00 said: Maybe fathers deep down know that they like themselves are tempted to cheat, go to strip bars, hire a hooker, and one thing for sure every man’s motive is to get girls in bed. I guess for women, they can easily get abused, manipulated, or worse case scenerio, her so called boyfriend can be a human trafficker and pretend to be her boyfriend, but that’s a far taking it a little too far. People ''cheat'' because it's ingrained in them since birth that sleeping with people other than the people they are in a romantic relationship with to be ''wrong.'' Which in turn causes a lot of misery and unhappiness because people are forced to lie to each other, and they truly expect just one person to fulfill all of their emotional and sexual needs and to be her personal psychologist, and to be his personal cook, and the list of the expectations set upon each other when they're in a monogamous relationship go on and on. When the truth is, the concept of monogamy, of sexual fidelity, is as young as Civilization itself. 6000 to 8000 years. For nearly 300 000 years, marriage didn't exist. The concept of fatherhood didn't exist. Each woman would sleep with a lot of different men. Mate-guarding didn't exist. Sexual jealously didn't exist. People lived in polygamous relationship and everyone was happy. Then some old dudes thought to themselves, ''how can we force these young, attractive women to sleep with us, and how can we make sure we are going to have sons and daughters?'' And just like that, religion was created. To manipulate and control men and women. There's nothing wrong with professional prostitution. Amateurish one-client(husband) prostitution is already legal and has been legal for hundreds of years, as you can see with Jeff Bezo's wife taking with her 60 billion dollars making the sex the guy had with her, the most expensive sex a man has ever paid, making her the richest woman to ever exist, and looking at how she looked like when she was young - I don't think the sex was worth it. Of course, street prostitution and sex traficking is wrong and needs to be abolished and the victims need help as fast as possible. But I've lived in Germany and I came across middle-aged dudes who were spending 2000 euros per hour on a single escort, and when you meet people who make tens and tens of thousands of dollars per month for a few hours of work a day(and let's be honest, it's not like middle-aged men are going to last more than a few minutes) I can't really feel sorry for them. Link to post Share on other sites
Lookingforlasting Posted September 30, 2020 Share Posted September 30, 2020 (edited) 11 minutes ago, Azincourt said: People ''cheat'' because it's ingrained in them since birth that sleeping with people other than the people they are in a romantic relationship with to be ''wrong.'' Which in turn causes a lot of misery and unhappiness because people are forced to lie to each other, and they truly expect just one person to fulfill all of their emotional and sexual needs and to be her personal psychologist, and to be his personal cook, and the list of the expectations set upon each other when they're in a monogamous relationship go on and on. When the truth is, the concept of monogamy, of sexual fidelity, is as young as Civilization itself. 6000 to 8000 years. For nearly 300 000 years, marriage didn't exist. The concept of fatherhood didn't exist. Each woman would sleep with a lot of different men. Mate-guarding didn't exist. Sexual jealously didn't exist. People lived in polygamous relationship and everyone was happy. Then some old dudes thought to themselves, ''how can we force these young, attractive women to sleep with us, and how can we make sure we are going to have sons and daughters?'' And just like that, religion was created. To manipulate and control men and women. There's nothing wrong with professional prostitution. Amateurish one-client(husband) prostitution is already legal and has been legal for hundreds of years, as you can see with Jeff Bezo's wife taking with her 60 billion dollars making the sex the guy had with her, the most expensive sex a man has ever paid, making her the richest woman to ever exist, and looking at how she looked like when she was young - I don't think the sex was worth it. Of course, street prostitution and sex traficking is wrong and needs to be abolished and the victims need help as fast as possible. But I've lived in Germany and I came across middle-aged dudes who were spending 2000 euros per hour on a single escort, and when you meet people who make tens and tens of thousands of dollars per month for a few hours of work a day(and let's be honest, it's not like middle-aged men are going to last more than a few minutes) I can't really feel sorry for them. Wow. First of all....how do you know everyone was happy during the 300 years of polygamy? Even animals get jealous of their mates copulating with others including our closest relatives primates. As far as one-client prostitution....given a lot of couples nowadays both people work that is very insulting to women let alone I know quite a few women who are the breadwinners or make more money so if thats your criteria you left out (wife) in your one-client definition. Also indicative of your ignorance.... that the criteria for falling in love does not equate to having to look like a supermodel I would say for most people including some famous people who can buy any kind of "look" they want. Edited September 30, 2020 by Lookingforlasting 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Acacia98 Posted September 30, 2020 Share Posted September 30, 2020 (edited) On 9/22/2020 at 4:52 PM, SuperHeroMan said: While, the links are exaggerated, I have read a lot of stories online of girls talking about how overprotective their fathers are and how their fathers hate the idea of them dating and having a boyfriend. Some men are like that. That's why the jokes exist. But the jokes certainly don't represent society as a whole. I come from a patriarchal culture and rest assured my father and grandfathers didn't interfere with their daughters' love lives. I tend to think of that attitude ("protecting" daughters from their boyfriends) as a kind of emotional incest. Edited September 30, 2020 by Acacia98 Link to post Share on other sites
Author SuperHeroMan Posted October 1, 2020 Author Share Posted October 1, 2020 Here's two more videos: Link to post Share on other sites
Author SuperHeroMan Posted October 1, 2020 Author Share Posted October 1, 2020 Here's a scene from the movie "Armageddon": Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted October 1, 2020 Share Posted October 1, 2020 Superheroman, these are video clips designed to make us to laugh at the meathead father with patriarchal attitudes. They aren't real life. Link to post Share on other sites
Author SuperHeroMan Posted October 6, 2020 Author Share Posted October 6, 2020 On 10/1/2020 at 3:23 PM, basil67 said: Superheroman, these are video clips designed to make us to laugh at the meathead father with patriarchal attitudes. They aren't real life. Even this one? The father didn't actually seem like he was joking in this video. Link to post Share on other sites
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