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I think that I made a terrible mistake by marrying a very good frind of five years, and I want to divorce him after only one year of marriage. He was never an easy partner, but I thought that I can cope with it. He was supportive of my professional aspirations and not too demandng.

 

Then, one day, whether because of my age, hormones, boredom--you name it, I became aware of my sexual needs---something my husband cannot satisfy for me. I met the man to whom I was instantly attracted, and I tried to resist the temptation, but my affair with him was impossible to resist.

 

Now, my husband has become very suspicious, but he refuses to confront me. His emotional instablility no longer controls me and his greed and stinginess no longer bother me because I no longer care. All I want is to be free of the responsibility for the terrible mistake I made by marrying him.

 

I am totally in love with the OM, and he loves me, makes me feel loved, and makes me feel like a woman. My future happiness is with OM.

 

How can I tell my husband that after one year of marriage, I now realized that I made a terrible mistake, do not love him as a woman should love a man and that I want the divorce.

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Why not tell him exactly what you put down here. He deserves to know and to be with someone who truely loves him.

 

I have to ask. Did you go to your husband when you started feeling bored? When you realized that you were unhappy and you weren't sure if you wanted to be in the marriage or not? Going outside the marriage wasn't a smart idea and allowing yourself to fall for someone else. But, from reading what you've said, as honest as you are being here - You now have to suck it up and talk to your husband.

 

You say you don't care how he feels so just do it. You have your mind made up so I won't suggest marriage counselling, I don't think it would help because you don't love your husband anymore.

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I agree with Whichway, not much you can do now if your mind is made-up. The only thing I would suggest is that you be kind and respectful of you husband when you tell him. From experience a successful A is not a good measure of a successful future with the OM. It is not totally inconceivable that you may want to return someday and he may want you to return.

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