Watercolors Posted September 25, 2020 Share Posted September 25, 2020 2 hours ago, d0nnivain said: Can you encourage your wife to get a life, friends, a job, hobbies . . anything? If you are her whole world of course she's scared you might disappear. She has nothing else. I think this is the best advice in this thread. If your wife had more going on in her life, she wouldn't be so hyperfocused on this female friend of yours who is going through a divorce. She'd be more focused on her friendships, and doing things that fulfill her personally. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
elaine567 Posted September 25, 2020 Share Posted September 25, 2020 The wife is "hyper focused" as this woman is a huge threat. That threat will not be dispersed by the wife getting busy.. In fact the busier the wife gets with friends and hobbies and other things, and the more she takes hr eye off the ball, the greater the risk of this woman stealing her husband. He, I guess if he was honest, is already half way there anyway... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Mystery4u Posted September 25, 2020 Share Posted September 25, 2020 (edited) 7 hours ago, skeeter2008 said: Interesting question. This is where I think people have different views on friendship and my feeling is that if you can't have close friends of both sexes you are essentially eliminating over half of the population. I know some people really believe you can't have close friends of the gender you prefer when you're in a serious relationship but this about transparency, trust and setting boundaries. You didn't answer the question, how would you feel if your wife had a 'close male friend'? Yes everyone has different views. In regards to your feeling, my question is why would you want to have a close friend of the opposite sex? What does a female friend offer you that your wife does not? Any 'friend' things such as going for lunch, cinema, shopping, watching/playing sports, poker, talking about women etc etc etc is exactly what your male friends are for, if you are not doing them with your wife. That's why you have male buddies, I hope, to do those things with. Having a close female friend offers absolutely nothing to you, it's a complete waste of time and effort. Women are here to have physical fun with, to date, to have a relationship with, to build a life with. Anything else, your guy friends. I'm completely with your wife. There is no reason whatsoever to have a 'close female friend' in your life. Edited September 25, 2020 by Mystery4u Link to post Share on other sites
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