I don't know if he has cheated on me

[DarrenB]

Social media appearing as the antagonist again...

Typical immature, narcissistic behavior from a guy (or an adolescent teen, as he sounds like one) who thinks the world revolves around them and they can get away with anything.

As other posters have suggested cut him off completely there's no molecule of worth investing into someone like that.

Off Topic: There really needs to be a dedicated sub section to the forum for relationship problems relating to social media, because they're all too common and it's just the same posters giving the same advice over and over again, it's like a broken record these days.

[Wiseman2]

3 hours ago, migi said:

 What is he showing them, me or the world?

What are YOU showing the world by staying with someone like this?

[migi]

He is threatening me. I am telling him that I am sick today and I can't talk right now but we have to meet. He is threatening to talk right now because he doesn't even want to see me. I don't know what to do. I am frightened 

Edited September 26, 2020 by migi

[Wiseman2]

2 minutes ago, migi said:

 he doesn't even want to see me. I don't know what to do

Excellent. End it. Block and delete him and all his people from ALL your social media and messaging apps. Clean up your act.

[migi]

I don't know but he turns into a monster when he gets angry and I get really afraid. And still not sure to end it or not 

[migi]

24 minutes ago, Wiseman2 said:

What are YOU showing the world by staying with someone like this?

That I am stupid for loving him. Clearly he doesn't love me and always makes me feel gulty 

[mark clemson]

48 minutes ago, migi said:

I don't know but he turns into a monster when he gets angry and I get really afraid. And still not sure to end it or not 

Seriously, what would it take to make you sure? Black eye? Broken ribs?

Do what you have to to avoid violence, but just leave him already. Get the cops involved if you have to. Press charges so he stays away. He can go date his pornstar friends while he appreciates their "art". 🤔

[Wiseman2]

50 minutes ago, migi said:

I don't know but he turns into a monster when he gets angry and I get really afraid. And still not sure to end it or not 

How old is he? Talk to your parents or a trusted adult. You KNOW it's abusive, so google "abusive relationships" so you can understand and get info.

[migi]

1 hour ago, Wiseman2 said:

How old is he? Talk to your parents or a trusted adult. You KNOW it's abusive, so google "abusive relationships" so you can understand and get info.

He is 27 and I am 22

[Crazelnut]

Jesus, Migi. You know he's a sleezeball and now he's threatening you, and you're STILL considering not ending it. What is wrong with you??

[migi]

4 hours ago, Crazelnut said:

Jesus, Migi. You know he's a sleezeball and now he's threatening you, and you're STILL considering not ending it. What is wrong with you??

I don't know. Maybe I got used to it unfortunately 🤷‍♀️

Edited September 27, 2020 by migi

[basil67]

Are his threats on text or another written form?   If so, take them to the police and tell them you are scared.

He may well have form for domestic violence or intimidation.

Edited September 27, 2020 by basil67

[migi]

2 minutes ago, basil67 said:

Are his threats on text or another written form?   If so, take them to the police and tell them you are scared.

He may well have form for domestic violence or intimidation.

They were written and audio. 

[basil67]

Good.   So go to the police...and take someone for moral support if you want it.

[Wiseman2]

10 hours ago, migi said:

They were written and audio. 

Talk to your parents or other trusted adults. Delete and block him. It's that simple. You don't live together. Stop obsessing over him. It's not a police matter.

It's a matter of deleting and blocking him. You can't run to the police because he follows raunchy pics on social media. You would be better off going to a therapist than the police. A therapist can help you with your poor self esteem and poor judgement in men.

Edited September 27, 2020 by Wiseman2

[d0nnivain]

migi 

Having a man like stuff on social media is not that big of a deal.  It's gonna happen.  That is not the problem in your relationship. 

The problem in your relationship is that your BF is a BAD Guy.  He is not a nice man.  He threatens you.  That alone should make you break it off with him & never look back.  He gas lights you.  He accuses you of being unfaithful but commenting when you look around in public & claiming that you are looser because he wants to deflect away from his behavior.  He lies to you.  That woman whose genital pictures he's liking is not a lesbian.  If she was, she would not post captions about "him" coming to perform oral sex.  The caption would say a woman was coming to perform oral sex.   When your guy blows up & gets angry when you try to talk about things that bothers you, that shows he doesn't care.  You may think you love him but you have to stop because he's abusive.  You need to get away from him.  These threats he's making about hurting you are real.  Believe them.  This will escalate to physical violence if you don't end it.  Him blocking you & unblocking you, always threatening a break up, when you fight shows he has poor conflict resolution skills.  He can't handle disagreement in a mature thoughtful manner.  He's a poor prospect for a long term partner, husband or father.  Do you want him screaming at kids like this?  

End things with him. Talk to your mom about what's been going on.  Work on building up your self confidence.  When he does all this garbage you should not feel insecure & unworthy.  Rather you should be angry at him for being disrespectful toward you.  

He won't change.  So unless you want a lifetime of this, end things,  

[migi]

He kenw I was sick and I don't understand how he doesn't even ask how I am today. It wouldn't matter for me if me and my boyfriend had a fight, I still would care about his health. I feel so unworthy and unimportant

Edited September 27, 2020 by migi

[Azincourt]

The guy obviously doesn't care about you. That's all there is to it. It is what it is.  You shouldn't base your self-worth on a dude. You're you, and you'll meet many more men throughout your life. There's nothing special about the guy who is making you feel like you don't matter.  Don't waste your time with someone who cares more about his shoes than he does about you. 

You need to discover self-love and you need to develop your sense of self-esteem. When you do that, your life will become much better and you won't feel sad all the time. I've been dumped tens of thousands of times. Literally. I've been cheated on. I've been lied to, heck I've even been dumped for rich old men. And yet, I'm the happiest man in the world. I'm  as healthy and as fit as a 19 year old Manchester United F.C starter player despite being old. I got no wife to put up with and no kids to pay for, nor do I have to worry about anyone other than me.

I will never be a giorgio armani catwalk model, which has been my dream since I was a baby, and yet I live my life to the fullest because I'm so much better than most people in the world. Like you are. Your life isn't perfect and neither are you, but that doesn't mean you can't be happy. Because you can. Forget about all of that hurt, and open your heart to how beautiful life is, and how special and unique we all are,  living in the only planet in the Universe with life in it.

Edited September 27, 2020 by Azincourt

[migi]

8 minutes ago, Azincourt said:

The guy obviously doesn't care about you. That's all there is to it. It is what it is.  You shouldn't base your self-worth on a dude. You're you, and you'll meet many more men throughout your life. There's nothing special about the guy who is making you feel like you don't matter.  Don't waste your time with someone who cares more about his shoes than he does about you. 

You need to discover self-love and you need to develop your sense of self-esteem. When you do that, your life will become much better and you won't feel sad all the time. I've been dumped tens of thousands of times. Literally. I've been cheated on. I've been lied to, heck I've even been dumped for rich old men. And yet, I'm the happiest man in the world. I'm  as healthy and as fit as a 19 year old Manchester United F.C starter player despite being old. I got no wife to put up with and no kids to pay for, nor do I have to worry about anyone other than me.

I will never be a giorgio armani catwalk model, which has been my dream since I was a baby, and yet I live my life to the fullest because I'm so much better than most people in the world. Like you are. Your life isn't perfect and neither are you, but that doesn't mean you can't be happy. Because you can. Forget about all of that hurt, and open your heart to how beautiful life is, and how special and unique we all are,  living in the only planet in the Universe with life in it.

Thank you for your words. They are so inspiring. Actually he asked me right after I posted the thread here, but still I feel empty

[Azincourt]

My pleasure. That guy probably wants to keep you around for when he wants to have sex and there's no one else he's more attracted to interested in sleeping with him. Learn how to paint. Learn how to draw. Listen to music. Workout. Read books, but nothing of that twlight nonsense, read stuff that pleases you and is beautiful to the senses. Watch movies. Good movies, like Giant and Gone With The Wind. Feel blessed, because you are.

[d0nnivain]

You feel empty because this guy continuously beats you down.  He doesn't regularly inquire about your health because he doesn't care. 

You will feel better about yourself once he is out of your life.  While you continue to try to understand him he will continue to undermine you & suck out your soul. 

You will never feel worthy or loved with him in your life.  

So you have a choice  happiness without him or misery with him.  

[smackie9]

On 9/25/2020 at 3:36 PM, migi said:

Should I break up with him? The thing is I don't know if he cheated on me. And I am not jelaous. It is just him making me insecure with the likes. But he tells me always how attractive or sexy I am too. The same as the girl on the post. I don't know what to do, because I love him so much and this is the first relationship for me. And deep down I feel he wouldn't cheat. But I am not sure if his words are just word or he does really never cheat on me. I am so confused

Btw as I mentioned the girl doesn't live in the same country as my boyfriend. At least I thinks so based on her posts. 

You should just breakup with him based on his behavior. This guy is definitely not BF material. Why are you dating a guy that ogles women on social media and makes a point of it. That has ick written all over it.

[migi]

Actually when I read your threads I want to end it. And even if it was a friend in my place, I would tell her to break up with this kind of boyfriend. But then I think I might regret it or miss him, even though I know that there is not much to regret or miss from him

[Azincourt]

Nah. You ain't gonna miss him. The very first days you're gonna feel lonely, but that's not because you love him. You don't. You love the possibility of what kind of a boyfriend he could've been. But you don't love this guy. No one loves a guy like this guy.  They become emotionally dependent on him because they're emotionally broken themselves, and they feel like they don't deserve a good man.

Break up with this loser. Don't waste your youth on rotten apples.

[kendahke]

On 9/25/2020 at 5:53 PM, migi said:

and many pictures where her pussy is on focus too.

not on instagram.... they are death about that sort of thing.

Sounds like you're talking about crotch shots, not raw shots of the vj-j.

Edited September 29, 2020 by kendahke