Lookingforlasting Posted September 29, 2020 Share Posted September 29, 2020 (edited) Im guessing it varies a lot? Edited September 29, 2020 by Lookingforlasting Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted September 29, 2020 Share Posted September 29, 2020 I'm thinking that this question would be more at home on your existing FWB thread Link to post Share on other sites
Happy Lemming Posted September 29, 2020 Share Posted September 29, 2020 I've had a couple FWB situations in my life; it was always one at a time. I did have one woman who was an FWB and we had a standing "Friday Night" time for sex. I don't know what she did with the rest of her weekend and I never asked. Link to post Share on other sites
central Posted September 29, 2020 Share Posted September 29, 2020 I think most are one at a time, given how most people accept the ubiquitous monogamy standard even when dating. That said, I've had two simultaneous FWB, or a serious girlfriend and a FWB, or a wife and a FWB. Everyone always knew about everyone else and had agreed to the scenario in advance. We had open or poly relationships. Of course, there are some people who will have more than one and hide it, so they are cheating, IMO, even though there is no commitment with anyone. When relationships become sexual, other partners have a legitimate interest in full disclosure because there could be health and safety issues. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lookingforlasting Posted September 29, 2020 Author Share Posted September 29, 2020 central, how do you manage jealousy in poly situations which I hear exists. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
central Posted September 29, 2020 Share Posted September 29, 2020 (edited) 24 minutes ago, Lookingforlasting said: central, how do you manage jealousy in poly situations which I hear exists. Jealousy was a problem in some situations, but jealousy is based in the fear of losing something you value (primarily love, or affection, or good sex). Losing a FWB would be sad, but not a reason for jealousy since there is no romantic potential. In fact, I introduced a long term FWB to one of my good friends whom I thought would be compatible, and they've been in relationship for nearly two years now. Losing a romantic partner would be much harder. However, I came to realize that my serious gf and later wife was deeply in love and committed to me (and vice versa), so if we had other partners (FWB, poly relationships, open relationship, swinging ... etc.) it wasn't about loss at all. It was about us each (and sometimes together) having wonderful experiences (more love, more affection, more and different sex) and more fully appreciating what we have together as a result. We are actually happy for each other to have these experiences (it's called compersion). It takes some time and work on one's self and reassurance from your partner(s) to see that jealousy only holds us back from a richer life. It's well worth the effort, but some people can't or won't be able to do so - it's harder for some than others, and not even necessary for people who are fully content with monogamy. Edited September 29, 2020 by central Link to post Share on other sites
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