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14 hours ago, Wiseman2 said:

Why aren't you seeing a social worker to get social services support as far as housing, food, career training, child care, mental and physical health care as well as contraception?

What sort of social worker? From where? You’re being a bit vague. I’ve spent the last few days spending hours trying on the phone to Legal Aid and Women’s Legal Service. But no answer because they’re so under staffed/ under funded. 

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11 hours ago, Negotaurus said:

Hi Sugarkane, I think you will have to give the full story, otherwise it is very difficult for posters to help you. Why did you lose custody of your first child? What happened? 

As I said they pushed us out when we went financially ready. They were supposed to increase the days we had with our daughter. When we got back on our feet. My husband was too immature to work out the logistics of this. They used this to screw us over and get primary custody and used my mental health against me (post natal depression). 

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If you truly want your daughter back, go to court and file for custody. Make sure your life is in order. ALL COURTS want the child with their parents u less you are unfit. Depression won’t do it. I had post partum depression and didn’t lose my kids. If you are so depressed that you’re unable to function and care for yourself or child, then that’s a different story. 
 

ive read through your other threads and I’m afraid any advice you’re given, you will just complain and argue, but am happy to help. 

Go Get your child back. There are absolutely no excuses why you cannot have custody of your child unless you are an unfit parent. Period. 
 

file for divorce first. That way you’re away from the violence  of your relationship ship, because if you have orders of protection taken out against you, that will be used against you in gaining custody. 
 

Most importantly, take responsibility!! Stop lamenting about all the past problems with your in laws and parents. You want change? Be the change. 
 

You’ll have to work hard.. be a good person and be a good parent to your children. If you are unable to do that, at least make the unselfish decision of allowing your child(ren) to have a good life by living with their grandparents and being well taken care of and well loved.
 

The courts hear constant excuses from parents who are unable to care for their children. If you are gainfully employed, have a home and love for your child, no one would keep you from her. You have to go through the proper channels. 
 

I would then suggest you remove yourself from your husbands family. Hopefully get an amicable divorce where he can see your child and bring to in laws for visits While you wouldn’t have to deal with them anymore. There’s no reason why this can’t happen. Either you thrive with the drama and victimization or you enact measures to improve your life and your child’s life and stop. Blaming. Everyone. 
 

good luck to you!
 

 

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First thing you need to do is get a job to support you and your child. 
 

Then get custody back. If you can’t function and do this, then why should you have custody of her?

 

Get your head in the game and get a job. 

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