QuietRiot Posted October 3, 2020 Share Posted October 3, 2020 I recall a couple of female friends I had that had weird thoughts when it came to certain activities when we would hang out together. One would not allow photos of us together uploaded (or I think even tagged) of us on our activities together, for fear that others would think we're dating...I found that rather off putting, because I know tons of women that had done this without question. They didn't care who they associated with and with whatever was uploaded and whomever they were hangin' with. Another one, there came a time where there was an activity, an outdoor lake party, that involved the wearing of a swimsuit. We were going together to this event, but she said she didn't want to wear a bathing suit there because she didn't want me to see her wearing one. That was kind of strange, even though many others there will be wearing one. Didn't know how to take that. Link to post Share on other sites
mark clemson Posted October 3, 2020 Share Posted October 3, 2020 One thing I've learned in life is generally to not worry TOO much about what might be going on in someone else's head (provided you don't feel it's a potential threat). People carry their little views, idiosyncrasies, insecurities, neuroses, minor OCDish traits, etc, etc. We all have them. Sometimes the price of a friendship/association is tolerating them. If the price is too high, one can generally walk away or find a different way to enjoy their friendship. If you want theories on these two specific ones - woman A may have not wanted to risk having someone think she was taken due to the pics. She worries more about that potential thing than others, for whatever reason (such as it bit her in the butt one time when someone she liked thought she was taken). Woman B may have some body insecurities or possibly might be worried about "giving you the wrong idea" if she is not interested in you. But generally I think my first paragraph applies. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted October 3, 2020 Share Posted October 3, 2020 @QuietRiot Is there a question here? And why are you ruminating on the past? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Foxhall Posted October 5, 2020 Share Posted October 5, 2020 There is always a little sexual tension I think between opposite sex friendships, Im thinking a friend of mine we had a one night stand a few years ago but anyway we remained fairly close since in a friendship way, I would have got to a point where I viewed her as my baby sister , but that was shot down recently when she said you do remember our past liaisons our relationship is certainly not brother and sister, then she refused to show me these revealing photos (she is a bit out there) that she has started putting on a website stating that I know too much about her, so one can never really bank on really tight opposite friendships I say, this type of sexual tension results in barriers going up and the women usually keeping their male friend at a distance. Link to post Share on other sites
Blind-Sided Posted October 10, 2020 Share Posted October 10, 2020 I have several female friends. Both of those things are just dumb. Just as an FYI... all of my female friends were the one's posting pictures of us together. So... if you want to post a pic, and your friend objects... you should ask directly "Why"? The bathing suit thing... well... that's a "Thing" regardless. Some women don't like the way they look in one regardless of relationship status. My exW didn't like wearing one... and my current GF doesn't like the way she looks in one either. (although she will wonder around the house nude) So, the wording could have been wrong. In that case... the attitude that it was said would really dictate the meaning. (was it "You" direct, or was "you" used because you two were talking?) Link to post Share on other sites
Author QuietRiot Posted October 10, 2020 Author Share Posted October 10, 2020 6 minutes ago, Blind-Sided said: I have several female friends. Both of those things are just dumb. Just as an FYI... all of my female friends were the one's posting pictures of us together. So... if you want to post a pic, and your friend objects... you should ask directly "Why"? The bathing suit thing... well... that's a "Thing" regardless. Some women don't like the way they look in one regardless of relationship status. My exW didn't like wearing one... and my current GF doesn't like the way she looks in one either. (although she will wonder around the house nude) So, the wording could have been wrong. In that case... the attitude that it was said would really dictate the meaning. (was it "You" direct, or was "you" used because you two were talking?) It was "you" because both of us were talking. She didn't want me, specifically, to see her in a swimsuit. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted October 10, 2020 Share Posted October 10, 2020 Lots of women don't like the way they look in a bathing suit. I am one of them. Since the advent of social media when we were all in our late 30s, early 40s, in my circle the rule has always been you never post a picture of somebody else in a bathing suit without her express permission On some other thread a guy was complaining because his GF was complaining that he wasn't demonstrative enough on social media. The responses suggested that she wanted the social media declarations to telegraph to the world, especially other women who may view his page, that he was taken. Your friend may be concerned that too many photos with you, her buddy, could give the wrong impression to potential suitors that she is taken Link to post Share on other sites
jspice Posted October 11, 2020 Share Posted October 11, 2020 15 hours ago, QuietRiot said: It was "you" because both of us were talking. She didn't want me, specifically, to see her in a swimsuit. Maybe you make her uncomfortable. You don’t seem to take a hint very well. Link to post Share on other sites
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