Abbey963 Posted October 4, 2020 Share Posted October 4, 2020 My 36 year old boyfriend and I (27) met in January this year. And we were in the same country until March when he had to leave for work. He was to come back in April but unfortunately due to closure of borders he was unable to come back. It's been six months since we saw each other. During that time, a lot has happened. My boyfriend's company is shutting down. And even though he's not been fired, he's been struggling to find another job. Initially he would talk to me about these things. I'd comfort him and be there for him. Anyway work stress got to him. And he completely shut me off. For the last one month we've only spoken once on phone. I send him encouraging messages but he only responds after a week or doesn't at all. He never picks my calls. I've been lonely, worried and longing for him. Yesterday he finally reached out and the only thing he said was that he got diagnosed with Covid 19 days ago. He has bronchitis and so that's worrying. I replied to his message and tried to call him but he didn't pick. He hasn't been responding to my message even though they're being delivered. It's been 24 hours now. I don't know how he's doing healthwise or even his work situation. I feel completely shut out of his life. Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted October 4, 2020 Share Posted October 4, 2020 He has shut you out. Are you sure he's not lying about having Covid? If it's been 6 months since you've seen him, he's only spoken to you once in one month, he's ignoring your calls, then I hate to inform you that it's over between you. More than likely he is seeing someone else. You need to move on at this point. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted October 4, 2020 Share Posted October 4, 2020 12 minutes ago, Abbey963 said: My 36 year old boyfriend and I (27) met in January this year. And we were in the same country until March when he had to leave for work. Anyway work stress got to him. And he completely shut me off. For the last one month we've only spoken once on phone. Sorry to hear this. unfortunately it sounds like he moved on and found someone local but doesn't have the courage to tell you. End it and stop communicating with him. You were together for 3 mos and 10 mos is long enough to know things are not working out. Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted October 4, 2020 Share Posted October 4, 2020 No, it’s not worth hanging on. He’s effectively already checked out of the relationship and doesn’t seem to have the decency to tell you that it’s over. Link to post Share on other sites
boymommy Posted October 6, 2020 Share Posted October 6, 2020 Don't jump to conclusions yet, but 24 hrs is a long time. Has he reached out yet? Sometimes people in LDR can get wrapped up in their own stuff because basically you are living your own lives that they forget to be responsive (especially if there is a lot going on). This happens in my LDR as well (but my boyfriend never goes but a few hrs between responses). It can make me feel a little on edge too however..I think everyone can feel that way when someone isn't responding! If he hasn't responded yet I would try one more check in and then see what happens. Link to post Share on other sites
poppyfields Posted October 17, 2020 Share Posted October 17, 2020 On 10/4/2020 at 10:04 AM, stillafool said: He has shut you out. Are you sure he's not lying about having Covid? If it's been 6 months since you've seen him, he's only spoken to you once in one month, he's ignoring your calls, then I hate to inform you that it's over between you. Yes, sadly this^. This relationship is been and gone, I'm sorry. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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