Alwayscats Posted October 6, 2020 Share Posted October 6, 2020 (edited) I met this guy over the weekend after talking for a while socially distanced of course and he decided that he wants to see more of me and told me that we will be exclusive and that he won’t he seeing anybody else so I agree and said I I won’t be seeing other people either... Ever since he has hardly texted. He does text but hardly and when I ask to meet up with him he says no so I feel like I shouldn’t ask anymore :(. It’s making me feel lonely. I don’t expect him to reply all day but he isn’t working and doesn’t study at the moment so not sure why he is busy... he also called me by his exes name when we were laughing and joking around. I’m really confused and I’m not sure where I stand... Edited October 6, 2020 by Alwayscats Spelling Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted October 6, 2020 Share Posted October 6, 2020 1 minute ago, Alwayscats said: I told me that we will be exclusive and that he won’t he seeing anybody else so I agree and said I I won’t be seeing other people either... Stop communicating and delete and block him. Never agree to exclusivity on the first meet. Huge red flag. Sounds like a line for a hookup. He was either cheating or jumped on a dating site the nanosecond he/his "ex"/gf had an argument. Avoid red flags like this in the future. 2 1 Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted October 6, 2020 Share Posted October 6, 2020 This guy was trying to move you into a rebound position but probably ended up getting back with his ex. As said before don't agree to be exclusive with a stranger on a first meetup. It makes you look desperate. Link to post Share on other sites
spiderowl Posted October 11, 2020 Share Posted October 11, 2020 The guy has no right to expect exclusivity in a first meet when you barely know each other. It was a first meet and he has not followed up with great interest. I think he just wanted to see if you were willing to be on the back-burner for him. You need to give up on this guy. He is not showing interest. It is not your fault; it just happens. Please don’t wait for him, you will find someone better if you assume you will. Dating can be a real mixed bag of confusing experiences. Any guy that starts setting out rules on a first date must be very insecure or playing fantasy games. Allow yourself several dates/weeks to get to know a guy before agreeing to any rules. Of course if you decide to sleep with someone, you may wish that both of you are exclusive. Before then is the time to be talking about this. Link to post Share on other sites
FirstClass Posted October 17, 2020 Share Posted October 17, 2020 Prepare yourself too for him to suddenly re-emerge with an excuse. Anyone who disappears and then reappears is trying to work both ends. Be smart and involve yourself in only genuine people. Loneliness stinks but it's better than being made a fool of. Link to post Share on other sites
Pumaza Posted October 18, 2020 Share Posted October 18, 2020 hes not ready for a new girl.or not unto you.block and move on. Link to post Share on other sites
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