Long distance to him staying

[Sarah_K]

I live in Australia and my boyfriend lives in the UK.

 

He had an operation on his arm and he is has been sat on his own on the other side of the world. He applied for an exemption to come to Australia and he has received one. He is travelling down and will spend 2 weeks in quarantine. and has another 10 weeks to spend with me. (He has some family down here just in case it doesn't work out)

 

Just wondering what would be best to do? When I am working, he is going off to explore and do his own thing (With ALOT of rest!) . I am thinking when its us, I show him the sights and generally show him "my world". Maybe catch a few movies and go for food. 

What else did other people in LDRs do when they spent time together?

I'm also thinking of introducing him to my family. Although he does know my dad being an aircraft engineer but I don't think he has an idea we are dating. 

[d0nnivain]

Maybe OZ is in better shape than the US but you couldn't pay me to go to a theater at this point.  

When I would go see my LDR BF & he had to work, I'd explore the area.  I went to beaches, malls, libraries etc.  Some days I just drove around to see what I could see & learn the area.  A few times I had job interviews; the plan had been for me to move there.  

When he had time off, we'd have dinner out or cook at home.  It was nice just being together not doing much because the distance precluded that luxury.  He took some days off while I was there.  We'd go to amusement parks or visit nearby tourist attractions.  He was from back home with me so he hadn't done much of that either.  

[Sarah_K]

5 minutes ago, d0nnivain said:

Maybe OZ is in better shape than the US but you couldn't pay me to go to a theater at this point.  

When I would go see my LDR BF & he had to work, I'd explore the area.  I went to beaches, malls, libraries etc.  Some days I just drove around to see what I could see & learn the area.  A few times I had job interviews; the plan had been for me to move there.  

When he had time off, we'd have dinner out or cook at home.  It was nice just being together not doing much because the distance precluded that luxury.  He took some days off while I was there.  We'd go to amusement parks or visit nearby tourist attractions.  He was from back home with me so he hadn't done much of that either.  

I've booked 2 weeks off work. Doing touristy things is a great idea. I haven't done much touristy things

Is there any different way introducing a LDR partner? I'm worried my dad won't be impressed I'm dating someone from the industry.

[d0nnivain]

Unless you are 19 & living under daddy's roof, you don't need Dad's approval.  Just say Dad you remember [BF's name].  Dad will get the picture.  

[Sarah_K]

3 minutes ago, d0nnivain said:

Unless you are 19 & living under daddy's roof, you don't need Dad's approval.  Just say Dad you remember [BF's name].  Dad will get the picture.  

I'm just hoping my dad doesn't give him a lecture . I can't see why but I don't want my dad giving me the 3rd degree. My dad always warned me against the engineers.

[Sarah_K]

I am thinking a trip to Gold Coast. All depends how bad his arm/hand is. But I guess he wouldn't fly if it wasn't safe for him to

[Mystery4u]

You know better than anyone on this forum what to do in AUS in whatever city you are living in.

Just do normal stuff couples do. Maybe bring him with you to work for a few days if you can. Definitely take a trip somewhere while you are off for 2 weeks.

As for your dad giving lectures.. let him. It's your life, your decision who you date. I remember my first real love relationship (also a LDR), when I introduced her to my grandma, she straight away told me why she didn't like her. I politely told her thank you for caring about me I appreciate it, but if it's not going to work, it's my mistake to make and to learn from. It didn't work out in the end so grandma was right off course, but it was a very valuable lesson learnt to make me the person I am today.

[Sarah_K]

7 hours ago, Mystery4u said:

You know better than anyone on this forum what to do in AUS in whatever city you are living in.

Just do normal stuff couples do. Maybe bring him with you to work for a few days if you can. Definitely take a trip somewhere while you are off for 2 weeks.

As for your dad giving lectures.. let him. It's your life, your decision who you date. I remember my first real love relationship (also a LDR), when I introduced her to my grandma, she straight away told me why she didn't like her. I politely told her thank you for caring about me I appreciate it, but if it's not going to work, it's my mistake to make and to learn from. It didn't work out in the end so grandma was right off course, but it was a very valuable lesson learnt to make me the person I am today.

Oh I know, but I was hoping some one might say "The zoo" or similar, not specific places. 

He did ring me before travelling to the airport. I asked him what he really wanted to do. He said to go the beach on home and away (I was surprised he didn't say go to Ramsey street!) as he remembers it from watching the show as a kid. 

 

The only thing I worry about, he constantly told me to keep away from engineers as he knows their sort. From what I remember my dad and my BF got along just fine. 

 

A trip during the 2 week holiday I have is definitely on the cards.

[salparadise]

1 hour ago, Sarah_K said:

The only thing I worry about, he constantly told me to keep away from engineers as he knows their sort.

There is nothing rational about this prejudice at all. Dismiss it. If your dad brings it up then you need to explain how unfair it is of him to undermine your relationship based on such nonsense. Hopefully he will be wise enough not to.

[Wiseman2]

Why worry about your father? The man you are dating long distance will only be there a short while on medical leave.

Play it by ear. He has relatives there. Ask him what he would like to do once he gets there.

[Sarah_K]

3 hours ago, Wiseman2 said:

Why worry about your father? The man you are dating long distance will only be there a short while on medical leave.

Play it by ear. He has relatives there. Ask him what he would like to do once he gets there.

He wants to see the "Summer bay" and Sydney.

I can't sleep. He is due to arrive tomorrow. I am so excited. I have the day off even though I can't see him. I just want to see his plane land. So I'll be going to the airport to see it land.

[Sarah_K]

Totally not watching his flight on Flight Radar 24

[Sarah_K]

It landed successfully. I got to see him for a few minutes from a distance before he went off to the hotel,

[Caauug]

On 10/7/2020 at 2:33 AM, Sarah_K said:

What else did other people in LDRs do when they spent time together?

Sarah, as a blow in myself, be it 20 yrs ago and the other side of the island/country..... He will forge is own memories on his first impressions or experiences. What ever you show him, treasure those memories yourself, they will not likely be what he remembers years later, it will be the culture shock little snap shots that sticks with him. Meaningless to you but awesome to him.

On 10/7/2020 at 2:33 AM, Sarah_K said:

I'm also thinking of introducing him to my family. Although he does know my dad being an aircraft engineer but I don't think he has an idea we are dating. 

 If your dad has done his job (as a dad) and taught you to choose well your father will except him. It's a reflection on his own parenting skills..... You can blame him years later when/if it all falls apart.....

 

I still feel for your/his excitement...  Embrace the moment and treasure your feelings. Enjoy!!!