Husband is mad at me because I was playing with my friend

[Trail Blazer]

I get that in the moment you probably thought it was all innocent fun!  However, when your husband brought it to your attention that he felt very uncomfortable by it, you should have immediately realized that it was not on.

I guess the question should be framed back to you; do you think that Marc and yourself were in the wrong?

Personally, I think it was very disrespectful for Marc to do what he did.  I think that you should have told him to put you down, but I get that you were in the moment, so I will give you the benefit of the doubt here.

Where you screwed up big time is when you told your husband that he needed to get over himself.  As others here have stated, you invalidated his feelings.  That's not cool!

If I were him, I'd be pissed seeing another man cradling my girl in his arms, spinning around while she was giggling.  I can't imagine there'd be too many guys that wouldn't feel the same way!

Further to that, if I were told by my girl to "get over yourself" then my feelings of anger would be accompanied by hurt and resentment.

I would not give a damn if he's gay.  Hell, how does anyone know that Marc isn't bi?  Just because you've told your hubby that Marc is gay, doesn't mean hubby automatically feel comfort in the thought that Marc has zero sexual feelings towards woman at all.

You need to talk with your husband right away and try to right this wrong.  However, first you need to understand why your actions and subsequent way you went about handling the situation were so so wrong! 

Your husband needs to be convinced that you understand why your's and Marc's actions were inappropriate and the only way you're going to achieve that is through sincerity.  If you can't understand why you were out of line, you'll never convince him of your regret for the part you played in this.

[Uruktopi]

On 10/7/2020 at 3:05 PM, jessiesurf66 said:

Were marc and I in the wrong here?

 

Yes.