my Boyfriend Text me and said he wants to sit and talk to me?

[Sunny 50]

My boyfriend I been with some nov 2019 text me this afternoon and said he wants to come over and talk to me? I asked him about what? He said about him I asked him to tell me about what it is he said Babe we will talk later . Is this a good thing ?

[Wiseman2]

6 minutes ago, Sunny 50 said:

My boyfriend I been with some nov 2019 text me this afternoon and said he wants to come over and talk to me? I asked him about what? He said about him I asked him to tell me about what it is he said Babe we will talk later . Is this a good thing ?

How have things been? Do you fear he wants to break up?

[Sunny 50]

I Don’t feel that he told me that he would never let me go or hurt me I asked him today why didn’t he say anything to me yesterday when he was with me he said at that time he wasn’t thinking about it and I told him to just tell me over the phone he said calm down babe he will talk to me later today that was it so I went off and told him to come get his stuff from my house he said whatever I hung up on him . 

[Wiseman2]

2 minutes ago, Sunny 50 said:

 I told him to just tell me over the phone he said calm down babe he will talk to me later today that was it so I went off and told him to come get his stuff from my house he said whatever I hung up on him . 

Have you been arguing lately? how long have you been dating? Why is his stuff at your house? 

[basil67]

Edit: I just saw your update.

Well, as you've just dumped him, I guess you'll never know if he was about to discuss something nice like moving in together.

Edited October 11, 2020 by basil67

[Sunny 50]

I been with him since November 2019. We haven’t been arguing he just work a lot on the road sometimes I go with him on his work loads which he likes me riding with him   He has some clothing not much shirt pants stuff I got mad with him due to the way he was on the phone talking he was at his  cousin house I called him a lier he said oh really now  he’s been honest with me since I been with him I told him I didn’t want to hear what he wanted to tell me because he made me mad I just wanted him to tell me what he wanted to talk to me about he wouldn’t so I flipped out. I am moving this week and he told me last week to please be patient and he said I will see him a whole lot more At the new place.

[Wiseman2]

3 minutes ago, Sunny 50 said:

 I called him a lier he said oh really. I am moving this week and he told me last week to please be patient and he said I will see him a whole lot more At the new place.

Why are you so mad at him? Are you stressed about moving? Is he helping you move? Why don't you believe him? It sounds like you are arguing about how much time you can spend together.

[Sunny 50]

Yes I’m a bit stress about moving and yes he helping me move and even got the movers for me but I yelled at him today I told him forget about helping me that I will hire movers my self just come get his crap I said he said he was coming 3 hrs ago but I yelled at him and hung up on him I just felt why didn’t he just tell me over the phone what he wants to talk to me about (Him) he Said I’m mad because I told him he hasn’t spent time with me because he was on the road and he took his cousin because there both in the trucking business and I had to work in most cases

[CautiouslyOptimistic]

16 minutes ago, Sunny 50 said:

Yes I’m a bit stress about moving 

You sound really hard to deal with and like you take your stress out on others by lashing out.  I don't blame him for wanting to have a sit-down chat with you, and no, I don't think it's a good thing (since you asked that question in your original post).

[Wiseman2]

14 hours ago, Sunny 50 said:

Yes I’m a bit stress about moving and yes he helping me move and even got the movers for me but I yelled at him today I told him forget about helping me that I will hire movers my self just come get his crap I said he said he was coming 3 hrs ago but I yelled at him and hung up on him I just felt why didn’t he just tell me over the phone what he wants to talk to me about (Him) he Said I’m mad because I told him he hasn’t spent time with me because he was on the road and he took his cousin because there both in the trucking business and I had to work in most cases

You seem very volitile. He was going to help you move and you blew it by acting so angry and wild.

Calm down. Your relationship sounds awful if you are breaking up and hanging up every time you don't get your way.

[d0nnivain]

At this point it doesn't matter what he wanted to talk about.  You ruined it.  You need to learn patience.  Screaming at him because you were upset that he wanted to talk in person was over the top.  If you hadn't broken up with him, he'd be smart to end things with you over that reaction  

[Fletch Lives]

Maybe he was going to propose?

[elaine567]

Maybe, but why play the stupid power game that scared and frustrated the OP so much, she got mad and ended it? 

[d0nnivain]

1 hour ago, elaine567 said:

Maybe, but why play the stupid power game that scared and frustrated the OP so much, she got mad and ended it? 

I don't know it was a power Game.  Some conversations should be had in person 

Yes, we all know "we have to talk" is rarely about something good but she overreacted.  

[ExpatInItaly]

Good grief OP, do you normally have such emotional and impulsive reactions?

It sounds like this relationship has been volatile and you two don't get along that well anymore. So, it wouldn't be surprising if he wanted to come over to end it. But, as you lost your cool and panicked and ended it first, now you won't know if that's actually what he wanted to talk about. 

 

[kendahke]

22 hours ago, Sunny 50 said:

I went off and told him to come get his stuff from my house he said whatever I hung up on him . 

Yes I’m a bit stress about moving and yes he helping me move and even got the movers for me but I yelled at him today I told him forget about helping me that I will hire movers my self just come get his crap I said he said he was coming 3 hrs ago but I yelled at him and hung up on him I just felt why didn’t he just tell me over the phone what he wants to talk to me about (Him) he Said I’m mad because I told him he hasn’t spent time with me because he was on the road and he took his cousin because there both in the trucking business and I had to work in most cases

That was an unforced error and totally unnecessary. I guess you brought about exactly what you wanted to have happen.

Edited October 12, 2020 by kendahke

[kendahke]

6 hours ago, elaine567 said:

Maybe, but why play the stupid power game that scared and frustrated the OP so much, she got mad and ended it? 

Instead of exercising some patience to hear him out and see if the situation can be resolved to both of their advantages.

The guilty always make the most noise.

 

 

 

[mark clemson]

If you've made a habit of venting on your BF when stressed, upset, etc, suggest you find another mechanism for processing the negative feelings. This can lead to an unhappy BF and eventually to the end of the relationship.

[Acacia98]

7 hours ago, elaine567 said:

Maybe, but why play the stupid power game that scared and frustrated the OP so much, she got mad and ended it? 

Maybe he is playing a power game, I don't know. But she seriously couldn't wait a few hours to have a conversation?  Given her over-the-top reaction to his wanting to talk in person, I think I can guess why he preferred to talk in person. He probably thought discussing whatever it was on the phone would be disastrous.