how to get over her(long story but really need pointers)

[michael.simpson99]

Hello to all
Sorry if this will be longer post but i feel like i need to get it out and some people here might help me.
I was in relationship with this girl for 2 years approx..we had really big ups and downs but all relationships do.... Unfortunately when i started going on with her she had a boyfriend who she abandoned so this is already red flag, however i fell deeply in love and she was too but as the months and months passed i started learning that she is narcissist/selfish person and i started learning and reading about those persons with daddy's issues(divorced parents) etc etc

Anyhow, we even used to live together, but she was always manipulating and lying to me, she also cheated me with her EX and another guy...etc and this was breaking point of our relationship of course.. However she didn't have too much friends, and i somehow stayed there(since i didn't find any new gf) and i stayed with her, we sometimes hang out, even had ocasional sex etc and somehow deep inside i care for her...she also has some illness etc and a dog that we took care so i am a bit emotionally attached to that as well...
Anyhow i recently again found that she found another boyrfriend and she didn't tell me that in fact she is lying that she doesn't have anyone so again and again she is doing that, and i know she is not marriage material or someone to have love and all that but somehow it feels bad knowing that she did all those things, and now this guy  and i was really good and i never cheated etc etc..
I know this speaks about me that i deserve better etc, but how can i get past this faster ?
When we first broke up i was really really bad, i failed at everything left my job failed emotionally etc etc and somehow i know that i must cut all contacts with her and move on, but sometimes i feel bad for her because deep inside we passed all stuff together(completely another story) and somehow i feel this empathy...

Can someone give me some advice what to do, how to proceed etc...i don't want to be with her nor she wants with me but i know that she will fail with this guy as well and she will again cry and because she has no work etc i feel sorry for her in that way too etc etc..

Sorry for longer post but i would really really appreciate your help or anything related.
Thank you
 

[lee179108]

I feel for you, I am going through a similar situation since August now and im still not over it.. but the things that can help are:

 

1. Go to the gym and get in shape. 

2. Treat yourself 

3. Talk to your friends, weather its online or in person. 

When you feel ready you can get on dating apps, although this hasnt been much luck for me...   and I doubt things would be great as were in a pandemic..  but you can try it?