Junior05 Posted October 15, 2020 Share Posted October 15, 2020 So my story is pretty long and weird..my ex which is my son's mom broke up with me and found love with someone else.at first I was devastated but now I have gotten over it...in that time I met a girl who was nice and very humble and warm hearted.turns out she was the ex of the guy whom my ex is now with...and that guy left her and his new born daughter for my ex...so at first we started talking about that situation when we both found out what was going on..we were using each other to get information on both of them...after a month or so we didn't bring them up anymore..we both started catching feelings for each other...but the fact is she wasn't ready for a relationship just yet..to early and she needed to heal..we got pretty close made love and everything...one day she got in a fight with my ex..keep in mind my ex knew I was talking to this other girl already....this girl I'm talking too said her reason for fighting wasn't because she wanted him back it was because my ex thinks she can get away with everything and I understand her because my ex knew that the other guy was with someone and still proceed to steal him from her and her daughter....ruining her family...now this girl I gained alotnof trust for we would talk to each other about everything and anything....no secrets..very comfortable with each other..in which she would tell me that her ex would talk bad about me trying to make me look bad to her so she wouldn't see me anymore...her answer would always be that I have never wronged her and I treat her very well...no reason to doubt me...one day I got very upset and I confronted him and I told him not to be saying g those things about me..and in order for him not to think she tells me these things I lied and said I over heard because I'm always at her house....stupid I know...i only lied to prevent him from talking s*** to her about her telling me things he says....and he got very upset and said how is she going to have another guy over her house with his daughter their she got very upset at Mr because he called her and talked so much s*** to her..called her very nasty things and said he is going to take her to court for custody of her daughter...she told me she can't do this anymore...that she wants nothing to do with him or me or anyone who reminds her of them...she said she is walking away and doesn't want anything to do with me anymore...because I lied and now her problems grew bigger because of it...she blocked me everywhere and said she is done..she's sorry it was a mistake for us to even try and be together...it's been 3 days now since we last spoken to each other....I want to contact her I know a way to contact her but I don't think she will reply and I'm not sure what to say...I apologized already before she blocked me....her only response was Hey I'm seriously done im walking away from all of this understand me and I wish you the best....please help I really liked this girl and I know she liked me too..it was never my plan to fall for her..it just happened.....what can I and should I do? Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted October 15, 2020 Share Posted October 15, 2020 What can you do? Her EX is probably threatening to take away her daughter. He probably can't but to her you are not worth the hassle of having that fight. I think you & this woman trauma bonded over the loss of your EXs who are with each other. I get the attraction but in the end it will probably be confusing for the kids. Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted October 15, 2020 Share Posted October 15, 2020 Sorry to hear that. Unfortunately she's done It's good it's over. Using each other or your kids to spy on the exes is unhealthy as hell. Someone had to pull the plug on that, so be glad she did In the meantime focus on good co-parenting, being a good dad and role model and adjusting to being a single parent. Link to post Share on other sites
kendahke Posted October 15, 2020 Share Posted October 15, 2020 (edited) 13 hours ago, Junior05 said: what can I and should I do? Let her go... you are both each other's rebound relationship and this wasn't ever going to work out---it's just way too messy dating each other's exes right on the heels of breaking up with them. She and him may get back together and your ex may come sniffing in behind you in a few weeks---everyone is a rebound in this scenario and it's just way too sloppy. Edited October 15, 2020 by kendahke Link to post Share on other sites
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