Dan Shan Posted October 20, 2020 Share Posted October 20, 2020 Hey everyone, I’m currently trying to find out how one could make the lives of people who broke up with their ex a lot easier Which is why I have two very simple questions: 1. As someone who broke up with their partner, what are the 2 biggest issues you’re dealing with? 2. Regarding the breakup, what would you wish for more than anything else? Thanks so much in advance - looking forward to reading your answers! Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted October 20, 2020 Share Posted October 20, 2020 What are you actually trying to ask? Is this a homework project? Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted October 20, 2020 Share Posted October 20, 2020 5 hours ago, Dan Shan said: Hey everyone, I’m currently trying to find out how one could make the lives of people who broke up with their ex a lot easier  1. As someone who broke up with their partner, what are the 2 biggest issues you’re dealing with? 2. Regarding the breakup, what would you wish for more than anything else?  Break ups are never easy. There is always pain and anxiety around change.   About the only way to make them even slightly easier & that is to try to be civil, no yelling, & some concern for the other's feelings while still moving forward with the separation.  When I was the dumper I suppose the 3 biggest issues I had were 1). could I have done more to prevent the break up? 2). sort of buyer's remorse / dumper's remorse -- did I do the right thing? and 3). when will the pain stop? I guess I always wished that the pain would lessen.  Link to post Share on other sites
Miss Spider Posted October 22, 2020 Share Posted October 22, 2020 1. Guilt would be the number for me. It’s awful to hurt someone you care about. Tied into that, the second thing is missing aspects about them. You can care for someone a lot but not be “in love” with them. 2. That they understand why and have no bad feelings towards me. And of course that they find happiness ASAP Link to post Share on other sites
twinklecat Posted October 26, 2020 Share Posted October 26, 2020 (edited) 2 weeks out and I have remorse with my brain asking if I made the right decision. I also feel terribly guilty. I miss the old him a lot too. Hes not the same person now (one of the reasons I ended it) I've never ended a relationship before and I always expected the dumper to be totally fine but from my experience, I'm not fine. It's going to take a lot of healing. Edited October 26, 2020 by twinklecat Link to post Share on other sites
robaday Posted November 23, 2020 Share Posted November 23, 2020 1. As someone who broke up with their partner, what are the 2 biggest issues you’re dealing with? That she had actually respected my dealbreakers which I repeatedly reminded her of but she broke (losing her temper) 2. Regarding the breakup, what would you wish for more than anything else? That her apologies after the fact had been before the breakup so I could have given it more time Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted November 23, 2020 Share Posted November 23, 2020 4 minutes ago, robaday said:  That she had actually respected my dealbreakers which I repeatedly reminded her of It's your responsibility to not date people who have red flags 🚩 and deal breakers. It's not your responsibility to fix or change anyone. Dating is not social work or parenting/ reprimanding someone. If you resort to that it means you're with the wrong person. Link to post Share on other sites
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