Aum Posted October 20, 2020 Share Posted October 20, 2020 So I will start here, it's been a month since he dumped me for that Irish girl he meet last September 2020 in Edinburgh. I'm from the Philippines 23 and my ex is from Scotland 22. Our relationship lasted for 2 years and half and we already seen each other in person for three times. I'm completely shattered and my heart still broken. He was my first love and our memories together is never gonna leave me. I don't deny the fact that we argued like almost a week before but no cheating is involved just a small misunderstanding. Last argument we had was last month and I was expecting so much that we are still getting back together not knowing that he's already seeing someone else and sleeping together. That girl just moved from Ireland to Scotland for the University. I found out everything when I tried to contact him after our split up and that time he sent me a selfie of him and that girl. One of the reason why I still can't get over with him is that he was my first love and it just too hard to accept that he's no longer part of my life. I hated the part when he told me that he can't take the LDR anymore and its gonna cost so much stress for him while he's taking his course and job. That he needed to focus on his life. That was all his reason why he broke up me. He even told me to wait after a year then I'll contact you again. Like do I look like a toy from him and just gonna leave me when he's no longer interested and comeback to play when he's boring. He's an absolute c***. And I just found out from one of his family that they're actually living together now. I asked him 10 times if what's the real status between him and that girl and he keep telling lies that she's just a stranger and came down to his place to picked up the weeds. Well he blocked me on everything now. His whole family are just like him, I tried to asked them if what's really happening but I don't receive any messages back they're just ignoring me. If only he's being his honest with me maybe we could have a proper closure. Plus the girl he replaced me is a 1st year nursing student who smoke weeds, like to party and like to dress like a hoe, she even got an earrings in her nipples. My ex is just too nice to be with her. I was hoping at least he can find someone decent and innocent not a wild girl. For that 2 years and half I knew he loves me. - Sorry for the long topic x Can you give me some advice on how to get over with your exes. Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted October 20, 2020 Share Posted October 20, 2020 Sorry to hear that. LDRs are difficult, be glad it's over. Block and delete him and all his people from all your social media and messaging apps. Date local guys. Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted October 20, 2020 Share Posted October 20, 2020 1 hour ago, Aum said: Plus the girl he replaced me is a 1st year nursing student who smoke weeds, like to party and like to dress like a hoe, she even got an earrings in her nipples. My ex is just too nice to be with her No, apparently he isn't. It hurts, but he obviously likes her style and personality or he wouldn't be with her now. Your relationship was unfortunately too long-distance to sustain, especially when you're both this young and rarely see each other in person. It didn't have the foundation to carry on. You'll let go by cutting all ties. Don't message his family anymore; it's not appropriate and their loyalty will naturally be with him, not you. Delete him from everywhere and you can begin the process of healing. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
mark clemson Posted October 20, 2020 Share Posted October 20, 2020 (edited) 5 hours ago, Aum said: Can you give me some advice on how to get over with your exes. - Realize that this probably started at least several months before you found out, so, unlike you, he had time to prepare emotionally for the breakup - Take some time to emotionally heal; as much as you need, but six months is something some of the folks around here tend to indicate works for them - Once you feel emotionally healed, it will be time to move on - IF it was me, I would question why a LDR "works" for you. Is there some difficulty with maintaining close and in person relationships for you? If so, consider a therapist. Perhaps you feel that's not needed - but consider: while ALL relationships are subject to the risk of cheating/monkeybranching, it's certainly easier for that to occur in a LDR situation. So, why expose yourself to more risk if you could have a close relationship instead? Hence therepist, IF you feel it's necessary. GL... Edited October 20, 2020 by mark clemson Link to post Share on other sites
kendahke Posted October 21, 2020 Share Posted October 21, 2020 (edited) He sounds like he's not cut out for LDR's. Also, this chick couldn't have gotten nearly as far with him as she has without his express permission, so she and her looks are not the problem: your boyfriend is. Clearly this chick is exactly his speed... and if she was a girl whose looks you approved of, would that make getting unceremoniously dumped any better for you? I seriously doubt it. His family is doing the right thing: this isn't their business--this is between you and this guy; and blood is thicker than water. Of course they're going to back him up and circle the wagons with you on the outside. Your best bet is to get your own closure with yourself, cry this out of your system and move on with a guy who lives near you. Edited October 21, 2020 by kendahke 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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