Confusedcupcakegirl Posted October 20, 2020 Share Posted October 20, 2020 (edited) This will be our first time meeting. I really want to meet him. I love him so much. Everything else is okay. But there’s a problem. I’m afraid I won’t get to pick him up at the airport. One reason is he’ll probably be landing late and the other reason is I share a car with my mom and she thinks he should get transportation to the hotel. I’m afraid he’ll get mad if I can’t. The reason why I care is because it’s not just my car it’s hers also so I don’t have all the say in it. Everything else is fine but that. I just don’t want that to stop us from seeing each other. I’d hate for him to come here and not want to meet me because of that. He’s coming here for me. She doesn’t like him so much already so I think that’s why she’s being like that. I just don’t want this one thing to stop us from being together. He’s buying plane tickets this week. I’d hate for him to buy them and not be able to see me that would tear me up. What can I do? I do agree if it’s wee hours in the morning that he should get transportation because I’m not alert at all when I’m tired but if it’s not too late then I don’t know why she thinks I shouldn’t be there. Edited March 12, 2021 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted October 20, 2020 Share Posted October 20, 2020 1 minute ago, Confusedcupcakegirl said: This will be our first time meeting. I share a car with my mom and she thinks he should get transportation to the hotel. Never let a stranger in your car. He can take a million different types of transportation to his hotel. Also do not go up to his room or ask him to your home. Find paces to go and things to do. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
FMW Posted October 20, 2020 Share Posted October 20, 2020 Just tell him you would love to be able to pick him up, but you can't. Make sure and make the time to spend plenty of time with him while he's there, but I don't think picking him up at the airport should be a big deal. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Confusedcupcakegirl Posted October 20, 2020 Author Share Posted October 20, 2020 5 minutes ago, FMW said: Just tell him you would love to be able to pick him up, but you can't. Make sure and make the time to spend plenty of time with him while he's there, but I don't think picking him up at the airport should be a big deal. I’m afraid he’ll get mad and not meet me then Link to post Share on other sites
Author Confusedcupcakegirl Posted October 20, 2020 Author Share Posted October 20, 2020 10 minutes ago, Wiseman2 said: Never let a stranger in your car. He can take a million different types of transportation to his hotel. Also do not go up to his room or ask him to your home. Find paces to go and things to do. Are they expensive? I’m afraid he’ll get mad about that Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted October 20, 2020 Share Posted October 20, 2020 (edited) 4 minutes ago, Confusedcupcakegirl said: I’m afraid he’ll get mad and not meet me then You should be afraid of him. How far away is he? How long have you been communicating? Why did he suddenly decide to meet? Do Not Let A Complete Stranger In your Car. He's manipulating you if you're "afraid" and think he can fly to your country but can't afford an airport shuttle. Stop Nagging your Mother to give you Her car. Stop. She's right. Edited October 20, 2020 by Wiseman2 Link to post Share on other sites
Happy Lemming Posted October 20, 2020 Share Posted October 20, 2020 15 minutes ago, Confusedcupcakegirl said: What can I do? You could rent a car for a week (or for however long he is in town)? I've done weekly or monthly rentals of vehicles (when needed). I think Enterprise was the company I used, if memory serves. Or you could send an UBER/Lyft to pick him up from the airport (if your airport allows Uber/Lyft) I know there is some controversy about one of those services picking people up at airports. Link to post Share on other sites
FMW Posted October 20, 2020 Share Posted October 20, 2020 4 minutes ago, Confusedcupcakegirl said: I’m afraid he’ll get mad and not meet me then Then he's not worth your time or energy. I know you are really interested in the guy, but there truly are lots of other guys out there. Don't be in a rush and lower your standards or bend over backwards to avoid making him unhappy. Arranging his own transportation is not at all unreasonable. No responsible adult is going to fly to a strange city and expect someone else to take care of them. 1 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Happy Lemming Posted October 20, 2020 Share Posted October 20, 2020 Also the hotel (he is staying at) might have a shuttle... I'd look into that, as well. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Confusedcupcakegirl Posted October 20, 2020 Author Share Posted October 20, 2020 7 minutes ago, Wiseman2 said: You should be afraid of him. How far away is he? How long have you been communicating? Why did he suddenly decide to meet? Do Not Let A Complete Stranger In your Car. He's manipulating you if you're "afraid" and think he can fly to your country but can't afford an airport shuttle. Stop Nagging your Mother to give you Her car. Stop. She's right. 6 months. 3,000 miles Link to post Share on other sites
Author Confusedcupcakegirl Posted October 20, 2020 Author Share Posted October 20, 2020 5 minutes ago, Happy Lemming said: You could rent a car for a week (or for however long he is in town)? I've done weekly or monthly rentals of vehicles (when needed). I think Enterprise was the company I used, if memory serves. Or you could send an UBER/Lyft to pick him up from the airport (if your airport allows Uber/Lyft) I know there is some controversy about one of those services picking people up at airports. He makes more money than I do every week. He makes almost a thousand a week sometimes over Link to post Share on other sites
Happy Lemming Posted October 20, 2020 Share Posted October 20, 2020 Just now, Confusedcupcakegirl said: He makes more money than I do every week. He makes almost a thousand a week sometimes over Dating costs money... period (for both people). He is flying in to see you. You renting a car and showing him the sights of your locale would be very nice. Think of it as an investment into your future, plus won't it be fun to drive a nice car that isn't controlled by your mother. You might even be able to get "unlimited mileage" and could take a nice drive to the country, surrounding cities, etc. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Confusedcupcakegirl Posted October 20, 2020 Author Share Posted October 20, 2020 Just now, Happy Lemming said: Dating costs money... period (for both people). He is flying in to see you. You renting a car and showing him the sights of your locale would be very nice. Think of it as an investment into your future, plus won't it be fun to drive a nice car that isn't controlled by your mother. You might even be able to get "unlimited mileage" and could take a nice drive to the country, surrounding cities, etc. I would if I had the money but I recently spent it on stuff for my health because I have a medical issue. That’s why I don’t have as much money right now Link to post Share on other sites
Happy Lemming Posted October 20, 2020 Share Posted October 20, 2020 Just now, Confusedcupcakegirl said: I would if I had the money but I recently spent it on stuff for my health because I have a medical issue. That’s why I don’t have as much money right now Credit card?? Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted October 20, 2020 Share Posted October 20, 2020 (edited) 1 hour ago, Confusedcupcakegirl said: This will be our first time meeting. I really want to meet him. I love him so much. No you don't love him. You have never met him. You may have been talking for 6 months but since you have never met he is a stranger. You have silly girlish notions about love in your head. All that is sweet & wonderful but IT'S NOT REAL! He's coming from a foreign country on an airplane. Are you two not aware that there is a global pandemic going on? If this man has any sense whatsoever he will quarantine in his hotel to make sure he didn't get infected in route to you. I hope your country at least requires a negative covid test before he gets on that plane. You are insane to rush into his waiting possibly infected arms. You should both get tested before you go near each other. If your mother won't give you the car because she doesn't want you driving while tired, you need to listen to her. But that is easily overcome. You just take a nap that day before he gets there. Viola you should be a awake & alert when he arrives. I'm sure her concerns run much deeper then your driving abilities. 52 minutes ago, Confusedcupcakegirl said: I’m afraid he’ll get mad and not meet me then If he gets mad because you won't do something unsafe, then you are better off without him. Geeesh. Yes, it would be gracious for you to pick him up since he flew 3,000 miles for you but it sounds to me that your mother is also concerned about what will happen to her naive daughter alone in a hotel with a man she doesn't know. Google the late Kobe Bryant & then think long & hard about how easy it will be for you to get carried away & fall into bed with some stranger because you think you love him or worse, if he's a bad guy & tries to force you. Then what? It's late at night. He'll probably offer you a drink. You have no money. Recipe for disaster. 48 minutes ago, Confusedcupcakegirl said: Are they expensive? I’m afraid he’ll get mad about that Ground transportation options vary in price from cheap: free shuttle, public bus or train; to moderate taxi or ride share; to lavish: private stretch limo. Yes the whirlwind romance of it all is making you giddy but use some common sense. Edited October 20, 2020 by d0nnivain Link to post Share on other sites
Author Confusedcupcakegirl Posted October 20, 2020 Author Share Posted October 20, 2020 I’m in an ldr relationship. We’ve been in talking for 6 months. We plan on meeting soon. He told me he poops himself because it turns him on and he likes to sit in it. I don’t know how to feel about this but I can’t help but be grossed out. I’m not trolling either. I’m literally being serious. I was shocked when he told me. I’m worried when we do meet I’ll get an infection from poop. I feel like I shouldn’t love him because of this and that I’m wrong for it. Everything is okay but the idea I’m with a guy that poops himself. People would frown upon that. Wouldn’t that look bad for me? I love him so much but this is a problem 😔he said he won’t do it anymore but I don’t know. Link to post Share on other sites
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted October 20, 2020 Share Posted October 20, 2020 1 hour ago, Confusedcupcakegirl said: I’m afraid he’ll get mad and not meet me then Then you'll know what kind of man he is. You don't want someone like that. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Happy Lemming Posted October 20, 2020 Share Posted October 20, 2020 5 minutes ago, Confusedcupcakegirl said: He told me he poops himself because it turns him on and he likes to sit in it. OK... based on this new information, I'd like to reverse my position on (you) renting a car during the time he is here, as you would be responsible for said "damage" to the rental car. I can't even imagine the cleaning fee for something like this. At this point, I'm out... I have no idea why anyone would "poop his pants and sit in" or why anyone would want to date someone who does this. This would be a "deal breaker" of the highest order for me. 2 1 Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted October 20, 2020 Share Posted October 20, 2020 (edited) I'd skip the meeting. I certainly wouldn't let him in my car nor would I share a bed with him. Not my thing in the slightest. Sadly I have to wonder if this 6 months of talking you have had was really catfishing & now this is his way of getting out of it. He said this to put you off so he doesn't have to spend money to fly 3,000 miles to meet you, assuming he's not just around the corner. All in all just cut him lose. Edited October 20, 2020 by d0nnivain 2 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Confusedcupcakegirl Posted October 20, 2020 Author Share Posted October 20, 2020 13 minutes ago, d0nnivain said: I'd skip the meeting. I certainly wouldn't let him in my car nor would I share a bed with him. Not my thing in the slightest. Sadly I have to wonder if this 6 months of talking you have had was really catfishing & now this is his way of getting out of it. He said this to put you off so he doesn't have to spend money to fly 3,000 miles to meet you, assuming he's not just around the corner. All in all just cut him lose. He said he was afraid to tell me at first. He told me a few months ago Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted October 20, 2020 Share Posted October 20, 2020 And you kept talking to him? Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted October 20, 2020 Share Posted October 20, 2020 No wonder your mother won't let you use the car to pick him up at the airport. 🤣💩 4 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Confusedcupcakegirl Posted October 20, 2020 Author Share Posted October 20, 2020 21 minutes ago, Wiseman2 said: No wonder your mother won't let you use the car to pick him up at the airport. 🤣💩 It’s not funny Link to post Share on other sites
FMW Posted October 20, 2020 Share Posted October 20, 2020 Well we either have to laugh or cringe and think WTF. That's what you should be doing. People have all kinds of fetishes, and that's cool as long as they don't hurt anyone and the partner is cool with it. That's clearly not the case here. At the risk of sounding really rude, this all makes you seem desperate. Please have higher standards. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Confusedcupcakegirl Posted October 20, 2020 Author Share Posted October 20, 2020 8 minutes ago, FMW said: Well we either have to laugh or cringe and think WTF. That's what you should be doing. People have all kinds of fetishes, and that's cool as long as they don't hurt anyone and the partner is cool with it. That's clearly not the case here. At the risk of sounding really rude, this all makes you seem desperate. Please have higher standards. I love him so much. I don’t know what to do Link to post Share on other sites
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