Blind-Sided Posted December 14, 2020 Share Posted December 14, 2020 Too vague of a question. What I would suggest for the regret of eating a box of candy would be totally different than the regret of robbing a bank Link to post Share on other sites
Author Confusedcupcakegirl Posted December 14, 2020 Author Share Posted December 14, 2020 9 minutes ago, smackie9 said: Regret sleeping with some bozo off a dating app? eating too much? getting drunk? regret what? Sleeping with a guy Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted December 14, 2020 Share Posted December 14, 2020 Forgive yourself as a start. It was something you did. Now you regret it so learn from it. Think about what caused you to say yes & avoid similar pressures in the future. For now in the short term, redirect your energy. Go for a walk. Clean your house. Call a friend. Try good self talk too. Remind yourself that you can't change what happened so there is no use dwelling on it. Giving him rent free space in your head is not helping. If you are still seeing him really think long & hard about whether you want to continue. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Confusedcupcakegirl Posted December 24, 2020 Author Share Posted December 24, 2020 Something happened last month that changed me. A really bad experience. I don’t know what to think or do now. I want to be happy again but I don’t know if I can be now. It was so traumatizing. I feel sick thinking about it. I just can’t shake it. How can I help myself? Please anything is appreciated Link to post Share on other sites
Foxhall Posted December 24, 2020 Share Posted December 24, 2020 Usually reaching out and getting the support of a close friend (I know not everyone is lucky enough to have one) is the best therapy when you are feeling sad. someone on your side to hear your story can boost your morale. take a chance and reach out to your family or contacts. Link to post Share on other sites
Beachead Posted December 25, 2020 Share Posted December 25, 2020 (edited) Hey, If you feel this way and you don't share it, it can manifest itself inside you in ways that may ultimately harm you and your life. You've got to talk about it with someone that you trust. Can be a therapist or a friend or family member. But sometimes, I've found, sharing with a complete stranger can be far more helpful, as you won't have to worry so much about how it might affect their view of you, or the connected relationships. So, perhaps talking about it here on this thread or with someone here privately may be helpful. Hearing a perspective that comes from someone other than yourself in general can help bring you perspective about it. Even just them listening to you while you let it out, can make the difference. Can take the weight of it off of you. Don't live in your own head - Beach Edited December 25, 2020 by Beachead 1 Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted December 25, 2020 Share Posted December 25, 2020 (edited) On 12/24/2020 at 2:23 PM, Confusedcupcakegirl said: Something happened last month that changed me. A really bad experience. I don’t know what to think or do now. I want to be happy again but I don’t know if I can be now. It was so traumatizing. I feel sick thinking about it. I just can’t shake it. How can I help myself? Please anything is appreciated We are here for you. Edited January 7, 2021 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Removed personal message. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Confusedcupcakegirl Posted January 7, 2021 Author Share Posted January 7, 2021 He tells me things happened at certain dates. Then I ask other people and they say something different. He tried to minimize things he does. I’m kind of worried. I would say more but I’m afraid he’ll stumble across this Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted January 7, 2021 Share Posted January 7, 2021 Your post is too vague to comment on, OP. What sort of things is he minimizing? You need to add some further details if you hope for constructive feedback. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Versacehottie Posted January 7, 2021 Share Posted January 7, 2021 Your post is too vague to comment on. What types of lies, what type of minimizing, what type of monitoring are you doing? Details will help & you can provide them in a way that won't show who it's about. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted January 7, 2021 Share Posted January 7, 2021 Confusedcupcakegirl you'd be surprised how many stories just like yours have already been written on here. Just don't use name. Link to post Share on other sites
smackie9 Posted January 7, 2021 Share Posted January 7, 2021 And why are you posting about it? The obvious thing to do is to not associate with someone like that. No brainer. 2 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Confusedcupcakegirl Posted January 7, 2021 Author Share Posted January 7, 2021 17 minutes ago, Versacehottie said: Your post is too vague to comment on. What types of lies, what type of minimizing, what type of monitoring are you doing? Details will help & you can provide them in a way that won't show who it's about. I talked to his ex and the dates about when he said things happened don’t add up. And she knew how long we’d been talking but she said she doesn’t talk to him anymore Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted January 7, 2021 Share Posted January 7, 2021 So he told you he was single and as per his ex...he was not single at that certain date? Link to post Share on other sites
FMW Posted January 7, 2021 Share Posted January 7, 2021 If the only disparities have been between what he's told you and what his ex told you (why are talking to her anyway?), she could be the one not being truthful. If there are other people with different versions of what he's told you, then it's reasonable to believe he is the one lying. But obviously you don't trust him, whatever the case. So stop seeing him. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Confusedcupcakegirl Posted January 7, 2021 Author Share Posted January 7, 2021 22 minutes ago, Gaeta said: So he told you he was single and as per his ex...he was not single at that certain date? Yeah something like that. It’s just all really confusing and I don’t know what to think right now Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted January 7, 2021 Share Posted January 7, 2021 1 hour ago, Confusedcupcakegirl said: I talked to his ex and the dates about when he said things happened don’t add up. And she knew how long we’d been talking but she said she doesn’t talk to him anymore Meaning he was passing himself off as single (to you) when he really wasn't? What led you to reach out to his ex about this? Some context about your relationship would be helpful. Link to post Share on other sites
Cookiesandough Posted January 7, 2021 Share Posted January 7, 2021 Uh if this is anything about the subject of your last threads I think you should block and delete forever. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Interstellar Posted January 7, 2021 Share Posted January 7, 2021 Sounds like your gut is telling you something. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
BaileyB Posted January 7, 2021 Share Posted January 7, 2021 13 minutes ago, Interstellar said: Sounds like your gut is telling you something. Yup! It’s telling you this guy is not trustworthy. Ignore that to your own peril. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
BaileyB Posted January 7, 2021 Share Posted January 7, 2021 25 minutes ago, Shortskirtslonglashes said: Uh if this is anything about the subject of your last threads I think you should block and delete forever. Yes, those posts are very concerning. Please be safe OP. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
ShyViolet Posted January 7, 2021 Share Posted January 7, 2021 Just trust your instincts and don't associate with a guy that your gut is telling you is being dishonest. Nothing good can come of this. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Confusedcupcakegirl Posted January 7, 2021 Author Share Posted January 7, 2021 2 hours ago, Shortskirtslonglashes said: Uh if this is anything about the subject of your last threads I think you should block and delete forever. It’s the same person Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted January 7, 2021 Share Posted January 7, 2021 4 minutes ago, Confusedcupcakegirl said: It’s the same person Oh, man. This whole situation is so bad for your mental health, as evidenced by your other threads. Why haven't you cut him out of your life yet? 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Watercolors Posted January 7, 2021 Share Posted January 7, 2021 3 hours ago, Confusedcupcakegirl said: He tells me things happened at certain dates. Then I ask other people and they say something different. He tried to minimize things he does. I’m kind of worried. I would say more but I’m afraid he’ll stumble across this The guy you slept who creeped you out because of his fetishes? Then, I would encourage you to seek a virtual therapist right now to help you sort out why you allow yourself to get involved with these types of people. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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